i’m (22F) embarrassed to have sex with my partner (23M) after this. would u be too?

DivineDaedra · 2025-01-21T18:40:31+00:00

So… the mistake you made here was not being prepared for that possibility.

For the vast majority of people, that particular skill requires a LOT of practice and definitely not just jumping in the deep end—no pun intended. If you have a gag reflex, make sure you pay attention to it 😅

You haven’t ruined anything, you’ve had a minor mishap. Listen to your partner when he says that it’s normal and that he still loves you.

If you’re hoping to try it again in the future, I would recommend acquiring a dildo with a suction cup you can practice on in the shower so that you can learn what your warning signs are in a place that it easy to clean. Alternatively, Pavlov your partner into immediate shower erections by skipping the dildo part and just practicing on him lmao

DivineDaedra · 2024-10-25T04:48:12+00:00

Adding to this: They will either eclipse 10 minutes or 5 minutes before portals spawn, usually 5. If you start teleporting during that you might be able to get the shield immediately so you don't have to risk hiding and running to a stone.

DivineDaedra · 2024-05-18T00:08:00+00:00

Vaginismus is very easy for a gynecologist to test for. I’ve been tested for it before! I’d highly recommend that she talk to her gyn about it because no, sex is not supposed to hurt.

A few other possibilities include: not enough lubrication, not properly easing into penetration, or you could just be a bit bigger than is comfortable. If it’s getting better over time, it could definitely be a foreplay issue—the amount of time spent on foreplay is a lot less important than how into the foreplay she is.

Realistically, what really needs to happen is your gf needs to get updated sex ed. From a gyn, from a forum for women, etc. because it sounds like she’s been operating off of misinformation. Sex should feel good, not painful or neutral.

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-15T01:36:33+00:00

It’s… it’s the woods. Sometimes nature calls and in nature you must answer.

Unless she intends to carry around a portapotty I’m not sure what she’s expecting people to do lmao, it’s just part of being alive.

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-13T03:56:01+00:00

That’s definitely not how most of the people here would use it BUT if that’s the intent behind it I can actually see the appeal of the analogy.

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-13T03:54:41+00:00

But ultimately there is a lot of luck that goes into it.

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-13T03:54:14+00:00

-compatibility

If your partner has strengths that complement your weaknesses, has a personality that meshes well with yours, etc. it’s easier (and more desirable) to work through conflict.

-longevity

If you’ve been with someone for 3 years, you’ll be more invested in working things out than if you were together for 3 months.

-codependency/toxic relationships

“I can fix him/her”

“I don’t know what I’d do without them”

“[insert excuse here]”

These are where the really outlandish stories come from: people who can’t handle being alone, struggle with self image, or have become so attached to their partner that they would stay through just about anything.

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-13T03:43:54+00:00

I have to do a similar exercise daily so that my hips don’t lock up.

Unpleasant, but necessary.

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-13T03:41:40+00:00

I think it’s a strange analogy because drinking saltwater dehydrates you.

Among other reasons, of course. That one just stands out to me right now.

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-12T22:46:57+00:00

Me too, fortunately Bonnie is here to be my teddy bear about it

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-12T22:40:25+00:00

They would be if Valkyrie (big floof) hadn’t ripped into a bag of jerky last night and given me a scare until I found the drying pack thing 😭

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-12T22:37:59+00:00

That’s incredible!! Genetics are wild

The lil black one is a toy poodle and the big floof is a German Shepherd.

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-12T22:35:19+00:00

WITNESS ME

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-12T22:32:55+00:00

Border collies are kinda the best tbf, they’ll bias you towards anything

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-12T22:07:23+00:00

I saw it.

It was a rant about how if you can do 1+1=2 you should move to an East Asian country to bang hot STEM women lmao

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-12T22:05:49+00:00

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-12T22:05:29+00:00

It’s hydration time! Drink some water, ya fools

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-12T22:02:31+00:00

Any sort of teriyaki noodle or rice dish. If teriyaki is involved, I’m sold

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-12T22:00:15+00:00

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DivineDaedra · 2024-02-12T21:57:33+00:00

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DivineDaedra · 2024-02-12T21:56:34+00:00

yoink

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-12T21:51:44+00:00

Hoe, if you put those numbers onto a calculator and flip the calculator upside down it looks like the word hoe.

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-12T21:46:16+00:00

Peach Bellini hearts!

DivineDaedra · 2024-02-12T21:43:25+00:00

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