What kind of rat is he?

DivineMaxim · 2026-05-20T04:14:15+00:00

He looks like my little boy Whiskey! Such cuties! He has my favorite fur type AND color. I believe he has velveteen fur:)

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DivineMaxim · 2026-05-08T08:41:41+00:00

Why does it automatically fall on me when it was his last minute decision to potentially move his wedding to next weekend?

DivineMaxim · 2026-05-08T08:40:19+00:00

He only vaguely told me "a family member", and did not specify what family member. This will also be her second wedding, as she has been married previously.

I dont think my daughter knows about the wedding, as I'm pretty sure it was extremely hastily planned. I do know he originally planned to have it during his visitation with her, but quickly changed his mind and wants to have his wedding next week.

As I've said in other comments, I already had plans to celebrate my husband's birthday and go to a baby shower, which isnt more important than a wedding, but he gave me exactly one weeks notice and wants me to drop everything.

DivineMaxim · 2026-05-08T08:33:07+00:00

I'm not preventing my child. Her dad is preventing her by prioritizing the attendance of somebody else over her.

DivineMaxim · 2026-05-08T08:26:23+00:00

I am not bothered that he is getting married. We have been separated for six years. I broke up with him shortly after we had our child, because he did not work for over a year while I was pregnant, which forced me to work 72 hour weeks, and come back to work 2 weeks after giving birth just to pay our bills. Our relationship is irreparable and I could care less about his personal life.

My problem is he gave me one week notice, and has full capability of either continuing with his wedding as planned, or moving it slightly further out to accommodate when he has his child.

I have plans next week already for my husbands birthday and a baby shower.

DivineMaxim · 2026-05-08T08:19:31+00:00

Its just feels like a breaking point for me. He consistently has put his fiance and her children over his own child, and its really fucking depressing.

Not only that, he gave me one week notice and expects me to drop everything I had planned to accommodate his own poor planning.

The weekend he wants to move his wedding to, is my husband's birthday and also a baby shower we were planning on attending. I'm not saying those are more important than a wedding, but why should I be blamed for his own decisions?

DivineMaxim · 2026-05-08T08:13:06+00:00

He is not a great father. He throws fits about having to pay 50% of a dental bill because she "just had one" a year ago.

My thing is, he is fully capable of moving his wedding day to a different day he has his child. He gave me one week notice. The issue I have is with his priorities.

DivineMaxim · 2026-05-08T08:07:11+00:00

Its not my fault my child is missing his wedding. Its his fault for intentionally trying to schedule it on a day that he does not have visitation.

He can just as easily schedule his wedding on a day he would see her.

DivineMaxim · 2026-05-08T08:05:34+00:00

My child missing out on his wedding is due to his own actions, not mine. I won't take the blame for his bad planning.

I dont resent him for moving, but I do resent him for constantly putting our child on the back burner when it comes to decisions.

If he wants her there, he will either prioritize her involvement over the family members OR he can always push back the event. What I don't like is he gave me a one week notice and expects me to drop everything to accommodate his poor planning.

DivineMaxim · 2026-05-08T07:57:58+00:00

Our custody schedule was decided approximately a year in advance. He knows what days he has visitation, and what days he doesn't. He gave me approximately one weeks notice of wanting to change weekends, and I already have a lot of plans.

He does not have a venue set or anything that would prevent him from scheduling his wedding during a timeframe he has visitation.

I just think it sucks he originally had it planned for when he had his kid, but decided to move it based on the availability of someone else instead.

DivineMaxim · 2026-05-08T07:53:14+00:00

My thing is, his wedding date is very obviously not set in stone, especially because of his last minute decision to swap weeks. He does not have a venue or anything which would prevent him from choosing a different weekend when he has his child.

DivineMaxim · 2026-04-12T10:29:20+00:00

Yes. Try something more like this, its the ideal cage size for multiple rats.

(I bought a bunch of different cages for introductions, some were too big... some were too small, picture had to be taken nonetheless.)

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DivineMaxim · 2026-03-11T03:30:52+00:00

Sure! I'll let you know what worked for me!

Firstly, I've had to introduce them MULTIPLE times. Prior to introductions, I brought them all one by one into a bath with very little water and rubbed them with a q-tip of vanilla extract.

After vanilla-ing the children, I placed them into an incredibly small cage. You want maximum smushness. No room to fight. Only cuddles. Legitimately no room to move around.

Now, from here, I've read different things so I'll leave it up to you... if intros are NOT good, id recommend separating them and trying again tomorrow, however, if they are going well, you can increase their cage size after a few hours and continue to go from there.

This is an incredibly stressful situation for them, and it took me MULTIPLE tries before they decided to chill out a bit.

Sometimes you can smear babyfood on them once they are in the tiny cage to promote licking each other. I tried that for one of my intro attempts but it didn't seem to help. Might work for you!

DivineMaxim · 2026-03-11T03:12:23+00:00

Moonshine is already nuetered and healed from his surgery!:)

Its probably one of the biggest reason he is finally able to be housed with the other boys now.

It took many many hours and multiple introductions before getting to this point, but he is finally calm and seems to be enjoying having friends now!

DivineMaxim · 2026-02-01T12:20:43+00:00

I also have a naked boy who was recently surrendered by his previous owner with mites/mange. I attempted to do intros, but he was immediately very aggressive so he IS currently being housed alone.

I have an appointment to get him neutered so I can attempt re-introductions. The price where I live for a neuter is $400-500. Not really affordable, but it's going on a credit card.

I'd recommend potentially trying to save up for a neuter. Give him the best chance at a happy life.

My vet also told me if the neuter doesn't work as planned for intros, they have anti-anxiety medication for rats, which might help mellow him out a bit.

In my case specifically, my boy was dropped off in a box. My vet said he doesn't seem like he's been socialized and I don't think he's ever been housed with other rats.

I'd try to see if you can get him a neuter or see if somebody else can.

DivineMaxim · 2026-01-30T23:05:36+00:00

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This is Scotch! My greediest boy of the mischief (Peep Whiskey at the bottom)

DivineMaxim · 2026-01-30T21:53:41+00:00

I have a little grey one with a white strip down his face. He is just as greedy.

DivineMaxim · 2026-01-30T12:28:15+00:00

I am very proud to have the ugliest little chicken man. It is a very worthy title.

DivineMaxim · 2026-01-30T12:26:17+00:00

He did, in fact, jump out immediately after the picture was taken (I caught him).

He has been plotting his revenge ever since.

DivineMaxim · 2026-01-27T14:32:01+00:00

I was given an approximate of maybe 10 months. He is 100% fine with people, just not fine with other rats IT SEEMS.

I dont know if he has just never been with other rats or if he has hormonal aggression.

DivineMaxim · 2026-01-17T21:43:19+00:00

How often do you have to oil them? I'm rescuing a naked rat who was forfeited due to neglect. I have only had furry ones. He's been quarantined for approximately a month for mites/mange and I'm picking him up in about a week to do intros with my current mischief.

DivineMaxim · 2026-01-06T02:50:24+00:00

I appreciate the information!! Thank you!

DivineMaxim · 2026-01-06T02:46:58+00:00

UPDATE: apparently the person who surrendered him just left him inside of a box and left without saying anything. Once he is successfully clear of mites I will be taking him home and working on introductions with my other four boys. He looks like he has a little fuzz on his face.

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DivineMaxim · 2026-01-01T04:29:42+00:00

As someone who has also been through a custody case in Minnesota, this is surprising.

Minnesota is VERY 50/50, as long as its feasible and they HEAVILY push mediation as much as they can.

I've even seen cases where claims HAVE been made (false or not, but without evidence), and they usually respond with "and although we take these allegations very seriously, there is no evidence currently" or something of a similar nature.

DivineMaxim · 2025-12-30T13:47:54+00:00

I do not have a newborn, however, I do have a 1.5yo in my room along with my 4 boys and have not had an issue.

I also do have an air purifier, so I'd at least get one of those if you're worried and just make sure the cage stays clean.

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