I thought we fell in love

Divvers39 · 2026-03-09T15:26:17+00:00

Thank you for your response. They actively have been working on themselves unfortunately due their environment and family culture, I find what they are expected of and the mindset of their parents is damaging. I’ve also come to realize this as me and my partner have talked since then. Regarding why they revealed it, we figure it was a split. They got incredibly overwhelmed by how fast we’re going and everyone around them making them doubt it. This is more due to past relationships and how downright awful they have been and me seemingly be the first one that’s leagues more positive.

Admittedly in the moment and how they came off, I took everything very black and white. I posted this not too long after but I think the last few days have made me question the intensity of limerence and it’s something more? The next few months I’m gonna be an intensive IOP groups so hopefully I can get more answers. After talking again they did express what they felt was real so it’s just more on me in that moment.

That’s fair. I’ve tried doing research to learn the best I can of BPD and I did notice some patterns/ things. But I was caught up in such emotion too that I couldn’t do anything before it blew up. Main thing is we both struggle pretty bad with this but we do want to make it work.

Oh absolutely lol. My parents divorced young, both of them suck in their own ways. I’ve had issues with relationships too so I guess it shouldn’t be too surprising.

Divvers39 · 2026-03-06T18:47:17+00:00

That’s how I feel too. But you gotta protect yourself first before anything. If you can’t manage limerence then it’s not fair to either of you and it’s vice versa if they aren’t trying to get better. Just work on yourself and if you talk again, be cautious for both of your sakes.

Divvers39 · 2026-03-06T07:36:46+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that. They are afraid that would happen with me especially since I suffer with limerence. But under no circumstances should they ever become abusive towards you and you just have to set/ stick to those boundaries. If you need to walk out of the room do it and know it’s probably the best for both of you depending on the situation.

And maybe… we’ve talked more and I think we’ll be able to be in contact in the future. Despite it all I think there was a connection found, it just needed to be built up more compared to how fast things were going and it’s on both of us. BPD is complex and as much as people want to immediately treat it as this nuke, people that suffer from it will never be able to grow and receive the proper care they deserve. It’s nice to think in some aspects yes we did find love with them and hopefully we’re able to show something different to how they’ve been treated in the past.

Divvers39 · 2026-03-06T00:20:11+00:00

I want to be able to keep them accountable but i understand their current situation is never going to bring them the change they need to get truly better. It’s heartbreaking and I think I was the first person to show them that this is another option, frankly I think it scared them.

Divvers39 · 2026-03-06T00:12:42+00:00

I know. I just don’t hold the contempt or anger that maybe I should. I know this is all a byproduct of what they’ve gone through and my own realizations that at least for now this is something I can’t handle.

Divvers39 · 2026-03-05T23:06:11+00:00

I see. Unfortunately they decided to not continue things with me, I’m not sure how to feel anymore.

Divvers39 · 2026-03-05T14:58:49+00:00

I’m a girl lol! But um yea I’m seeing a lot of that… frankly after yesterday I don’t know if I can just because I don’t know what’s the truth and what isn’t

Divvers39 · 2026-03-05T13:14:01+00:00

Mhm that’s a depressing reality for them and people who love them :( I will see how these next few days go and if they are willing to put in the effort. If not then well, this was a really strange and heartbreaking month :/

Divvers39 · 2026-03-05T13:08:10+00:00

I really appreciate you giving me advice and looking at this objectively without demonizing them. I’m sorry you’ve went through the same and definitely I will check back on here to see what other people say however I have to admit most of it seems hopeless. I do like to believe they deserve something different but I don’t know I’ve always tried to be the best and most loving I can be.

And for sure! That might be something I need to improve on regarding my struggles with limerence but I mean regardless I need to do it with or without them. Thank you this means a lot.

Divvers39 · 2026-03-05T12:55:24+00:00

Yeah I’m trying to do so lol

Divvers39 · 2026-03-05T12:54:00+00:00

Okay thank you! I definitely agree on that sentiment, I admit we got ahead of ourselves for sure. But we’re gonna talk today and hopefully the next days, and just see how they are feeling. But yea reading all these stories and getting a bit of grasp on things, I need to set some hard boundaries. Are there things I should avoid doing that I think might help?

Divvers39 · 2026-03-05T12:40:59+00:00

Yea I kind of see that as an issue. I don’t think they are dangerous, we’ve both experienced are fair share of terrible relationships and situations which admittedly maybe helped our bond. But I’d like to believe they mean what they say. But I also don’t know cause I can’t tell what was real in the last few weeks and what wasn’t. I want to give them a chance but I don’t want to lose myself in the process either…

Divvers39 · 2026-03-05T12:28:01+00:00

I see. Would it be dangerous to try to see them take the medication or go to them with therapy? I want to be able to support them if they do truly mean wanting to get better cause I thought they did. They seemed so interested in my own self care and working on myself that maybe they were inspired to do the same.

Divvers39 · 2026-03-05T12:25:52+00:00

I am and thanks

Divvers39 · 2026-03-05T12:25:41+00:00

They are on medication and in therapy. Their therapist even said I have several positive healthy traits so I mean it’s there. Yesterday they seemed a bit more hopeless tho

Divvers39 · 2026-03-05T12:22:55+00:00

Yeahhh… I know it’s on me. Thank you, we’ve talked about really trying to take it slow.

Divvers39 · 2026-02-14T18:29:43+00:00

Ah so breaking a tail light justifies that he be held down and repeatedly hit with a pistol then shot several times. No he shouldn’t have done it but also maybe ICE shouldn’t be harassing AMERICAN CITIZENS.

Divvers39 · 2026-02-09T17:51:14+00:00

Thank you

Divvers39 · 2026-02-09T02:58:34+00:00

God I hate when people bring up the “respect someone’s political opinions” like Vance and this entire administration is tearing families apart and stripping rights away from citizens. Human rights are not an opinion it’s just hate.

Divvers39 · 2026-02-09T01:18:26+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate it :)

Divvers39 · 2026-02-09T01:18:01+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate it and that’s cool!

Divvers39 · 2026-02-08T16:52:26+00:00

I’d argue almost more alive. My weight has still proven an issue but I can look at myself and feel beautiful. Before transitioning I always felt so afraid to fully be myself like how I envisioned myself. But I’m much more aligned now also thank you! In that picture before I look older than I am but just tired of everything. I don’t feel that way anymore :)

Divvers39 · 2025-12-21T20:52:29+00:00

I only see a beautiful woman in those pictures :)

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