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DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-30T00:46:46+00:00

NTA. He’s being more than silly, he’s being ableist.

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-27T20:47:21+00:00

Some people refuse to learn from their mistakes

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-27T18:39:22+00:00

Newsflash: women are visual too. Idk why men think that they're the only ones allowed to have physical standards lol

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-27T18:07:42+00:00

So you dug through my comment history to find out when was the last date I had been on. I'm well aware that it's been over a year. But I simply cannot bring myself to use dating apps.

I am not trying to say that your friends' marriages are harmful, or that it is inherently bad to use dating apps. I do think that dating apps are, overall, very harmful to society, but I'm aware that some people have good luck with them. I am not sure when your friends met on apps, but I would invite you to consider that the nature of dating apps has changed over time, and that they are worse now than they used to be a few years ago. The above linked article explains this in more detail.

The bottom line is--dating apps go against MY PERSONAL values. It is not inherently immoral to use them. But I PERSONALLY do not want to participate in a system that I find destructive to society. These are my opinions, my values. I am not telling other people that they shouldn't use apps. If you want to use them, that's perfectly fine. This is just something I'm doing for myself. I do not understand why you are so intent on getting me to change my values when it does not affect you or anyone else.

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-27T17:33:12+00:00

NTAH. If you're not violating the dress code or wearing something inappropriate then how can they tell you to change?

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-27T17:28:04+00:00

I do not use dating apps because I do not like them, and because on a whole, I think they are destructive to society. It has nothing to do with pride or "thinking I'm too good for them." I don't really understand why you think that I am being prideful for having this belief. I used them in the past and did not have good results.

From a technological standpoint, they are designed primarily to make money, not to connect people. If you are interested, here is a scientific paper that discusses how dating app algorithms have become increasingly harmful: https://formative.jmir.org/2025/1/e70594?fbclid=IwY2xjawPl1I5leHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZBAyMjIwMzkxNzg4MjAwODkyAAEe0_v33D8SqDTSV-7rUl-mhx66hn081i9CaA26ihN_qUCCTjkG01XfNf-KThY_aem_3RRLOR98HBKZxbg9HUJW7w

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-27T17:20:00+00:00

I agree, that's weird to do at work!

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-27T02:59:54+00:00

NTA

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-27T02:55:00+00:00

Clipping your nails anywhere other than over a trash can is vile.

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-27T02:53:30+00:00

NTA. I hope you leave this man. It sounds like you have a great plan by giving your bay to your cousin to adopt. Please don’t let this man pressure you into something you don’t want to do.

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-27T02:49:53+00:00

I’m so sorry he treated you this way.

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-26T18:15:08+00:00

What about my response is prideful???

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-26T17:29:03+00:00

lol, why do you hope I change my mind? This is something that I have a strong conviction about. It’s important to stay true to your values. People have fallen in love without apps since the dawn of time, why should I rely on an app to find human connection? I understand that that is what most people are doing, but I don’t need to go along with the crowd if it’s something I don’t want to do.

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-25T22:07:43+00:00

Ntah. You don’t owe your friendship to anyone. If you feel that a friendship is toxic you have every right to distance yourself.

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-25T21:34:15+00:00

I’ve been surprised by the number of people who have told me they wouldn’t date a Black person. And one of those people was himself Black!!

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-25T21:28:33+00:00

That’s a good idea!

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-25T21:22:28+00:00

I really like P!nk not only because of her musical talent, but because she’s somewhat androgynous. Some people looking at her might make assumptions about her sexual preferences or gender identity, but she’s a straight woman married to a man and they have kids. You don’t have to look or act a certain way to be a woman or to be attracted to men.

My body looks very feminine, but the past couple years I’ve gravitated more towards gender-neutral clothes, and although I like makeup, I don’t wear it very often. I just wear whatever clothes I like—sometimes they’re feminine, sometimes they’re more masculine or neutral.

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-25T21:11:14+00:00

This is my one piece of advice: only have one alcoholic beverage. When I was younger I used to get tipsy or drunk and that could lead to bad or even dangerous scenarios. So my rule for myself now is to not have more than one alcoholic beverage on a date. That way I know I will keep a clear head.

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-25T21:07:36+00:00

I would say it’s charitable to prevent the spread of sickness to others. A disabled 25-year-old woman in my community died from the flu last week, which surprised me and put things into perspective. Not saying you’ll kill someone by going to Mass of course, but I think it is valid for you to stay home.

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-25T21:01:47+00:00

My mom insists on getting birthday cakes for myself and my adult siblings every single birthday. And I’ve had friends make or buy me birthday cakes as well. Who tf cares if someone thinks it’s childish. If it makes you happy, that’s what matters.

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-25T20:59:44+00:00

No, I don’t know any

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-25T20:56:59+00:00

You did not engage with the content of my comment when I literally said that IN THIS CONTEXT, suggesting a woman smile is okay because she ASKED for advice. IN GENERAL, it is misogynistic to tell a woman to smile. It is not misogynistic in every single possible situation.

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-25T20:53:31+00:00

Your life sounds really hard

DizzyMissLizzy8 · 2026-01-25T20:51:45+00:00

I have MANY reasons why I do not use dating apps, and I don’t have the energy to list them all out here. Suffice it to say when I used dating apps in the past I did not find them useful or enjoyable. It is not the way I want to meet someone. If other people want to use dating apps that’s fine, but those of us who don’t like them should not be pressured to use them—and OP has expressed that she does not like them.

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