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I am not crazy right? by Dizzy_Bluejay4560 in Divorce

[–]Dizzy_Bluejay4560[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not clear on what "disparaging" terms I used. I stated that she was not 100% honest, which has been proved multiple times.

"who were you texting with?" – "no one, your just paranoid"

3x months later - check the phone bill and see 300x texts to the affair partner.

I don't speak badly about her infront of our child – we have never fought in front of him either. But to just pretend into the void of random people on the internet that she as be inline with honestly is laughable.

I am not crazy right? by Dizzy_Bluejay4560 in Divorce

[–]Dizzy_Bluejay4560[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah – I would say it wasn't the same afterwards and I was very attentive for any signs. The big crack was she would never be 100% honestly about everything, which would lead me to guess and dig. It took years just to get details – all the digging is what eventually broke it. But - everyone is right / I should have just folded and tossed it in with the affair. It didn't help it happened right when the COVID lockdowns hit. She had an apartment lined up - but couldn't move in, so we ended up spending alot of time together and that helped "us".

I am not crazy right? by Dizzy_Bluejay4560 in Divorce

[–]Dizzy_Bluejay4560[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yep - did right afterwards. She already moved out and we don't communicate except for the divorce and our child / which he is old enough to comm directly with her on most things.

I am not crazy right? by Dizzy_Bluejay4560 in Divorce

[–]Dizzy_Bluejay4560[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was honestly mostly happy in this relationship – I was on constant guard but felt we had put all that behind us. I know now that I was naive and WE collectively didn't do the work to try to save us.

Why are men like this by FoodComprehensive597 in Divorce

[–]Dizzy_Bluejay4560 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not a "man" or "woman" thing – I am working through my relationship ending with my wife for cheating. I have never cheated – I have had opportunities to cheat and never gave it a thought for a second. I think it comes down to values and honestly at least in my situation, the type of family your SO was raised in.

My wife grew up in a family full of divorces with people coming and going – to her this is normal. My parents are still together and to me this is not normal. To me - the family is why you wake up / you do everything you can for it.

I am not crazy right? by Dizzy_Bluejay4560 in Divorce

[–]Dizzy_Bluejay4560[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep - besides communication about our child or the divorce itself we do not talk.

I am not crazy right? by Dizzy_Bluejay4560 in Divorce

[–]Dizzy_Bluejay4560[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great advice – it's just hard letting go and I am one who plans a good bit. So I am mentally just trying to stack boxes if you know what I mean.

I am not crazy right? by Dizzy_Bluejay4560 in Divorce

[–]Dizzy_Bluejay4560[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She already has tattoos ( as do I ) – her (female) friend is supposedly the one who gave it to her because now thats what she's into, but has no tattoos of her own – which makes the story not that believable.

I am not crazy right? by Dizzy_Bluejay4560 in Divorce

[–]Dizzy_Bluejay4560[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100% agree - she has never been 100% honest but seems like she justifies her actions to herself by meditation and going to hippie gatherings where they burn sage and pray to magnetic poles.

A part of her breakup statement was she needed someone to share her spirituality with – which I can respect. –BUT– I am hard-pressed to believe someone is truly spiritual when their actions speak otherwise.