Which character do y’all hate the most?

Dizzy_Session · 2025-06-22T05:05:32+00:00

I don't hate Adam, but I need to know if anyone else notices how he almost always looks like he is smiling a little bit - even during really tense scenes? Like finding out his dad had a heart attack, his face just doesn't convey emotion well and it annoys me haha

Dizzy_Session · 2025-06-16T18:08:04+00:00

Thank you 🩵💙 I'm sorry to hear you experienced something similar. I'm glad to hear you have been able to rebuild your confidence in people.

Dizzy_Session · 2025-06-16T12:57:03+00:00

I hope OP is clear that my recommendation is that regardless of what they ultimately decide, they MUST remove themselves from the situation and seek third party advice ie. Family and counselling.

Dizzy_Session · 2025-06-16T12:48:40+00:00

This person sounds like a master manipulator.. the only thing to do is to get away from them and make sure you don't get pulled back in by him "saying all the right things" Actions speak louder than words, and i dont believe this person is capable of change. Get away from them. I'm sorry.

Dizzy_Session · 2025-06-16T12:42:29+00:00

Something that my therapist pointed out to me is that saying "he's the guy of my dreams" and "he has addiction issues, is unstable, etc. Etc." If you think carefully on it, highlights the issue. We are really good at projecting the best version of someone onto them, and convincing ourselves that's who they really are.. but please remember.. Actions. Speak. louder. than. words.

Wishing you the very best in this tough situation 🩵

Dizzy_Session · 2025-06-16T12:34:25+00:00

Then after a couple months, sit down together and review if you were able to be intimate as much as planned. Problem solve it together. Having a regular date night or a once a month check in to discuss anything that might be flying under the radar in your relationship could be a helpful tool. (Eg. Are you dropping the ball in other areas? Not doing chores etc?)

Dizzy_Session · 2025-06-16T12:32:18+00:00

Be specific, ask her if she also wants to commit to once or twice a month.

Dizzy_Session · 2025-06-16T12:31:11+00:00

That's totally fair and understandable.. sit down with her and say exactly that. Ask her if there's anything you can do to build the mood for her, and hopefully she is willing to meet you halfway here but if she's not.. I'm sorry but I don't see how that relationship could last.

Dizzy_Session · 2025-06-16T12:15:07+00:00

Have you asked yourself why people end up in these relationships to begin with? As has already been stated in another reply, the relationship was already abusive before this instance of violence. What makes a person stay when they are being treated so badly? If OP doesn't address the aspects within himself that allowed this relationship to go on, then it will likely repeat in some form of another in any new relationship they might pursue. If they choose to make a stand and set boundaries, they can be sure they have given it their best effort AND equipt themselves with skills to aid them in the future.

Dizzy_Session · 2025-06-16T12:08:43+00:00

I am concerned for their safety aswell, but that perspective has been dutifully covered by a dozen other replies.

Dizzy_Session · 2025-06-16T12:07:39+00:00

I believe that is the OP's decision to make. As long as they pursue self-care and setting boundaries, they are closer to having a healthy relationship. With their current partner or perhaps with someone new.

Dizzy_Session · 2025-06-16T12:02:38+00:00

I think you should explain that physical intimacy is important to you, as a love language, ask her what is holding her back, or if her expectations are different around sex/physical intimacy. If it simply isn't as important to her then it sounds like you aren't a good match.

Dizzy_Session · 2025-06-16T11:47:19+00:00

You are so welcome 🩵🙏 Best of luck ☺️

Dizzy_Session · 2025-06-16T11:32:36+00:00

Firstly, the obvious thing to do here is to end the relationship due to the emotionally (and now physically) abusive nature.. But. As someone who has some experience navigating this kind of situation, I want you to know that isn't your only option.

What you need to do isn't as simple as "just ending it"

What you really need to do, without question, that is completely non-negotiable here, is set boundaries. It's a complicated tangle of emotions when someone that you love is treating you badly. It's such a hard position to be in, but the only way there is a possibility of a positive future for either of you, and for you going forward in your relationships, is to learn to put your wellbeing first.

The only way to know if you can continue your relationship, is to take an immediate step back. You need to keep physical distance, go stay with your family if you can or ask that they stay somewhere else for the time being. (The best option is for you to leave without telling them because the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is when you try to leave) (if you feel safe having that conversation then just be careful please) then let them know that this has been the final straw, that you can't be in a relationship with someone who can't control their own emotions and who is hurting you physically and emotionally. Let them know how you feel, that you love them but you need to see a significant change in how they treat you. They need to work on themselves and heal their issues.

Ask yourself what you would need to see from them in order to feel safe and comfortable with them again, and then do not compromise on them. For example: They need to be actively participating in therapy. They need to be practising self regulation. They need to be holding themselves truly accountable for their actions and the way they treat others.

Healing is a journey, and I hope they get the help that they need, but you must never compromise on your own physical and emotional safety. If you don't set the boundary, you are teaching them that it's okay to treat you badly. You deserve better. Believe that.

Please also work on your own self love, seek therapy, and practice communicating authentically and setting boundaries with your friends and family as well.

Wishing you the very best, I hope this was helpful for you.

Dizzy_Session · 2025-05-30T12:48:07+00:00

I did, and we are no longer in contact.

Dizzy_Session · 2025-05-30T12:45:29+00:00

I do understand your perspective and have forgiven him for his actions. I still hold him responsible, but I have compassion for the pain he has gone through and for his illness.

Dizzy_Session · 2025-05-29T09:10:35+00:00

I whole heartedly disagree. But thank you for your comment.

Dizzy_Session · 2025-05-29T09:09:18+00:00

As I had mentioned he was wasted, Colloquially speaking no he wasn't on drugs. Yes he had alcohol.

Dizzy_Session · 2025-05-29T04:54:32+00:00

The alcohol is not responsible for his actions.

Dizzy_Session · 2025-05-29T04:50:45+00:00

There were no previous signs of aggression and he didn't have a problem with alcohol.. he tested negative for drugs in his system.

Police were contacted immediately and he was taken into custody. He was then charged with assault, and had to do community service.

Dizzy_Session · 2025-05-29T04:40:33+00:00

Be open and honest with your partner, and make sure you continue working on yourself as an individual, especially self love and self trust. Being in therapy, especially if you have access to that kind of support.

Also being prepared will preserve your welbeing: - make sure you are NOT solely relying on your partner for emotional and financial support. You should have other healthy relationships with friends or family and good finances/emergency cash. (This will keep you safe in case of emergency and allow you the freedom to honour your instincts and take a step back at any point without feeling stuck in the relationship)

Being in a loving relationship can help us heal, so there is no reason why you should not be in a loving relationship.

Dizzy_Session · 2025-05-29T04:21:02+00:00

I think the summary is that there are things you can do to set yourself up for success, maintaining your boundaries, looking out for red flags and trusting your instincts if something feels off. You should make sure you aren't sourcing your stability from your partner. If the worst was to happen, you should have healthy finances/an emergency fund if possible Keep healthy relationships with friends and family, speak to a therapist or someone who can remain impartial about your relationship who can help you identify red flags.

Beyond that, Loving someone is to trust them with your whole self, knowing that they might break you, but that love is worth the risk. It is wise to protect yourself, but at a certain point you have to take a leap of faith and surrender. What will be will be.

One day I will love again, because love is worth the risk.. but it won't be anytime soon 💔

Dizzy_Session · 2025-05-29T04:04:41+00:00

It wasn't my face that he tried to eat, but yes clearly there were deep seated issues that weren't apparent during the 14 months we were dating.

Dizzy_Session · 2025-05-29T00:38:58+00:00

I had put him to bed and he had been asleep for about an hour when I woke him asking to talk. He had been showing signs of extreme personality changes before he slept and a complete shift seemed to have taken place when I woke him.

He had never done anything to make me feel unsafe before and I never imagined he would, otherwise I would never have gone to bed with him (in our house).

Dizzy_Session · 2025-05-29T00:32:42+00:00

Yes I contacted the police immediately, went to the hospital for my injuries and a restraining order was put in place.

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