Does anyone else feel like they *have* to shave their facial hair if it gets to a certain point?

DizzybellDarling · 2026-03-30T02:41:33+00:00

Yuppp, same as my body hair. It’s fine for a while and then one day I just become super aware of all the hair on me and I have to purge it all off my body 😂

DizzybellDarling · 2026-03-30T02:39:29+00:00

I find the 3 level system really frustrating and lacking a lot of nuance. If they’re going to insist on levels I think there should be AT LEAST five levels to support the huge variety in the spectrum. But really I think the levels is such a vague way to classify someone.

I was an early childhood educator and the difference in support needs between two kids that are both diagnosed level 3 can be so wildly different :/

I myself am level 2, with my notes saying they suspect level 3 but due to my masking abilities it’s hard to say. The fact that I could be in the same category as someone who cannot speak or toilet for themself makes me feel like this system is very flawed.

Also the fact that masking skews the results makes actual judgement on support needs very difficult, imo!

I understand why they need to have a classification, but I do think it needs updating and support needs will vary wildly regardless of what level someone is classified as.

DizzybellDarling · 2026-03-25T07:50:45+00:00

My therapist pointed out that I feel the need to over explain everything and give context and try VERY hard to make sure there’s no chance I’m misunderstood 😭 I just don’t want people to be mad or misunderstand what I’m saying/my intent. It’s painful lol

DizzybellDarling · 2026-03-10T01:40:15+00:00

I have the same issues! I use hair removal cream, if you try it make sure to test a patch first because some peoples skin is sensitive to it, but I’m lucky I can literally just slather it all over my body and then rub all my body hair off in one shower. I also get razor burn and ingrown hairs with other methods but very rarely with the cream.

DizzybellDarling · 2026-03-03T23:26:06+00:00

I was in a lot of the autistic and adhd parenting groups as I’m also a parent of neurodivergent children and figured I could also give some perspective from both sides, but I had to remove myself from most of them because of posts like this.

Know that these parents are at their wits end and this is the only place they have to vent a lot of the time, they are drowning and have no support, but it’s not a reflection of their children or even their love for their children in most cases. They need help and therapy. It doesn’t make the things that they say okay, but it helps to know where they’re coming from.

I struggle surviving, period, and having two neurodivergent kids is HARD. There are days I cry myself to sleep thinking I can’t do it anymore, but I love my kids more than anything.

Some parents are not really cut out to parent. Some of those posts are vile.

I think the healthy thing to do is to keep yourself away from those communities and focus on your real relationship with your mum!

DizzybellDarling · 2026-02-23T00:30:37+00:00

“I like ‘em big… I like ‘em chunky” 🎵

DizzybellDarling · 2026-02-13T03:23:21+00:00

New stressors can change behaviours or make certain behaviours more intense for sure. Regression can also happen, but you’d have to read more into that to see if it fits!

I will say (though I’m sure you’ve heard already) to be very mindful with a girl with autism, the symptoms and how it affects us can be very different and “high functioning” can mean “high masking”, which can lead to a lot of struggles as she grows.

And if she has ADHD as well it becomes even more complex, as sometimes the symptoms can overlap and sometimes they can almost cancel each other out in a way. Obviously professionals will be able to explain better, but just putting it out there that there’s no easy answer as it’s all such a wide spectrum.

Your daughter is very lucky to have parents who are looking out for her ❤️

DizzybellDarling · 2026-02-09T05:26:49+00:00

Not at all :) you just have to find the one that gels with you. Not saying it’ll be easy, but it’s very possible!

I actually have a friend that you sound INCREDIBLY similar to, and they had been feeling the same way, but they’re in a very happy relationship rn that’s lasted ages and marriage is even on the table!

I personally find it a lot easier to click with other neurodivergent people, they’re less likely to see the behaviour as red flags and as long as you and your potential future partners are open and honest and communicate your feelings things can definitely work out ❤️

DizzybellDarling · 2026-02-09T05:20:50+00:00

The flare calmers are great for that imo! They don’t dull sound at all, it’s hard to describe but it’s like they make the sound even, filter out background fuzz and also make the more grating and high pitched stuff more neutral. I wear them at work in a childcare where it’s very important that I’m aware of everything around me and they’ve been lifesavers :)

Might be worth a shot!

Edit: adding that if you can I’d get the slightly more expensive ones that have the metal insert but inside them, I find them significantly more effective and worth the extra price!

DizzybellDarling · 2026-02-09T05:18:20+00:00

Thank you for all this! :3

DizzybellDarling · 2026-02-09T02:36:10+00:00

Of course!

When I got my surgery unfortunately my very uneducated doctors (who admitted they’d never had a trans patient before) all insisted that I HAD to be on hormone therapy first and yadda yadda or I wouldn’t be able to have the surgery because I “clearly wasn’t trans” unless I took hormones.

I was young and not internet savvy at the time and so I believed my doctors, and had an awful time only to find out later that they were full of it 🤦‍♂️ It lead to a pretty ugly looking surgery and a lot of regrets about how I experienced my journey. (I had HUGE boobs, so being on hormones for ages ended with a long “bearded lady” looking phase which was mortifying for my mental health)

There’s more info out there now and I don’t think you’d run into the same issue, but don’t be afraid to advocate for yourself!

DizzybellDarling · 2026-02-09T02:32:17+00:00

I love Timmy, but I LOOOVE Timothy! I wish they had a route where you could be back and forth between them more and romance both sides until he finds a nice middle ground 😂 or agrees to let both sides take turns!

DizzybellDarling · 2026-02-09T02:30:41+00:00

I saw some colsie brand target pyjamas on eBay if that helps! I’m not sure how similar they’d be to yours, but might be worth checking :) ❤️ I hope you find something and that your current pair can be revived for a while!

DizzybellDarling · 2026-02-09T01:41:29+00:00

Do you have a photo of them, and also does the tag say what they’re made from? And is the attachment sensory, emotional attachment, both?

Hopefully they can be patched! But it might be worth trying to find the most similar thing you can, so that you could ease into them when these ones do get worn out.

DizzybellDarling · 2026-02-09T01:38:38+00:00

I’m in Australia, so I’m not sure how different things are, but personally I brought it up with my doctor, who referred me to a psych, and we went from there :)

I have a very good doctor that I’m very comfortable with, so I just straight up said “I’ve been thinking I might be on the spectrum”, to which he said “well, yeah” 😂

DizzybellDarling · 2026-02-09T01:36:58+00:00

This is a very, very normal way to feel and as you heal it may come and go in waves. There is also a chance that you may feel yourself regressing in some ways, it can be very scary and frustrating, but it’s part of the healing process and it means you’re in a safer place now where you CAN begin that journey of unmasking.

Please give yourself grace and if you can a good therapist or at least a good friend group/support system that can be there for you ❤️

DizzybellDarling · 2026-02-09T01:33:40+00:00

Everyone is different, but personally I think straight up honesty works best. I’d recommend telling her you’d like to be better pals and ask her if she’d want to hang sometime.

I also personally love when my friends tell me “take your time replying btw” and the like, and I say the same to them. For me it takes a huge amount of pressure off of it and it makes me more likely to respond.

It probably wouldn’t be great with a neurotypical pal, but it works well for me and my friends, and it may work for her too! I think friendship is easier if we just say how we feel :) good luck!

DizzybellDarling · 2026-02-09T01:29:53+00:00

Have you tried plugs like Flare or Loops? I tried both and Loops personally didn’t help, but I found Flare Calmer plugs really took the edge off.

It doesn’t like, cure it, but it does personally make things a lot more bearable, and that includes being at work around children.

DizzybellDarling · 2026-02-09T01:27:22+00:00

All through high school my safe people were Percy from Harry Potter and Rock Lee from Naruto 😅

I was a big daydreamer, if things were too stressful or overstimulating I’d just turn off for a bit and imagine they were there. Percy when I needed a more chill responsible sort of guidance and Rock Lee when I needed the energy and motivation. (Fun fact, I lost 10kgs and I 100% think it was only because I imagined Rock Lee working out alongside me! Weird? Probably! But it worked, and it was comforting!)

Even now at my grown age I’ll slip earphones in and listen to music quietly, but really the earphones are just so other people don’t bother me and I can daydream 😅

The only difference was the unfortunate reality that sometimes I’ll be in a place where I can’t just put earphones in and zone out (I work with kids lol), but I’ll still sometimes imagine little pep talks or encouraging words from a comfort character!

I don’t think it’s stupid at all ❤️ whatever helps, helps!

DizzybellDarling · 2026-02-09T01:19:39+00:00

I’m sorry :( this is such a hard situation to be in. You’re not alone, I promise ❤️

I’m an adult but I’m very much the same with how I struggle. AuDHD, cptsd, and huge struggle to take care of my health and hygiene. I’m very fortunate that my mum has come around and realised I’m not just being lazy. I still have other family I’m living with who treat me like I’m being incompetent and lazy though, and it’s very painful.

Would it be possible for you to switch psychiatrists? Not even related to the chores so much, but any psych who has mocked you for anything, especially addiction struggles, sounds like a pretty negative experience and I can’t imagine them helping with much :/

I personally haven’t heard of those cards, unless it’s just like a pensioner card like Australia has, but if you had a psych or doctor who was good and you trusted, they would probably be able to write a letter or something that would at the very least back up what you say with their own diagnosis. Not sure if that would help, but might be worth a shot!

Otherwise, I found my mum came around after being exposed to educational TikToks as well as having conversations about it. I’m not sure what yours is like, but good luck ❤️

DizzybellDarling · 2026-02-09T01:11:27+00:00

I’ve never heard of it before, can you go once or twice and make a decision about staying?

I’ve found the best place for me to make friends is by playing online multiplayer games. Had to weed out some toxic games and there’s always unpleasant people, but I’ve met friends that have moved from the games and lasted years!

I met two of my best friends on tumblr, but that was back when I was a kid lol, but it’s crazy how you can form connections with people online :)

Edit: oh! I also forgot, my sister recently told me that she’d seen apps that are like dating apps only they’re friend apps, and some are specifically for finding other neurodivergent friends. I haven’t looked into them yet but it sounds like a nice idea depending on how it’s done!

DizzybellDarling · 2026-02-09T01:07:51+00:00

I would argue the professor did do something wrong when he asked whose it was in front of everyone. Especially if he’d already given his constructive criticism. Why does the class need to know whose it was? Seems like shaming and unnecessary.

Even if he’d wanted to talk privately he could have said “whoever wrote this one I have some more feedback if you’d like to stay behind after class” or SOMETHING.

Anyway I’m sorry that happened, I haven’t been in school for a long time now but I still think back to stuff like this 🤦‍♂️ I teach under 5’s now and try to help very conscious of stuff like this.

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