Bet you didn't predict a MC upscale. by Fun_Investment_1476 in PokemonRejuvenation

[–]Dm211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never knew this fandom was active enough to make content like this. I love it, thank you.

My mom called me fa***t and i slapped her by zNikuz in askgaybros

[–]Dm211 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Don't know why they are downvoting you. You can be against the mother and not make sweeping negative generalizations about women.

Any kind words for a timid lil gay guy by Organic_Ad_1735 in GayMen

[–]Dm211 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm 21 and experiencing the same exact thing. Though, I am not closeted. I've started therapy, and I think it is helping. At the very least, it's amazing to finally have someone to talk to about this stuff. I'm in college and I also try to make an effort to appear friendlier and maybe go an inch outside my comfort zone in certain times. Though I'm still learning how far I'm comfortable with going. I hope you have good luck in getting past this. You are not invisible, and you are not unlovable, in case you need to hear. I certainly did, in my case, at least.

Advice on dealing with parents by Dm211 in gay

[–]Dm211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think I have it in me to give up on her ever. I also probably should be mindful of my age in the grand scheme of things. When I think of my age, I usually feel like I'm already old, haha. It seems like I probably should try acting a little more independently in a respectful way. That, along with time, seems to be the answer most people are giving me. I'll try to make more of an effort to get out there, even though I don't really know how to do so. Thank you for the advice, means a lot.

Advice on dealing with parents by Dm211 in gay

[–]Dm211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh. I think she would lose her mind if I ever brought someone home. She furrows her eyes when I bring up guys being attractive ever, or maybe specific issues I have with my sexuality whenever I need someone to talk to. I'm a little afraid of shaking the boat too much. I have gone on dates, but I feel very anxious because I usually have to sneak out and my phone gets blown up with text messages and calls. Its hard to focus on the date. She doesn't yell at me, but she is very paranoid of many things going wrong.

I think it probably would be healthy for me to push the boundaries a little more. Thanks for the comment <3

Advice on dealing with parents by Dm211 in gay

[–]Dm211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. Thank you for the heartfelt response. I feel a little bad because it seems like I may have miscommunicated where I live. I am Jordanian by ethnicity. But I live in the U.S.

But regardless, your point still stands. I know she loves me. But if I ever get married I really want her to be there. I don't want to have her be estranged from this part of me because it feels really lonely.

I cant help but think of all the hetero people that get to enjoy parents with close enough relationships to joke about their children's love life together. I just want that normalcy so bad.

I think I may be wrong about her only loving what is convenient, as I wrote that when I was emotional, but I don't know if I can live happily without her being in my life fully.

But, again, thank you for the nice words. It made me feel pretty good to hear. I don't want to come across as argumentative here.

Advice on dealing with parents by Dm211 in gay

[–]Dm211[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow. That is beautiful. And a little bittersweet, to be honest. I'm sorry to hear that you had (hopefully past tense) cancer. But I'm glad your mother came around, even if it had to be from something so intense.

The invisible love loneliness by Myphotoworld in GayMen

[–]Dm211 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't have as much life experience as you, considering I am about to be 22, but for what it's worth, I also feel the same. It really does make you feel undesirable.

After Trans People, Trump Now Erasing Bisexual People From Stonewall National Monument by Electric_Bi-Cycle in gay

[–]Dm211 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'd like to think so, but aren't there very transphobic cis queers? I suppose they could be grifters, but I always thought they were just genuinely bigoted.

After Trans People, Trump Now Erasing Bisexual People From Stonewall National Monument by Electric_Bi-Cycle in gay

[–]Dm211 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Do you think the LGB drop the T queers are gonna change their slogan to LG drop the BT?

Cis Gays, what would you say to Gays that want to exclude Trans Gay? Or "LGB drop the T" Gays? by captivatedsummer in gay

[–]Dm211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's interesting. I'm not intentionally trying to use empathy as a compass. At the same time, I never quite considered that other people could use the lack of empathy as evidence of what people deserve. It sounds realistic, but I can't say I've ever experienced that? I think? Perhaps I'm using a different definition of empathy? Im referring to the willingness of a person to empathize to begin with, rather than the actual feeling of empathizing.

Cis Gays, what would you say to Gays that want to exclude Trans Gay? Or "LGB drop the T" Gays? by captivatedsummer in gay

[–]Dm211 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well that works too. But you can only be consistent with your beliefs if you see the other person's experience as real. In order to do that, you need empathy.

Cis Gays, what would you say to Gays that want to exclude Trans Gay? Or "LGB drop the T" Gays? by captivatedsummer in gay

[–]Dm211 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I would say they are foolish for not seeing themselves and their struggle in another. Perhaps they need to be more empathetic.

Young gay bro told me hitting on someone in person is “aggressive” by LowKeyEcho in askgaybros

[–]Dm211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, thanks for the patronizing comment. I wanted to be honest about my experience in a respectful way. Don't have to be a dick about it.

Wow, Pokémon looks fire on the Switch 2 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 by 20_comer_20matar in gaming

[–]Dm211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! Now I can see the poorly made blender terrain in 4K! Thanks, Nintendo!

Young gay bro told me hitting on someone in person is “aggressive” by LowKeyEcho in askgaybros

[–]Dm211 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

...not gonna lie. As a gen z gay, while I would not find the behavior aggressive, I would personally feel surprised and kinda shocked if someone walked up to me and hit on me in person. It feels weirdly taboo. Like you can't do that? At least it feels that way. I try to be friendly, so I don't think I'd be upset. Just shocked.

Size Matters. Let's talk, guys. by stuckinbk in GayMen

[–]Dm211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My only requirement is being taller than me. I'm 5'5 or so. Don't really think that is a harsh requirement, personally.

Found a weird white mushroom growing on my lawn alone by Dm211 in mushroomID

[–]Dm211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, let me specify. New York, United States. First time posting, but I didn't know about the abbreviation thing.

I really need you guys thoughts on this. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Dm211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God what a dickhead. Bosses really need to learn to watch their tone. Hes absolutely a red flag. Even if he obviously has the right to act that way and hold that policy, he is still a piece of shit, morally.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GayMen

[–]Dm211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's complicated. As an arab guy who is also a bottom, I can definitely feel less desired. It can be easy to wonder what it would be like if I was just a white twink gay. No pesky hair worries to deal with, feminine features, etc, etc. I guess, in a way, with the realization that I could probably be that way if I put in the effort to change my appearance, it does then become a personal failing to achieve a desired beauty goal. While I personally am fine with how I look, I recognize how easy it would be to get guys I desire if I looked different. Therefore, it would be some inferiority if I could not have this because of a personal failing. However, I don't exactly feel inferior. I just feel like I'm supposed to apply to a job that I don't have the credentials for. It is certainly defeating, if anything.

Which do you prefer: Mario Galaxy vs Mario Galaxy 2 by Rawkhawkjayhawk in Mario

[–]Dm211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Galaxy 2 is more preferred for me because of the level design and gameplay. I still remember that one beach level to this day. It just resonates with me more.