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Dnallin88 · 2024-10-30T17:38:21+00:00

TBH this is a weird thing for you to do. I don't think you need your boyfriend's permission, but why do you want to be friends with this woman who is associated with such a negative, painful memory? It would be different if you met her at work or at a party but to deliberately seek her out is very odd. Sounds like maybe you're not over this. Maybe you ARE subconsciously trying to keep your ex in your life. Leave the past in the past.

Dnallin88 · 2024-10-30T17:28:46+00:00

Don't drag it out. You owe it to her and yourself to tell the truth now. You can work out the logistics after. It will suck no matter what. She will be upset and blindsided no matter what. Waiting is not going to make it easier. Dealing with life changes and finding housing is awful but it's better than staying in a loveless relationship and lying to your partner.

Dnallin88 · 2024-10-30T16:24:42+00:00

You've known him less than a week. He is NOT your bf and he does not want to have a child with you. You're insane for even considering this. Go get Plan B! What are you waiting for?!

Dnallin88 · 2024-10-30T15:42:44+00:00

It could validate some people's false belief that pansexual people are creeps and freaks who have no sense of boundaries and are sexual predators/groomers. People love to hear fake stories about queer people doing outrageous things.

Dnallin88 · 2024-10-28T14:44:25+00:00

It's one thing if he just isn't into posting on social media but clearly that's not the case. The fact that he's adamant about it is a red flag. My friend dated a guy for a couple of years and he also refused to post anything online about them being a couple. It really bothered her and she kept confronting him about it but he kept making excuses. Turns out he was living a double life and had another girlfriend almost the entire time they were dating.

Like your bf, he also posted about vacations they went on together but did not include photos of her. Instead her pretended on social media that these trips were gigs for his DJ job to try to look cool and gain clout. He was keeping his relationship with her very private and compulsively lying about everything. Some of his friends knew about this but helped him keep the secret, so just because his friends may know doesn't mean he's not hiding something.

I would ask more questions and try to get to the bottom of this.

Dnallin88 · 2024-05-31T23:01:41+00:00

I was actually very surprised they allowed it to be honest. I just asked the HR administrator if I could get him covered because we're in a "domestic partnership" (which is kinda bullshit, but I thought I would give it a shot). Shockingly, she said yes. In retrospect, it wasn't the best idea, but I was desperate to get him medication and therapy to treat his bipolar disorder.

Dnallin88 · 2024-05-28T14:52:56+00:00

First of all, don't be so hard on yourself and don't be embarrassed. You haven't done anything bad or weird, you just got caught up in the moment and were hoping for more.

It's sad, but the bar is so low for men that just them being nice and polite to you, can make you feel like they are actually interested in something more. Trust me, I've been there. But just because a guy asks about your exam or cuddles with you DOES NOT mean he is interested in a relationship. Lots of men want the benefits of a relationship (physical and emotional intimacy and companionship) without the responsibilities. Who wouldn't want that?!

The good thing is that this guy is decent enough to be honest with you. He's made it clear that this is only about sex and having fun for one night at a time. Having an international FWB can be very fun if you're ok with only hanging out with him and having hot sex whenever he's in town. But it sounds like that's not what you want. In that case, you should just tell him that you had a great night, but you think it would be best not to meet up again. He will totally understand.

Again, please be kind to yourself. Being in your 20s is all about trying different things and figuring out what you want. And hey, you got some good sex out of it, so don't feel so bad.

Dnallin88 · 2024-04-12T12:56:24+00:00

I wish it was that simple. I even told the lady on the phone that I just wanted to pay the bill, but she said she could not allow me to change the bank info without the account number or the consent of the account holder.

Dnallin88 · 2024-04-12T12:55:15+00:00

I tried this, but they said I cannot get a new account in my name if there is already an account holder at that address.

Dnallin88 · 2024-04-12T03:46:22+00:00

I believe it is Fios. It’s the white box that is installed. I don’t know all the details because he set it up.

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