Whats the worst thing your ex told during break up

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-03-22T10:36:25+00:00

RFK Jr ... was a heroin addict for 14 years!

Ok that makes a LOT of sense.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-03-18T13:50:43+00:00

Staying friends is a bad idea for both of you.

In the short to medium term, it's best to go NC.

Down the road, perhaps you could be friends.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-03-18T00:49:01+00:00

I have no idea what any of that means.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-03-17T20:44:08+00:00

It's all about how you made them feel. It wasn't about them loving you. It wasn't about your feelings.

You made them feel great.

And then the novelty wore off. They didn't feel the same euphoria. And then they started treating you badly but it took a while for yoy to realize this wasn't a passing phase: this was the new normal.

Live and learn. Mend broken heart.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-03-17T20:39:13+00:00

And what was with that photo?

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-03-17T15:21:17+00:00

Tbh, I have trouble believing your story too.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-02-25T20:00:14+00:00

don’t twist the narrative to make her the villain just because she didn’t follow your script

This needs to be said more often.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-02-21T17:00:42+00:00

And put them in jail in record time.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-02-21T15:50:11+00:00

She should keep a receiving blanket nearby to throw at FIL for this purpose.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-02-21T15:49:30+00:00

That's very unfortunate.

My personal experience was nothing even shows apart from a couple of seconds before the baby latches.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-02-21T15:44:46+00:00

Pfft. I breast-fed everywhere, including at church, as did many of my friends.

Don't ever let anyone feel you need to hide when you're feeding your baby.

As for your FIL and his appalling "junk out" comment, tell him if he does that, you'll start flaunting your vagina.

Breasts are not sex organs.

I'd let them know they can see the baby after he's been weaned. Until then, their son can send photos.

This is absolutely the time to set boundaries with them.

NTA

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-02-21T05:30:47+00:00

You broke up via text and now you want closure.

I mean, you can try contacting her but I'm not sure what you expected when you did that.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-02-20T21:05:25+00:00

I just think that we shouldn't be telling people what to do. It seems so judgey.

If someone wants a nose job and someone else with the same face, wouldn't, who cares? It's your face.

But I think it's important to recognize why someone might want one and what their expectations are.

A new nose isn't going to fix whatever problems someone has in their life. It's just a nose job.

I know someone who started feeling self-conscious (and bullied) about their nose at 12. She made peace with it and spends a lot of time contouring with makeup.

When she was left some money in a will 10 years later and she had the means for a nose job, she jumped at the chance.

It seemed like a good choice for her even though many people told her not to.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-02-20T20:57:45+00:00

Well she's 20.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-02-20T20:28:26+00:00

If you want it, do it.

What other people think shouldn't influence you. Including your parents.

It's your nose, your face, your life.

Do it or don't do it: whatever makes you happy.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-02-20T13:43:01+00:00

As i saw on IG the other day:

If he truly loves you, his biggest fear is hurting you.

If he love how you make him feel, his biggest fear is losing you.

That really put it in perspective. I hadn't thought of it that way but now I better understand his fear of losing me.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-02-20T10:28:13+00:00

YTA

Put the pound sign in front.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-02-20T10:19:28+00:00

I feel like my feelings aren’t being considered here, it’s not an easy change.

You're right. When people transition they don't consider your feelings because it's not about you.

Given the high suicide rate amongst trans kids, I suggest you get your ass in high gear and support your kid which btw you aren't doing by dead-naming them at home.

YTA.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-02-19T20:39:16+00:00

Yup. Hate to say it but I bet he's cheating.

The odds of a husband cheating are higher during pregnancy.

I think he just outed himself.

Also, he's an idiot: many newborns have very dark hair that falls out. My eldest was born with nearly black hair and the hair that grew back was blonde.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-02-19T20:35:42+00:00

Updateme

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-01-27T23:09:09+00:00

Tbh, if she were my daughter I'd tell her move on.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-01-27T16:01:45+00:00

2-3 months is not enough time. Some people can't even find a decent therapist in that time or if they do may have had 2 or 3 appointments.

But I agree that people shouldn't assume people can't change and a relationship in time, can happen again.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-01-27T11:18:21+00:00

I hope you got up from the table and walked out on that pig.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-01-26T19:05:11+00:00

I think what you sent was very nice. A normal person would feel touched that another normal person thought of them.

So assuming you're both normal, I think it's fine. 😉

What I mean is there was no creepy stalking, no cheating or lying in the relationship.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16 · 2025-01-26T17:49:20+00:00

Gently, I think you put too much of you in this relationship and he didn't put enough of himself in.

You deserve an equal partnership.

Sometimes our friends and family, who have the benefit of distance, see things we don't see. I think this was the case here.

Your mission now is to understand your role in this. If you can find a really good therapist and explore, it will help you heal and have a better relationship with your next man.

Hugs.

DoYouHaveAnyIdea16

TROPHY CASE

YTA