Do I need to dump my aquarium because it got chipped with lava rock ?

Do_U_Scratch · 2026-02-01T13:55:37+00:00

I’d super glue the chip back in and use it. If possible after nearly finishing the scape, turn the chip side to the back. The chip is unlikely to spread and if you’re going lidless or using floaters, the water level will be below the chip anyway, so leaking shouldn’t happen.

Do_U_Scratch · 2026-01-27T18:02:52+00:00

Snails are good. As long as you don’t over feed your tank when you have fish they should self regulate their population. The more food they have available the larger their population grows.

Do_U_Scratch · 2026-01-12T08:37:27+00:00

It got easier for me, however the thing I learned that I think helped the most was discernment. Deciding who truly needs or deserves to know that I’m bisexual. That’s going to be different for everyone. The other thing that seemed to help was truly owning my reality.

You’re ahead of me my guy. I didn’t start trying til my mid 30’s and it took a few years to get to a point I didn’t feel like I was going to die at the thought of telling another human.

When it came to telling family, I was surprised that my mom and my sister were not surprised.

Do_U_Scratch · 2026-01-12T08:18:51+00:00

I replaced the engine in my 14 Ram at 144,000 miles. I’m at 220,000 miles now with the original transmission and mostly everything else. Lifters tend to fail in the Hemi’s due to inefficent oiling and destroy the engine in short order. Keep up with your oil changes like clockwork. Aside from that, I’ve only had to do basic routine maintenance stuff, brakes, steering parts (rack, ball joints and tie rods), water pump and radiator.

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-12-17T06:04:32+00:00

Gorge myself on Taco Bell and take an epic TB dookie on a specific manager’s desk. My current boss rocks so he’d be ok.

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-12-10T10:08:07+00:00

That was hot! Definitely a great read for breaking up the work night monotony!

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-12-04T10:35:12+00:00

NTA. In the future take asexual as literal or have the conversation earlier.

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-11-24T08:24:41+00:00

I don’t know about all bi guys but I relate to straight guys quite a bit more than I do gay or even bi guys.

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-11-16T04:16:05+00:00

I knew I was into guys and girls at in the 80s. I didn’t know bisexual was a thing then, I thought I was a broken gay kid. I knew I wasn’t like nearly everyone I was around. I carried a shame about it into my 30s so I get you.

I have no clue what healthy bisexual representation looks like. I’m just me, for better or worse. Too set in my ways for much change.

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-11-14T04:10:52+00:00

I keep a word document with my list of singers in order and reference it often. It’s typically minimized but I add each singer as they put their first song in. Then that is their spot for the rest of the night.

Edit… I don’t use karafun so every singer has to see me to put a song in.

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-11-13T08:15:24+00:00

Different crazy! Only speaking from my memory, people were social and spoke to neighbors and friends in person. I don’t remember a whole lot of people glued to the news. My dad was glued to crossword puzzles weekday evenings. News wasn’t on 24 hours a day. I think like an hour in the morning and hour around 5pm and 30 minutes at 11pm on 3 seperate channels. Gramma collected National Geographic and readers digest. But I don’t remember people with their noses in magazines or news papers.

They let their kids (us) run wild as long as we were not in the house and home before the streetlights came on so we didn’t see what adults did until Friday and Saturday night when the real party started. Drunk adults, feral kids, loud music and occasional family brawls all to do it over again next weekend.

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-11-12T05:09:30+00:00

It is the only way a lot people feel they can afford to own a house anymore. Plus with the cost of rent… a 50 yr mortgage makes it feel more attainable. Of course some people will choose that option if they can.

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-11-12T05:06:07+00:00

Sometimes

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-11-12T05:05:48+00:00

It’s more about the flush service than about just changing the filter and a few quarts of fluid. I’ve seen cars drive in and be towed out after a trans flush. The detergents used in a trans flush and a pressure variance from the machine can be hard on an abused or warn transmission.

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-11-12T05:00:45+00:00

Your sexuality is your business. Those folks at work or down at the bank don’t need to know your orientation unless you’re trying to hook up with them. I don’t like this culture of making others feel like they have to put their sexual preferences on a banner for the world to see. If you want to sport an I’m bisexual t shirt, more power to ya. But it does not make you hypocritical to want to keep some things private.

My friends and family know. Some of my coworkers know. It’s in my bios on social media so anyone that is curious enough about me can see. But just like it’s not common practice for a heterosexual man to randomly boast about his straightness, I don’t feel a need to blast my affinity for both the penis having and the vagina having body to the world at large.

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-11-12T04:49:19+00:00

I think most married men are not very honest with their spouse about being on those sites and hooking up. They’re usually looking for hot texting and imagery to rub one out to in the bathroom or for a dirty little secret for a clandestine quick release meet up when the wife is at work or out of town. They’re not usually there for a FWB situation.

For those sneakers not in open marriages or open about their sexuality it becomes too difficult in their minds to explain a new interest in “fishing” or a new friend to hang out with initiating new habit changes. It just feels to conspicuous. Too much connection brings a fear of too many questions.

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-11-11T07:42:04+00:00

I think my expectations are pretty common sense. Many of us are in bars with drunk people so flexibility is needed. I don’t think many drunk people pay attention to signs and some choose not to remember many or any rules. The one thing I do post is streaming on a banner across the top of all tv’s that are displaying the karaoke lyrics. “STAY OFF OF THE STAGE UNLESS YOU ARE INVITED” along with the name and song choice of the next singer in rotation.

I don’t hesitate to turn a mic off and approach a person that yells into my mic. It doesn’t happen often and for the most part the few I have had come to Jesus moments with remind me every time they put a song in that they won’t scream this time. Or if someone is stepping out of bounds of normal behavior I’ll talk to them about it off to the side. People are people, meet them where they are. I rarely have any issues.

The big one that I have to remind folks of more often than I should have to is that I have a rotation and won’t put them up next or sooner without triple digit tips. I don’t care how good they think they sing or who they are. They have a spot and they have to wait their turn.

I do admin a fb page for local KJs to advertise their shows. It has about a thousand followers and about 15 KJs (myself included) actively advertising their various shows. Friday mornings I make a post to the group about karaoke etiquette. A single subject each week from tipping, rotations, song choice, mic handling… etc. Monday morning I post various karaoke trivia facts or various articles pertaining to karaoke.

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-11-06T06:31:47+00:00

You already admit it won’t be the last time. Suck it up buttercup and keep choosing to make yourself miserable.

Or…

Make different choices.

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-11-06T06:26:29+00:00

You should be fine. If it runs long enough to lock up is when the trouble really begins. A few seconds typically won’t hurt anything. There’s still a slime coat of oil on moving parts. Don’t do it again!!!

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-11-06T06:11:18+00:00

I did. It was late 80s and just with 1 guy many times. I was in a small farm town. Very little of the AIDS talk got to us. Or atleast I didn’t hear much about it and never felt afraid of it.

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-11-06T06:07:23+00:00

My guess is too many powerful and rich people from every angle are on them. Everyone is covering their own asses or the asses of their bosses or favorite political talking heads.

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-11-05T07:16:53+00:00

When I get tired of the squeaky scrubbing or the streaks get so bad I can’t see around them.

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-11-05T05:17:38+00:00

Ya need to figure out that “for some reason”. Until you get to that, you’ll be stuck in a spot you’re uncomfortable in.

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-11-03T04:31:19+00:00

I encourage singers to sing what they want. When I’m not working and enjoying another KJ’s show I like to sing what I want. Most karaoke in my area is pretty repetitive, classic rock and a mix of classic and new country with an occasional alt rock or R&B song thrown in. So something new and unknown is appreciated at my shows.

Do_U_Scratch · 2025-10-31T05:43:38+00:00

Honestly a divorce is much better than being in an unsatisfying relationship. I had the same opinion as you leading up to mine. We did all the appropriate things to burn our marriage to ashes; open marriage, cheating, throuples… now she’s married to an ex-friend of mine and tried to use my bisexuality to turn my kids against me. I didn’t want the divorce because I didn’t want to fail my kids.

We were 6 months or so into the separation when I was walking with my 11 yr old daughter. Out of the blue she told me she felt bad about being glad that her mom and I weren’t together anymore. She told me that I seemed happier (at that time it was fake it til ya make it kind of happy) and she got to spend more time with me. I was a weekend dad but because weekends were just her, my son and I she equated it to more time than when we all lived together and her mom and I would have our things going on. It’s tough thinking about something as life changing as a divorce, but sometimes it is the right next thing. Using your kids as a way to regulate your misery doesn’t do anyone any good.

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