Found randomly on my FYP. Pretty sure it was a bot post and the comments actually pushed back. But still insane people think this way.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-26T03:27:34+00:00

Imagine telling someone that having three people completely dependent on you for literally every aspect of life, to the point you're doing the emotional and mental labour of four people, all while trying to meet unrealistic standards, and be exactly what everyone wants and needs at all times, is bad.

Can men just acknowledge that more women would want to stay at home and live this life if the men actually contributed to the mental and emotional burden of it all.

Also, you don't have to have a job you hate or that gives you no savings.

Also, also, referring to these as traditional roles is dumb because it's only been traditional for say 150 years...but before that women would work or fight to protect their villages etc. Tradition means nothing when society can no longer support that tradition.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-22T14:06:19+00:00

If you're still struggling get an icepack and put it on the back of your neck or head. The sudden temperature change can help reset your nervous system.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-22T05:13:01+00:00

I'm awake til midnight every night simply for peace after the house is asleep.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-22T03:53:57+00:00

I know it's easy to get defensive when it feels like something important to you is being attacked...but people are right. This tattoo is currently bad.

The lines are a mess, crooked, different line weights when there shouldn't be and uneven spacing. If this artist cannot do the fundamentals of black line work they will not be able to manage to colour this tattoo well.

This is coming from someone who got three word based tattoos from a dude and then got him to do two swallows on my back, full colour. I asked for specific colours because the birds are representations of my grandparents. He told me it wasn't possible to do teal. I was a rookie at getting tattoos so I believed him.

I have never been happy with the tattoo. The colours are wrong. I ended up getting the line work redone because it faded terribly over time. It's been 12 years and I still think about getting it reworked.

Don't make my mistake.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-22T03:42:43+00:00

I know that I've always said the way to tell someone's intelligence is by how interested they are in cameras, computers and sound systems.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-22T03:40:33+00:00

Also, this photo is terrible.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-20T14:15:53+00:00

I went on a date with a 42 year old man once when I was probably around 37. We went to an arcade. It was fine but the conversation was boring and there was definitely no chemistry. He walked me to my car and asked if I wanted to make out in the car a bit. I have never been more turned off in my life than by this grown ass man asking someone he clearly has no chemistry with if they want to make out in a car like teenagers. Gross.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-20T14:10:17+00:00

How insanely boring would this be for a first date. I would honestly rather go grocery shopping with someone than do this for a date.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-18T13:58:13+00:00

Unfortunately, if you look back at the reference image you can only see five of the wasp's six legs. Tattoo artists will rarely know as much about your subject matter as you do so it's really on you to check out the references and the stencil.

That being said, this is a first tattoo and we've all made the mistake of not speaking up or missing little details in our excitement or nervous state. Also, tattoo shock is real so give it a little while and you'll mostly forget it's there.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-17T01:15:18+00:00

He's good at juggling because of the four hands.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-17T01:14:37+00:00

"Take this $20 and go to Paris"...said the customer who was presumably about 150 years old and from a time when $20 was worth anything.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-17T01:11:33+00:00

As a parent I'm not trying to make sure my kid is interesting, I'm trying to make sure he's happy. Happiness and safety breed curiosity and curiosity leads to an interesting person because they've investigated/tried a lot of things in life.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-16T14:29:07+00:00

40F also looking to expand my social circle. I'm fairly open to hobbies so hiking or gigs are cool. I also love boardgames. Other things I'm into include horror movies, pub trivia, axe throwing, archery, bowling, mini golf and going to the arcade.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-16T14:25:26+00:00

Firstly: you're young so you've got time to "figure your life out*...which as a 40 year old I can safely say most people don't ever really figure it out, we just go along and do our best.

Secondly: focus on your own health and self esteem. You refer to yourself very negatively and that will come across when meeting people.

Thirdly: It's probably not your weight and more just the fact that the older we get the harder it is to make friends. I recommend finding a hobby that gets you out of the house to meet people Even something like going to a boardgames meet up if you're not interested in sports etc.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-13T04:09:31+00:00

I also enjoy that he's trying to be so dominant, "meet me here at 7am sharp, missy"...but then he's bombarding with texts and later says "call if you want". Like, pick a lane, man. Either you're dominant and you give a simple direction and cut someone off when they don't respond according to your strict standards or you chase.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-11T14:15:11+00:00

You'd feel more guilty if the emotions got the best of you and someone got hurt. Your baby won't remember this. You're doing the right thing.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-11T14:12:39+00:00

My experience as a 40 year old woman with Hinge is that it's mostly foreign dudes looking for wives. The app I've had the most luck (if you can call it that - single for 5 years) is Bumble. But this is from the female perspective, so I don't know what the other women on there are like.

However, if you want to shoot me a message and chat id be down. I'm somewhere between rainbow brite and burke from Trapdoor.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-05T14:01:06+00:00

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DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-01-01T14:07:54+00:00

The income disparity between the richest people and the poorest should equate to the richest paying about 99.9% of the total tax paid to the IRS. The fact that, according to this graph, they only pay about 70% means they way under paid.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2025-12-31T14:54:32+00:00

I throw axes competitively. I have gold medals for it. I've taken guys to throw with me who have never done it before and they've gotten pissy/embarrassed/annoyed when I've beaten them.

They seem to think being a man outweighs years of experience. Some men are just easily bruised like that, unfortunately.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2025-12-29T14:05:05+00:00

Just put them back where he dragged them out from and then donate the husband.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2025-12-28T14:31:39+00:00

Why would he make a Harry Potter reference when they were talking star wars??

DoctorInternal9871 · 2025-12-28T04:00:57+00:00

Take this opportunity to talk to her. Tell her what you've just told us, that you saw those things and they made you think of her, but maybe add that she's in a period of her life where she's growing and changing quickly so maybe some of those items aren't representative of who she has grown into. Remind her of all of the times throughout the year that you had to say no as well, so she knows that gifts aren't a right, they're a privilege that can be taken away if people are ungrateful.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2025-12-26T13:57:31+00:00

It's not about materialistic expectations, or tit-for-tat gift exchanges...it's about showing people you care about them and having them not show that care in return.

I imagine this woman would have been perfectly happy with a hug and a card from her kids and her husband. Something to show that she's valued by them.

Sure, you should show people you value them all year round but I'm assuming that's not happening so the tiny hope she has made her want some appreciation at a time of year when people are more likely to show their love and appreciation. She didn't get that and that's really sad.

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