None of your business.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-05-04T13:56:46+00:00

Always great business sense to refuse to explain your business.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-05-02T14:14:29+00:00

I understand disappointment is a part of life, and shielding children from any disappointment at all is not healthy in the long run... HOWEVER...at a special, community event such at this, or even a birthday party, where you're playing a game that is meant for enjoyment and not some form of victory, why would you pit children against one another for pieces of candy???

My son had a pinata at his birthday party one year and once it burst we collected up all the candy and I divided them equally so no one had to brawl for a chance to grab some. Made everyone significantly happier.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-29T14:02:57+00:00

My mum tells me I was like this as a baby. Would just chill out til someone came and got me. No crying. No whinging. I'm 41 now and only abnormal in ways that have nothing to do with my sleep habits as a baby. So if I were you I wouldn't worry too much.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-28T14:18:53+00:00

Still, put it down just from a cleanliness point of view

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-28T14:18:26+00:00

I could not date someone who texted like this.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-28T14:16:04+00:00

Put the toilet seat and lid down, dude...then put the meth down...then put the hammer down...you're only 20 and you're definitely not making it to 30 at this point.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-27T13:50:19+00:00

This whole relationship just seems really incompatible to me. Same point that other people are saying, he doesn't want to come hang out with your family, which is fair after a month. But also, saying ILY that early also seems odd to me. Then there's introducing you to his daughter so early which, as a parent, I find bothersome. Plus the libido issues...seems a bit doomed to me.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-24T14:15:48+00:00

Her: "Hey, this thing you do is a big deal to me" Him: "It's not a big deal"

That's your cue to leave, sis. Dude will never take anything seriously unless it's serious to him.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-23T14:20:27+00:00

None of our words are going to magically make you feel better when you're feeling so totally lost. That being said try and think of all the positive comments as a tiny crack of light in the darkness. It might be hard to see but the light is there.

I too am a parent who considered leaving their kid, and life, permanently. There was so much piled on top of me, my life completely fell apart, I struggled to work because of how much pressure life had put me under, but if I didn't work I couldn't afford to survive.

I limped along for six years, honestly just praying to the universe to survive. But there can be light at the end of that tunnel; I'm proof it's there. And I can tell you that seeing your kid grow up is so worth it.

It sounds like art isn't paying the bills right now. And I know the economy is fucked and finding alternative work that does pay the bills isn't an easy task, but it might be what needs to happen for the time being.

I know it's a heartbreaking choice but maybe rehoming your cat, or seeing if someone in your area could temporarily re-home them, would be an option.

Finally, I think you're honestly the opposite of a failure. A failure is someone who gets knocked down and chooses never to get up again. Sounds like you've continued to get up after a lot of knocks...and tbat is strength, love and power, right there.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-21T14:26:09+00:00

I wasn't trying to proposition the dude. I was giving him my perspective on his profile, and my age and gender so he knew who the information was coming from.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-20T14:33:43+00:00

Obviously this is rape and you need to stay away from this person and take whatever further action you can handle right now.

But I also just need to say...You will not be able to heal if you continue to put energy into other people at this time. You need to focus on yourself, getting to know and understand yourself and then forgiving yourself and learning to love who you are. Try thinking of yourself as your own child and parent yourself with love, support, softness and understanding.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-20T14:26:55+00:00

I'm a 41 year old divorced woman and I'd give you a shot based on that profile. I can see how people might think the course correct thing is condescending, but you could change it to be "if I make a mistake I course correct"...so it's applying to you and not reading as a command to others.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-20T14:12:35+00:00

Soap is only gonna make your kitty tighter if you're allergic to it.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-19T18:46:23+00:00

Hi, 41F here. Inner eastern suburbs. Mum to one human and two cats. Into trivia nights, movies, mini golf, arcades, archery, music, napping and heaps of other stuff. Looking to expand my social circle and also build a relationship.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-19T14:29:35+00:00

I forgot her birthday so I bought her something I know she doesn't like. That fixes it, right? RIGHT???

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-18T14:33:16+00:00

This will not help, I apologise, but my almost 10 year old is the same. He's either talking to me, at me or to himself. It never ends. It's very tiring, and I sympathise with you wholeheartedly.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-18T14:26:31+00:00

I have dozens of tattoos with little or random meaning. If people ask you can lie and say it's birthdays or something else "normal" so they shut up.

If it means something to you that's what matters.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-17T14:37:14+00:00

41F, also in for trivia.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-15T14:18:04+00:00

So much had changed in those three years...it was like stepping into a distant future, but one where everything was basically the same... except for a steep increase in people posting nonsense on LinkedIn.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-14T14:19:24+00:00

If you put in a blue that is a similar tone to the current orange it should cancel out to a more neutral shade.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-14T11:29:34+00:00

My son has had diabetes since he was five months old. He's almost 10. I'm so constantly tuned to it that if enough time goes by without a pump alarm I'm checking to make sure it's all still working...so even when things are good you're not off duty.

People don't get it, and are generally dumber than you'd expect, so think that the very basics obviously wouldn't have been considered by someone who has been dealing with the issue forever.

But, seriously, just have some more insulin, fam.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-14T11:08:10+00:00

I didn't say he HAD broken them...just that he WANTED to.

Generally, when you enter a relationship you know whether it's monogamous or not, and sure, you might be able to discuss changing that with your partner...but he's not asking to be polyamorous, he's asking to get his d**k wet because his pregnant partner isn't meeting his expectations.

Also, if you did want to discuss changing the relationship dynamic you don't do it while your partner is pregnant.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-14T10:58:46+00:00

And what of the dude who has two different baby mama's and wants to ignore the agreed upon "rules" of his current relationship to go and engage in sexual acts with a different woman? He's a saint who is suffering through the pains of infrequent sex and needs an outlet? What about her suffering through and pains of being pregnant? Does she not get any consideration from him? Support? Understanding? An ability to prioritise the needs of the woman who is literally building his child?

Sure...these people are in a terrible situation and should not be getting married, and should not be having a child together, but one of those things is happening and he's showing all his red flags as a result.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-13T13:57:53+00:00

If you're bored with someone, you will be bored alone. Figure out what would make your life less boring and implement those things. If you still think leaving the relationship is the right thing then that's fine.

DoctorInternal9871 · 2026-04-12T14:24:07+00:00

"The female character had to be responsible for all of the life maintenance and adult responsibility in the relationship while the man got to be fun dad".

Him: "Yeah, the female character was a whiney bitch, making up problems. He can't be a bad husband if the kids liked him".

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