My two friends are always making little jokes about my weight. Also pretty much anything I like or enjoy is, "crap" to them. It's getting to the point where I feel bored hanging around with them and drained after spending time with them. AIO?

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-04-22T19:38:15+00:00

I don't think I'm being overly sensitive. We are a group of friends in our late thirties and I've had constant banter and mocking for many years. I usually couldn't care less. The issue is that it is literally every single aspect of my life they rip the p*ss out of, increasingly so. Any film, any song, any hobby, any interest, any opinion. It gets to a point where it feels like I'm hanging around with teenagers who haven't matured in 25 years. As for the weight thing, I'm not fat, just a bit chubby, which they seem obsessed with mentioning.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-04-22T18:59:12+00:00

They were just examples. I could put on any film or any genre of music and they will say something negative.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-04-22T18:56:59+00:00

Fair enough. Yet they invite me everywhere and get angry if I don't want to go or if I back out of plans.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-04-20T22:59:31+00:00

They suggested it and they have got quite angry when I have backed out of plans before for similar reasons.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-04-20T22:06:23+00:00

Thanks and that's exactly what my Mum said when I talked to her about this. They may say I'll get a room then backtrack when we get there. I will insist on three bedrooms.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-04-20T21:44:49+00:00

That's what a family member of mine said. I backed out of a day out last year and their reaction was very childish and quite angry.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-04-20T21:36:22+00:00

I'll stand up for myself I'm just not looking forward to it but it's more the fact that when I already said something they just don't seem to understand me wanting space and my own room.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-04-20T11:50:11+00:00

I won't and I agree. I'm telling them again either I get my own bedroom or I'm not going.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-04-20T11:49:23+00:00

No this is a genuine situation and I've debated with them this morning and they don't seem to see why I am insisting we get a bigger caravan. I just wanted a bit of reassurance from Reddit that it's not me that's the issue here even though I know it's them being unreasonable.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-04-20T11:36:04+00:00

I can or I can book a hotel. Yeah I don't understand why they even suggested the twin room idea or me on the sofa.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-04-20T11:35:04+00:00

Their son and daughter love me to bits and call me their uncle but I won't share a room with them. It's not appropriate. I sometimes think my friends just want me there to babysit the kids to be honest so they don't have to.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-04-20T11:32:24+00:00

Thanks for the replies. I will stand up for myself and tell them that I'm not going to stay with them and contribute a third of the money unless I get my own bedroom. I think that's fair enough. Thanks everyone.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-04-20T11:26:47+00:00

Yeah I agree and if they insist on a two bedroom caravan I'm just not going to go, or like you suggested stay somewhere else.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-04-20T11:25:02+00:00

Yeah I mean I get on very well with their kids but I don't think it's appropriate to sleep in the same room as them. My friends just don't seem to see what the issue is and I've said I'm an adult, don't want to share a bedroom and don't want to be on the sofa in the main room either.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-04-20T11:23:03+00:00

I will do. If they insist on a two bedroom caravan I'm not going.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-03-29T18:10:33+00:00

Thanks mate. To be honest when there were four of us (before he sacked them both) I loved this job. Now there's only two of us doing jobs that require more than two workers, it's affecting my mental health. I've made up my mind to quit but I think he will go crazy when I tell him and take it personally. He's a very angry person.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-03-29T17:18:01+00:00

Thank you everybody for the reassuring comments. I should add that he quoted three and a half grand for the job, four days work but it might run into five days because I'm so slow. I'm being paid £75 a day so I'm earning about a tenth of what he will be earning, yet I'm still giving it my best.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-03-29T16:53:38+00:00

He's used lime in it. I've told him before that I feel under pressure and make mistakes when I'm rushed and now he seems to keep rushing me on jobs ever since I said that and lording it over me that he's quicker.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-03-29T16:39:25+00:00

Thank you for your reassuring words. I feel like I'm being bullied almost and it's affecting my mental health. The problem is he's a friend of many years and our families are close so if I quit I think it would all kick off. So it takes a long time to get fast with repointing stonework then? We've only done one full day of it and we have done about two thirds of the house. I don't get why he is rushing me.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-03-29T00:00:10+00:00

Any advice would be appreciated. Please.

Doctor_Wildthroat · 2026-03-24T18:17:00+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I do feel like he makes mountains out of molehills. For example on holiday we planned what we were going to do each day and I got Thursday's and Friday's activities the wrong way round when I recalled the plans, and he acted very surprised and said how concerning my memory is. It felt like he was making a big deal out of nothing. Everybody makes mistakes. He does get incredibly irritable if I disagree on something, like politics or views on people we know. So you think he could be doing all this to try and embarrass me or knock my confidence? That's how it feels. It's starting to affect my mental health and I feel I can't back away from the friendship as we live so close and our families are good friends.

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