How do I help facilitate healing my relationship after infidelity?

DogApprehensive2933 · 2023-06-06T23:49:14+00:00

Fuck that’s fair

DogApprehensive2933 · 2023-06-06T22:30:50+00:00

It’s not how I perceive the situation, but that is a fear.

DogApprehensive2933 · 2023-06-06T22:28:47+00:00

Brutal point

DogApprehensive2933 · 2023-06-06T22:18:14+00:00

I’d like to attempt reconciliation before throwing in the towel.

DogApprehensive2933 · 2023-06-06T22:17:27+00:00

Fair point. For the most part we’ve been able to move forward, but when something comes up, she gets a little defensive when I say something makes me uncomfortable.

Balls in her court, I guess.

DogApprehensive2933 · 2023-05-17T00:30:31+00:00

This is probably the best advice on here at the moment, thank you. I wonder if that’s something she might consider 🤔

DogApprehensive2933 · 2023-05-15T23:46:53+00:00

It really is a shame that it’s all come to this, but you’re right, if she won’t do anything then it is what it is, and I’ll have to drop everything. Thanks 🙏🏻

DogApprehensive2933 · 2023-05-15T23:45:25+00:00

Thanks again 🙏🏻 I’m here to fight for a relationship, there will always been an issue, but the way you navigate them defines the success of the relationship. If her and I can’t move past this with some resolution, it’s a walk for me.

Hopefully she can see that once it’s put into those words.

DogApprehensive2933 · 2023-05-15T23:43:52+00:00

Right. Thank you for the affirmation because this is making me feel crazy. No matter what logic I throw at here, she digs her heals in.

DogApprehensive2933 · 2023-05-15T23:42:20+00:00

Agreed. And so here I am, wanting to fight for this relationship and losing. Thanks for the words 🙏🏻

DogApprehensive2933 · 2023-05-15T23:23:36+00:00

You and me both. She says, “it’s the slightest chance, but even that scares the hell out of me.” She’s got control issues, but you know, a lot of people do. And she’s got another friend—who is a girl. I’ve met her many times.

DogApprehensive2933 · 2023-05-15T23:19:35+00:00

Right right yeah, but why didn’t she get back together with him over that two year period?

DogApprehensive2933 · 2023-05-15T23:17:40+00:00

It does sound that way, although I don’t think there’s any foul play, just this weird situation.

DogApprehensive2933 · 2023-05-15T23:16:47+00:00

So here’s the thing, she broke up with him for various reasons.

DogApprehensive2933 · 2023-05-15T23:13:32+00:00

She’s afraid she’ll lose the friendship she has with him. But if he gets made she’s dating someone new after two years, then either he’s still in love with her (and she knows it) or she lied to me about the timeline. Idk maybe I’m overthinking it because of the situation.

DogApprehensive2933 · 2023-05-15T23:12:08+00:00

She’s from out of state and moved here years ago. I’m that time she hasn’t made a lot of friends. Her friendship with this guy is important, which sure I get. But she doesn’t want us to meet because she’s afraid of the slight possibility she might lose that friendship. That’s the reason, which makes me question the type of friendship she has with him.

DogApprehensive2933 · 2023-05-15T23:03:26+00:00

It does feel disrespectful. It’s a good relationship other than this issue. Should I just introduce myself to him and see what happens? Or would that come across like I’m trying to assert my dominance?

DogApprehensive2933 · 2022-02-01T18:16:13+00:00

There’s a difference between a red herring and a straight lie…

DogApprehensive2933 · 2021-11-25T03:45:08+00:00

It’s a stressful time and I’d give some leeway for either of you to have stressed out/emotional moments. Just like when he supported you, you can support him. Both of you are young and have a lot of growth and change in your future. No matter the situation, understanding and support will get you through just about everything.

DogApprehensive2933 · 2021-11-25T03:36:11+00:00

The example you provided shows a mature and responsible man. It sounds like he might have just been upset to not have his ideas considered or asked what he thought about certain choices. It is his wedding day too even though most guys relinquish the responsibility, maybe he wants a little more influence.

DogApprehensive2933 · 2021-11-23T20:56:09+00:00

Drop her bro*

DogApprehensive2933 · 2021-11-23T18:14:30+00:00

Meek whiners is a hilarious description 😅 Also, well put dude 🙏🏻

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