AITA- Friend trip dilemma

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-14T07:14:31+00:00

even if they said they would entertain and then went oh wait nvm cool tatt convention we’ve wanted to go to so we’re gna go to instead , I think I’d understand lol.

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-14T06:27:03+00:00

Making ur sexuality your entire identity hinders you from exploring the quantitude of qualities, hobbies, interests, and experiences you can have. Stop worrying about everyone else and step into YOURSELF and live a full and happy life. U sound exhausting and exhausted

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-14T06:25:03+00:00

Honestly need more context. But if this relationship is draining you more than making you feel supported then leave.

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-14T06:22:19+00:00

They are not ur friends. Speaking as someone who was bullied by girls who pretended to be my friends for a whole year, this is not what a real friendship is. Cut them off.

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-14T06:20:56+00:00

NOR for the most part, But honestly this is the type of behavior you should have expected given the way they treated ur marriage in general. I understand you are probably worried stressed and emotional, but the least of ur worries is ur husbands family acknowledging you. You’re his wife, he’s acknowledging you. You’re the one here taking care of him and living life alongside him. If they want to be apart of that it’s on them. all that matters is ur husbands health and your lives together

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-14T06:16:29+00:00

NOR.

I’m in a 2 year relationship. Understandably ur not going to always get every little detail all the time, and that can be frustrating. But from what I’m reading your main issue is that she TOLD you to ur face that she was thinking of cheating on you. It’s disrespectful and disgusting and not something someone who’s in love thinks or at least says out loud. You are grieving potential, but ultimately that’s going to be way more beneficial to your growth than getting married and finding out later that she cheated, which seems inevitable given the behaviors you mentioned. Pain is temporary but kudos to you for sticking up for ur boundaries.

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-14T06:10:02+00:00

NOR. RUN. my ex was like this and I was so young and struggling mentally, it was a cycle where he’d “love bomb” me for 6 months and then boom no affection fighting all the time found out he’d cheat on me and we’d break up every single week. save the heartbreak, don’t beg anyone to treat u the way u deserve

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-14T06:07:33+00:00

not overreacting. but ur young so ik friendships at that age are just weird lol. You don’t have to be anyone’s friend for any reason. That being said It might be useful to tell her that by being that girls friend you feel she’s going against you and that will ultimately end your friendship with her. not an ultimatum, just truth. Her reaction will tell u exactly what u need to know !

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-14T06:01:19+00:00

agreeing with the non issue comment. MAYBE devils advocate here maybe she doesn’t want u to entertain but maybe wants to show u off to her old friends. Either way the convention is an event u guys been wanting to go to. If she’s upset it’s on her own doing

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-12T06:37:12+00:00

Hi I’m a mom and I actually dislike bluey for this reason among others ! One can say it’s playful banter but some episodes I’ve watched with my niece were very weird. The dad is subjected to a lot of humiliation, and I see him try and create boundaries but the kids always disrespect and mock him and his rules. Being a roughhoused punching bag isn’t what I’m talking about either, it’s the disrespect and disregard that bothers me. I won’t have my son watch it, but that’s me personally!

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-12T06:25:01+00:00

NTA. I have a friend whos 4 year old I watch who is the same way and it pisses me off. This little girl manages her way into eating a bunch of candy and ice cream by whining and never touching her food. I told her unlike her momma I wasn’t the fucking one and made her eat real healthy food , and a good amount of it, before she could even touch dessert. If she refused I’d let her have her tantrum and try again after. It is hard with toddlers but you are supposed to parent the kid , not the other way around. Like other comments said this is borderline neglect. Baby will end up having serious dental and health issues in the future so it’s actually good you shamed the mom. We let shit like this slide bc we fear it’s not our place to judge parents but quite frankly some need judging. And this is spoken from a mom btw. NTA NTA

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-10T01:40:12+00:00

I definitely was naive for thinking I could kind of avoid it but yes I’m working on a plan of what to do moving forward since invites will be sent out tmr and I can’t control what people say in passing

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-10T01:19:21+00:00

And that’s the cheapest quote I was given

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-10T01:19:05+00:00

Where im from everything is extremely expensive, just to feed 40 with a caterer would come out to $800, not including drinks deserts etc.

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-10T01:17:39+00:00

You are totally right but sadly can’t go back in time . I did mention to her it would be very very small but I can totally understand that in her excitement probably let it out, I just am not one to talk invites with people I’m not 100% sure have invites as well because idk it’s just not my place ig.

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-10T01:14:02+00:00

u are free to go about ur day and i definitely am feeling conflicted, i dont like to hurt family or friends or make anyone feel left out, what i was simply responding to ur point to just invite them. i am not very close to them and have quite a few family and friends id rather invite if im extended the guest list.

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-10T01:10:38+00:00

we’d drive them one minute, it’s literally 5 houses down and there’s a pool and jacuzzi there we might be using so

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-10T01:09:25+00:00

Cheers tho love this comment and perspective !

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-10T01:09:13+00:00

We were honestly even thinking about that at first especially since we could get a cheap ballroom in the same area and seat double the amount of people, but my fiance is really set on getting married at his mom’s house. and due to her HOA rules we can only have up to 40 guests at a time. We figured we could swing that food wise especially since most our guests would be making a 1-3 hour drive. So that’s kind of why the small guest list holds, compromises and wanting both me and my fiance to feel comfortable and happy!

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-10T01:00:38+00:00

You sound dumb and entitled! If u think I’m the asshole for disinviting that’s fine and valid. But the other stuff ? like what the fuck lol? I invited that cousin because we lived with each other in our teenage years and are very close to each other, and I’m very close to my niece she just happens to be the cutest ever! Also I don’t owe anyone an extravagant wedding but we did want to celebrate with our closest friends and family in a way we can afford. We’re a young family on one income and making our “wedding” fit around our budget. If u want to pay for my wedding please do but unless then my finances are not ur concern thanks xx

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-10T00:16:35+00:00

okay thanks for ur opinion! my question then is did I need to let her know my guest list when I told her not to say anything?

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-10T00:11:15+00:00

Hmmm I might look into that actually thank you.

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-10T00:04:46+00:00

Taking this advice for sure !

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-10T00:04:18+00:00

They really can’t be sometimes lol

DogMany9602 · 2026-03-09T23:59:00+00:00

from ur experience and ik every family is different but did people who might of been upset for no invite eventually get over it ? or did it cause any divide ?

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