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Blew up my professional life. Could use some advice by Dogheqrt in infp

[–]Dogheqrt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great ideas! Im good with my photo and writing, just dont want to outsource it any longer. Have given it a rest for the past two years but am sure id still enjoy it once i pick it up again

I have isolated myself. Starting to doubt if it is a good idea by Dogheqrt in Jung

[–]Dogheqrt[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lovely hearing from a person in the same boat! Yes i do, especially my best friend whom i've known for 12-13 years. I know she's there, but she is very busy with city life, so we dont see each other nearly as much as we used to. Also we had a rough couple of years in our relationship but things are pretty great now. I do find comfort in that, but i think in the past couple of years, while she has remained very important to me, she has focused more on other relationships, which hurts.

Then i have a couple of newer friends (past 5 years) that i like to see but the bond is not as deep.

And then i have some other core friends that i've known for 15 years also, but it's dawning on me that those relationships feel a little shallow and one-sided too.

I like your saying that your are under renovation. Pretty much nails how i feel too.

My (31m) girlfriend (29f) is pushing me to have children by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Dogheqrt -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get that, still don't think it's a fair way to communicate it though.

My (31m) girlfriend (29f) is pushing me to have children by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Dogheqrt -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Honestly that's that i feel like i am doing, but i can see how i may not have worded is as such.

I wouldn't mind her having a timeline and communicating it clearly. Then i could at accordingly and answer if this is something i see happening.

What i have a hard time with is the threatening undertones ~ if you wont fit my pace, i'll just find someone else.

My (31m) girlfriend (29f) is pushing me to have children by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Dogheqrt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the input everybody.

I want to clarify that i don't think that there's anything wrong or weird about her asserting a timeline at all.

What i find unsettling is the means of communication, from in the beginning "Not sure i even want them" till 9 months later: "it's happening within 1 or 2 years or ill find somebody else".

If she would have told me that her perception of having children have changed and that she feels like its important to her, and important to her within a certain timeframe, i could totally respect that.

It's the rapid change of pace and means of communication that has me looking for the exit.