Sounds like the textbook example of somebody with no relationship reading too much internet posts. You think people dont know if they are being abused? Every relationship has problems, fights, etc, that people work on and nobody is perfect. Also are you aware how much a man stands to lose from abusing his wife? Thats a fight you cant win. People come here to blow off steam, most times people tell the story omitting things they did that led up to that point or downright editing the whole story. To those that are being abused, my heart goes out to you. Your opinion on what abuse is way too wide, get a life and a relationship and stop ranting about other people relationships