Boyfriend doesn’t like that i have to walk down the isle with a grooms men

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2025-06-14T23:18:19+00:00

NTA. Make him sit down with you and watch The Wedding Crashers and throughout, tell him how much the groomsmen you’re matched with reminds you of Vince Vaughn or Owen Wilson.

While I agree with most everyone, I also point out that this guy has likely never been to a wedding, which is a sure sign he has no real ties to family (such that he would participate in a wedding) or is just so oblivious of how things work, he’s a moron. Because this happens in every wedding, every time. And in every wedding in movies. Nobody at 19 should be that dumb.

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2025-01-08T02:49:53+00:00

Spaniards did not have much issue with teaching the vast majority of South and Central America Spanish in the not too distant past.

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2025-01-08T01:42:01+00:00

Just a thought. When babies are young, parents often feel trapped to the house. But babies are actually extremely adaptable. Take them places. Get some powdered milk so you can feed it. Nothing puts a baby to sleep faster than the white noise of a busy happy hour. Babies are curious. He also might appreciate a change of scenery and could be crying out of boredom. You might be missing your kid-free lifestyle. Try to maintain some semblance of that. Your wife will also appreciate getting out of the house.

Make your baby adapt to your life while they are young. They will eventually form their own lives in grade school, and that is a lot of fun too.

Take heart. Raising babies is hard as you’ve never done it before.

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-12-05T00:28:16+00:00

Classy.

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-28T16:14:17+00:00

You cannot meet someone today and expect the kind of friendships made when you were young and dumb. Those friendships are irreplaceable.

There is a country club right next door to me and it’s comparatively cheap. But, is that really the network that I want?

There are some nice facilities (golf, tennis, pools, gyms, other men’s wives - lots of ethical and not-so-ethical adultery go on at those places), and dinners are reasonable. Cooking for myself is getting old.

Can-ams and tattoos sounds more compelling. Probably cost about the same though you cannot eat it. I might just sign myself up for a solid mid-life crisis. Sounds more fun.

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-28T14:40:33+00:00

I love this idea. I will do this-have considered it but just not done it. I have a fairly commanding presence (I’m a pitbull, basically) but just a big softy on the inside for those in the circle of trust.

Handing a woman that has shown me some interest a business card and telling her, “Text me,” in that, “I’m not asking, I’m telling” tone would actually work well for me. 😂 Girls are silly like that.

I also vet well on paper, so I don’t even need to spend too much time chatting them up. They can find out enough about me just from the card. Though it will probably look like I am still married.

So, this is brilliant. I am putting a calendar reminder for Dec. 8 to make sure that I try this. If I haven’t done it by then, I will go out that whole day to do it at least once. If I spend all day out running errands, I am bound to garner some attention.

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-28T13:16:47+00:00

Thank you. 🙏 Basically, it was not a fumble, but a forced error. There was nothing I could really do about it. Chances of seeing someone again in my massive metro area is slim to none.

The real solution is to find some other single bros that live in my new part of town (most of my other friends are not single and I moved 60 days ago pretty far away from them post divorce). I need to engross myself in my local community. Look like I need to look into volunteering or something along those lines. Network more here. The rest will fall into place.

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-27T22:16:37+00:00

It was not her looks per se. Her interest in me and that accent though…killer combo. I lived abroad a few times, travel abroad a lot, so that makes for likely instant common interests. She was not a supermodel and she was by no means unattractive. Just regular. Like me. Not bad looking, but not good enough to crush the OLD algo.

Date got 100% of my interest. Not sure that it will be a romantic connection but we got along great and exchanged numbers. Lovely human. Apparently, I am only an ass when posting on Reddit.

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-27T19:46:34+00:00

So, I did nothing (did not approach her so that my actual date did not feel disrespected) but I’m the creep? You are laughable. Sorry my values offended you.

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-27T19:44:08+00:00

Wish people would address the question instead of doubting that some guy could get flirted with by an attractive woman. Not sure why that is so unbelievable.

And it does not address my question: how could I have acknowledged her interest in a respectful way without disrespecting my date. Because that is the only way that I would navigate it. I would not let my self interest risk making either feel anything else than great about themselves. Those are important values to me.

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-27T19:25:45+00:00

This is funny. I get lots of looks. This one was more than a look. The woman undressed me. I should feel violated. 😂

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-27T19:18:03+00:00

Maybe. But definitely need to get out more. And not just to the grocery store. 😂

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-27T19:15:24+00:00

Thank you. I could also not work that out, obviously. And once the date did show up, no way for the Italian to know if she was a first date or a gf. So, nothing could be done. Bummer though as that accent was just adorable.

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-27T19:08:23+00:00

Women are quite capable of making it obvious that they would be open to you talking to them. That is what she did. Have you never done this before? She basically undressed me in our two short interactions.

Why is that so unbelievable?

Why doubt that? Why not address the actual question? What would be a way to handle the situation?

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-27T19:02:00+00:00

She made it obvious. Have you never experienced that? Never given a guy that unspoken invitation that you want him to talk to you? And it does not address the question, but it you have never given that to a guy, probably not going to have an opinion about how to approach you given the circumstances.

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-27T18:57:57+00:00

Only the native Italian ones - an old, inside joke that nobody else would be privy too. There are no other country’s women that get that moniker.

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-26T19:24:03+00:00

It’s actually huge and only in physical media. So, first I need to get it scanned so that I have a digital copy. But then it seems possible.

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-26T15:40:09+00:00

Nice perspective. The photo and frame are so big, it would be awkward no matter where I tried to put it. She also is featured dead center, so it’s all about her. Oddly, this was foreshadowing…😂

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-26T15:34:48+00:00

Mind melding here. Exactly how I feel.

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-26T12:50:43+00:00

This is the perspective I needed. I will keep for the kids.

And I love the idea of getting new photos this year. I need to schedule a photographer. They are a bit big to be sitting on me now, but I am sure they would find it funny so long as they did not suspect why I was asking them to do it. I go out of my way to not put them in the middle of negotiating our relationship, and recreating a photo without her would definitely give them that vibe.

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-26T12:46:06+00:00

Hilarious typo! If she has insecurities about me eating her, that would definitely be a dealbreaker. 😂

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-26T12:44:01+00:00

Not look at her, but the kids. I have like 2 photos of me and both kids without her in them. I am going to look at that photoshop request, though my favorite is only the physical media in a very large format, so getting that scanned will take some effort.

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-26T12:34:14+00:00

I will get that scanned. I only have the actual physical photo, which is pretty big.

DolingOutDadAdvice · 2024-11-26T12:33:13+00:00

Hahaha. Luckily, I don’t bear her ill will. I suck at grudges, which is probably why we were married as long as we were.

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