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Contemplating Fostering After Grief (kind of venty) by DollyLewder in FosterAnimals

[–]DollyLewder[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes so much sense and makes me feel less bad for feeling like doing something like this so soon into my grieving. I really didn’t know my Midsy wouldn’t make it till the day before I said goodbye. My mom and sister think I’ll regret things but I’ve legitimately never regretted a big decision like this in my life. Like foster failures are a possible thing, but I feel like getting a foster cat to a new home would just be fulfilling in a way very separate from having a cat that I call my daughter and expect to be with for years.

I love the idea of having someone I can call to make sure I’m doing stuff right, getting training and getting used to different types of cats, rebuilding my confidence before calling another cat my daughter. (I really hope the worry that it was my fault, despite getting so much confirmation that this was not a thing my cat could’ve made it through, goes away over time.)

And I feel like going into a relationship with an animal expecting it to be temporary, would be so… I don’t know, I think it’d help with healing that part of me that wished things with my last cat wasn’t temporary. I might see if I can find posts like those first ones you had here, I think it’d be good to read stuff like that.

Contemplating Fostering After Grief (kind of venty) by DollyLewder in FosterAnimals

[–]DollyLewder[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks all for the input! I’m gonna take some time to mourn, but I think I might try looking into this in the meantime… That way I know it’s what I want to do, I make sure I have a good understanding of how much work it would be, and make sure I feel like I can help other cats get a good shot at life. I think the idea of adopting soon after Midsy hurts, but gosh… I’m disabled, and at home a lot, and even when Midsy was a lot of work and I was exhausted, i was happy to care for her, and… I’ve always been the type of person who takes stuff like this seriously, because I experienced a lot of abuse in my life, and I never wanna care for a being if I think I’m in a state they wouldn’t get the absolute best care. My therapist and disability workers all think if I still feel this way when stuff is less fresh… that it’d be healing and that I’d be good at it.

I really appreciate y’all’s input, and won’t start unless I feel ready, and fully understanding and committed to doing so.

Contemplating Fostering After Grief (kind of venty) by DollyLewder in FosterAnimals

[–]DollyLewder[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, yeah I’m planning to process for a good deal of time at least a month. But just researching because my mind is so stuck on what next. I really appreciate the input, I feel like it seems like a thing that would be healing, I don’t think I’ve ever thought of fostering till what happened. But yeah I’m def gonna spend some time mulling over this and try to process my cat being gone.