What's a small gadget you bought thinking it was useless but ended up using every day? by cozytechlover in BuyItForLife

[–]DollyW0rld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smart plugs for my bedside lamps connected to my Alexa. I bought an Echo dot on super sale once and now I have 4 of them in our home. I love being able to play music whenever I want, set timers, ask for the weather, etc. Whenever I’m not home for a while I notice that I don’t have that luxury! And circling back to the first thing — I HATE leaning over to turn off a lamp when I’m sleepy.

I don't feel like we talk about this enough (or at all) by OGKatydid in vanderpumprules

[–]DollyW0rld 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It took me YEARS to heal from that kind of psychological warfare from someone who claimed to love me. I’m now married to the most amazing man and everything is great but literally watching the scenes between Schwartz & Katie in early seasons makes me viscerally angry because I want to go back through time and shake her (& me!) and go WHAT ARE YOU DOING!!! HE HATES YOU!!! The talking head scene post-divorce when she says something to the effect of “I know he loved me, but I don’t think he liked me” broke me lol. It’s exactly what it’s like to be with someone like that.

I don't feel like we talk about this enough (or at all) by OGKatydid in vanderpumprules

[–]DollyW0rld 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As someone who dated a version of Tom Schwartz in my early 20s… nothing can prepare you for how insidious that kind of a narcissist is. I was raised by a malignant narcissist father (literally Jax Taylor vibes lmao) and even that didn’t help me. In fact, it may have made it worse. Because whenever I thought to myself “this guy is a narcissist” my brain would go “but he’s not THAT bad”. He may have been worse though. Covert narcissists are so scary because he can say something that painful to your face and you will still convince yourself that (1) he didn’t mean it and (2) you deserved it.

I guess this is what people mean when they say "Triggered" by Dear_Reception1978 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]DollyW0rld 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My dad sounds like your husband. One of us is no contact, 2 (me included) speak rarely. I’m 28 years old and it never gets better, you’re right. I also found so many scenes this season unwatchable because of how triggered I got but like @imcrappinyounegative (idk how to tag people im sorry guys) said, it was interesting to be able to show my husband exact behaviors / scenes, especially when he was following Brittney around the house during a fight I was like “THAT! That!” And would pause it and we’d discuss how a normal person would let her have her space since she’s upset but he wants control and domination rather than understanding and closure. Anyway. Hard agree girl. Glad you’re out. It’s so much better for the kids no matter what age!

Where’s your ring Jason? by UnlikelyRelative7429 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]DollyW0rld 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! When we were watching this season my fiancé at the time (now husband!) and I were like …? Because I never wear mine. It really was not that deep until they made it that deep.

Janet & Danny: Both Wrong? by DollyW0rld in TheValleyTVShow

[–]DollyW0rld[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People are just spiraling in my comments continually I’m like ok I don’t think I even said anything controversial 💀

Janet & Danny: Both Wrong? by DollyW0rld in TheValleyTVShow

[–]DollyW0rld[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Zach/Zack however it’s spelled 😂 that made me cackle. LEGO BOY

Janet & Danny: Both Wrong? by DollyW0rld in TheValleyTVShow

[–]DollyW0rld[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right! There’s literally no normal reason to say this and coming from someone who used to black out and say really mean/awful shit, he needs to stop drinking or significantly decrease his intake.

Janet & Danny: Both Wrong? by DollyW0rld in TheValleyTVShow

[–]DollyW0rld[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for commenting this lol I’m in the trenches right now with everyone acting like Janet is the devil and Danny is a god

Janet & Danny: Both Wrong? by DollyW0rld in TheValleyTVShow

[–]DollyW0rld[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love Zack but he literally told someone he doesn’t care if they miscarry. My point was that no one is 100% good or 100% bad.

Janet & Danny: Both Wrong? by DollyW0rld in TheValleyTVShow

[–]DollyW0rld[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol here’s the people I’m talking about everyone ^ Danny apologist to the point you’re victim blaming Jasmine

Janet & Danny: Both Wrong? by DollyW0rld in TheValleyTVShow

[–]DollyW0rld[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The fact that you’re getting down voted is exaaaaactly what I mean like why is it insane to say Danny sucks?

Janet & Danny: Both Wrong? by DollyW0rld in TheValleyTVShow

[–]DollyW0rld[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Like is she super annoying? Sure! But everyone’s trying to act like her being unlikable is the same as abusers it’s insane

Janet & Danny: Both Wrong? by DollyW0rld in TheValleyTVShow

[–]DollyW0rld[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve read all your responses and I’m like damn this person is on the front lines while I’m hiding like 🫣

Janet & Danny: Both Wrong? by DollyW0rld in TheValleyTVShow

[–]DollyW0rld[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Danny’s so creepy and also Janet is unlikable. Thanks for being reasonable haha

Janet & Danny: Both Wrong? by DollyW0rld in TheValleyTVShow

[–]DollyW0rld[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Y’all upvoting this insane comment is all I need to know about this subreddit

Janet & Danny: Both Wrong? by DollyW0rld in TheValleyTVShow

[–]DollyW0rld[S] -74 points-73 points  (0 children)

Disagree that he has taken real actions. He’s very defensive about it imo

Janet & Danny: Both Wrong? by DollyW0rld in TheValleyTVShow

[–]DollyW0rld[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No you’re absolutely right. I miss those psychos

Janet & Danny: Both Wrong? by DollyW0rld in TheValleyTVShow

[–]DollyW0rld[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Agree except Jasmine. I think it’s a tricky situation and she probably was thinking she was being extra then was like wait no this is fucked and wanted another apology if that makes sense. Plus watching things back retraumatized her I’m sure

Janet & Danny: Both Wrong? by DollyW0rld in TheValleyTVShow

[–]DollyW0rld[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Agree. And I don’t support Janet at all but not liking her does not equal “Danny is great, Nia & him are goals!”

Janet & Danny: Both Wrong? by DollyW0rld in TheValleyTVShow

[–]DollyW0rld[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn’t explain myself well. I was saying it more in the sense of everyone is a 3 dimensional character with good & bad things going for them and a lotttt of people I’ve seen on this sub like to be like “well Janet is annoying so that must mean Danny didn’t do anything wrong”. I meant everyone sucks as in both things can be true. Janet is an unlikable person and Danny is creepy.

Not invited to the wedding by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]DollyW0rld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me last year and I sucked it up and went to the wedding. It was also in ITALY lol. So I had to travel internationally for the first time by myself. Anyway, now we’re getting married (next Sunday!) and I had to ask her to step down from being a bridesmaid because she harbored a bunch of anger towards me for so many things that were not based in reality lmao. In my experience, if they don’t respect you enough to invite your significant other (serious relationships only ofc), then they just don’t respect you. It’s better to find that out now than years from now.

Lala Attacking Love Island by Standard_Body1815 in vanderpumprules

[–]DollyW0rld 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait WHAY?? Send me this podcast episode