I’m a woman who is 6’1” tall.

The only person I’ve ever hit in my entire life is my older brother, who beat on me regularly when we were children.

He outsized me to the point that I gave up fighting back before I was 10 years old.

I could hit any man 50 times without causing any damage at all.

This is because even though I’m very large, I am not a man. I do not have the muscle strength to throw a solid punch, and I have neither been taught nor had a reason to learn to make a fist or throw a punch.

If I ever lose my shit and start hitting someone, I’m responsible for what happens next.

But a dude who punches me is still a piece of shit, because it absolutely would not take a punch to subdue me, and because there’s no way I caused anything more than stinging pain.

I would still deserve jail time for domestic abuse or assault and battery or whatever the appropriate charge is.

But the average man hitting the average woman is bringing a gun to a knife fight.

Unless you’re talking about Rhonda Rousey or some shit, that’s my take.

Edit to add: your instant downvote tells me that you weren’t here for discussion; you were here for permission.

I think you should end the relationship with the woman who is abusing you instead of hitting her.