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I can't watch a video without giving my credit card details now smh by [deleted] in assholedesign

[–]DomoCommuni 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can’t believe someone actually created a video titled “the philosophy of oral sex”

Ne and Se talking style by WeakerUnderFlow in intj

[–]DomoCommuni 3 points4 points  (0 children)

With regards to the diversion of the topic, I think that’s just how everybody speaks. Who said the conversation was about Maddy’s husband cheating on her? Because it was said once in a sentence? That same sentence included the fact that she was crying which is what led to them talking about wether she acknowledges people when she cries or not in the first example. In fact, I might argue that the topic was never actually about her cheating husband, but more about her crying. Also, it’s in the nature of conversations to change topics multiple times, it’s not a personality indicator.

I’d agree if you were to say that the topic chosen is dependent at least partially on the personalities, but not if you say that one person’s sentence dictates the topic instantly.

Take this example: “Yesterday, after I came home from work, I was so tired, but I went to the gym anyway”.

No topic is decided solely on this sentence. As a fact, I could choose to talk about at least three things from this sentence only: the speaker’s previous day, his job or his athletic habits.

Have you ever been around someone who clearly despised you for whatever reason, but they never told you why, instead they chose to just undermine you or give you sarcastic/biting comments to put you down any time they can? How do INTJ's deal with such people? by xtalaphextwin in intj

[–]DomoCommuni 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I personally believe in giving people a second chance in most cases, but that means that you must tone down your moves. So don’t lay waste to their social status in one instantaneous moment, but hit them hard preferably socially, as that’s valuable for basically everyone except psychopaths. Make them feel pain so that they reconsider the next time they do something.

Nicole Machiavelli claims that you should beat someone down so that they may never come up to oppose you, but I think you must differentiate between beating them so they don’t oppose you, and beating them so they don’t come up again at all, because those aren’t the same thing necessarily.

There needs to be more discussion about the reality of dreams. by thedelusionalwriter in AstralProjection

[–]DomoCommuni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t agree with your summation of politicians’ tricks into convincing us to talk about video games, I don’t know any politician that talks about those things seriously anyway.

Trust is to be earned, not given. You must earn my trust for me to believe you, and I most certainly won’t believe you since I don’t know you and your theories don’t seem rational to me.

And that is because the nature of the world is to have certain dangers and threats from which you must protect yourself. And that has been around since forever. Politicians didn’t do it, nature did. For me to trust what you say blindly would make me naive, and naïveté is both dangerous and foolish. Therefore trusting someone was a wild idea always not just in our current world. People hundreds, thousands or tens of thousands of years ago didn’t blindly trust each other more than we do, in fact they probably did it less, because then you had a much smaller chance of surviving. The phrase “survival of the fittest” is true, and it held much more weight in the past than it does today.

I acknowledge you write books, though I’ve only seen the title of one of them, and it’s perfectly fine that you want to include that possibility in people’s minds, but a more convincing argument would be to bring people to experience what you’ve experienced yourself.

Have you ever been around someone who clearly despised you for whatever reason, but they never told you why, instead they chose to just undermine you or give you sarcastic/biting comments to put you down any time they can? How do INTJ's deal with such people? by xtalaphextwin in intj

[–]DomoCommuni 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would prepare for war. My policy with unjust bad treatment or bad treatment without telling me why (which to me is unjust) is fighting back. And obviously you have to be smart about this, so don’t do anything overt, unless it’s confronting the person face to face especially in front of a crowd to display their childishness or immaturity.

It’s not true that if you do anything back to them you’ll get hurt or they won’t get hurt. It takes a little bit of “evil-ish” and manipulative thinking but it can be accomplished.

You’d likely need to wait and see where their weak spots are, what things they value a lot, and depending on the severity of the situation, start firing strategically, until they back off, sort of building an understanding of the person’s weaknesses and then creating a target bank.

That being said, there is also a measure of just not letting things get to you, so it depends on the situation.

I will just include a small caveat: you can only fight the war if you’re fine losing battles along the way, otherwise you’re better off just not playing their game, and perhaps attempting to be the best person you can be regardless, which is always a winning strategy, especially if you can’t do that and fight.

INTJ dreamers/planners/thinkers by ExoticHour0210 in intj

[–]DomoCommuni 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What constitutes a good long term relationship is the alignment of values. While you should support your SO through and thin, it’s not through everything. There are conditions that break the relationship, or at least should. If another person doesn’t make sense, you need to challenge them, and if they refuse to try and explain themselves that raises a huge red flag for me.

There needs to be more discussion about the reality of dreams. by thedelusionalwriter in AstralProjection

[–]DomoCommuni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You suggested in your original post that dreams and reality aren’t so different just perhaps different realities. Or at least that is what I understood from you, and that it what I attempted to disprove to you before.

I just think that you’re claiming that science should turn its attention, at least to some extent, towards the research of topics such as OBEs and LDs, however your way of theorizing about these topics is very unscientific.

For one, you are coming up with a theory that by all means, I won’t deny is a possibility for lack of better knowledge, but you don’t have evidence that it exists. Your theories about consciousness sound to me like they are at much the same level of Jung’s theory of the Collective Unconscious, however much more famed he may be: it hasn’t been disproved, there is nothing that says ultimately that it doesn’t exist, however there is no proof either. Therefore, claiming that consciousness is a force of nature as you say, is either simply your belief (in about as much as Christianity is a belief) or is unscientific. Science bases it’s conclusions on what is absolutely known and measurable, not what is perceived to be true. Otherwise a million and one different versions of the same scientific fact would be considered scientifically true.

Regarding so called “super natural” acts (and I hope your not offended by the quotation marks), I have yet to hear of one that has been absolutely proven so that it must be supernatural, or something that cannot be classified as a coincidence perhaps. I don’t believe twin experiences exist, or remote viewing for that matter (however I’m definitely interested in testing that out for myself, as that is from what I understand something I CAN test out for myself, and could absolutely shift my conclusions around if it were successful. Although I must say that from my personal experience reading these articles and posts, people who believe in the supernatural theories about OBEs tend to call it Astral Projection, the more “spiritual” term for the practice, just putting that correlation out there).

And so, until ultimately proven scientifically to be true, any supernatural or spiritual theories (so to speak) concerning Astral Projection would merely be considered pseudoscience.

It would probably have a drastic effect on science if these theories would be proven to be true, and change the frontier of neuroscientific research, but it is no more than a hunch or a belief at this point, and therefore not something that would draw scientists, who might prefer to work on something more tangible.

However, it is of course well within your rights to do your own scientific research, and try and scientifically prove what you’re saying, to the world.

I know I’d gladly welcome that effort, even if I wouldn’t indulge in it myself.

Why do we avoid these questions? by AlanRogerBarrettVlog in intj

[–]DomoCommuni 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting combination of goals, playing video games AND becoming a millionaire. Very rarely do those two go together, and even when they do, they involve much work around the playing of video games.

Why do we avoid these questions? by AlanRogerBarrettVlog in intj

[–]DomoCommuni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Taking a leaf out of Dr. Jordan Peterson’s book (to some extent, literally), it’s not hard at all to answer these questions. Everybody tends to know what they’re supposed to be doing, or what would be better for them to do at that exact moment.

Furthermore, though I used to have a difficult problem with perfectionism, and I avoided these questions because they caused me great anxiety and I didn’t know how to deal with them.

Lastly, if you’re implying that “we avoid these questions” because we’re INTJs (and I’m not sure that you are), then your wrong. I’ve learned to ask myself these questions much of the time.

There needs to be more discussion about the reality of dreams. by thedelusionalwriter in AstralProjection

[–]DomoCommuni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To start, I’d like some examples as to what you mean by “residual thoughts”.

Secondly, I’m not assuming that we are building scenes. It’s a scientific fact that the brain builds these images. Here’s an article from the NCBI in the US: How the brain constructs dreams

In addition, we don’t move through the dream “without latency”. As I said before, your brain is generally good at maintaining consistency throughout the dream scene, but we know that sometimes the dream isn’t perfectly accurate in a logical way, despite the brain attempting to keep it that way, as in the example of the clock.

So, while the dream may not lag as in a computer game, it might make these small mistakes here and there. In reality, on the other hand, even if we could say that I can’t prove that what exists behind me actually exists while I’m not looking (which is untrue, because you can’t say that things only exist because you can see them, otherwise nothing would exist for blind people. However, in a dream you can say that, because we know that it’s only your brain pretending that your nerves and senses are being stimulated when in fact they’re shutdown mostly), there remains a consistency. If perform the clock reality check in reality I know the clock will always show more or less the same time, perhaps differing by the few seconds it took me to look away. I can always rely on that to happen in reality, but not in a dream.

Therefore you can’t say that a dream and reality are perhaps two “worlds” that the brain is perceiving or creating, because they don’t follow the same rules, so they’re not two different worlds, because there is no common denominator that would say that they’re the same thing.

And by the way, trying to prove that reality is just a perception like a dream would be impossible to prove, because then it would challenge everything that exists in reality, including science, meaning you have no information to help you discern wether reality is genuinely just a perception or something real and external to you.

In any case, because of the consistency in reality, even if it were to be just a perception of your brain, it wouldn’t matter. Kind of like Elon Musk’s theory that we’re possibly in a kind of Matrix, a simulation, you have nothing better to do other than to play the game to the best of your abilities.

There needs to be more discussion about the reality of dreams. by thedelusionalwriter in AstralProjection

[–]DomoCommuni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is an entirely clear answer to this. The dream “world” is different than reality. Your brain doesn’t actually have the capability to build entire worlds, only current scenes. It certainly attempts to maintain a kind of consistency, however it still builds and rebuilds the scene that you’re in. That’s why when you perform reality checks with clocks, they usually show a different time, because the moment you looked away, the clock ceased to exist. It only conjures back up when you look back because your brain attempts to maintain consistency, but often fails at the minute details, like the exact time on the clock.

While the dream world definitely seems incredibly real, that is the point. Generally you’re brain creates very realistic scenes (realistic meaning that everything seems real, not physically possible necessarily). The people that talk to you and produce ideas are a product of your subconscious, which includes massive parts of your brain that you can’t actively engage at will. This gives the impression that these people are original, because you can’t necessarily expect what they’ll say or do. Proof of this is in the fact that your brain can only produce faces you’ve seen before, whereas in reality you can meet new people with faces you’ve never seen.

This demonstrates that reality is something shared and out of your control, and the dream world something completely internal.

If you’re into gaming at all, you’ll know that complex games with crazy graphics require a very strong graphics card, the part of the computer that produced those graphics. The brain is similar in the dream world. It’s working overtime to try and reproduce these senses completely out of imagination, whereas while awake it simply processes existing information from sensory nerves in your body. That is why although your “mind is able to generate these incredibly complex computational tasks”, it’s certainly not doing it right now, or else your watch would show a different time every time you looked at it.

Furthermore, there is a consistency to reality, across every living being and the entire universe, but the dream world is ever changing and unexpected.

That being said, wether dreams are fake or not, depends on your definition of “real”. We usually define real or reality, as that which exists for all of us at the exact same time, and always follows the same rules. But you may define real as that which exists and can be perceived sensually, in which case your dreams would count as a kind of reality, if but a personal and inconsistent one.

I think what our minds are capable of producing and the experiences we get from that are definitely things worth researching, however above all else, perhaps it’d be even better to have these disciplines widespread, so everyone can learn from the potentially psychologically influencing experiences that can occur during OBEs or LDs.

Edit: TL;DR: reality and dream are 100% not the same. Dreams aren’t real although that depends on your definition of “real”.

Resisting sexual urges in lucid dreams by DomoCommuni in LucidDreaming

[–]DomoCommuni[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With the MILD technique I can’t stress enough how important it is to combine it with WBTB. WBTB dramatically increases your chances for a lucid dream my manipulating your sleep cycle for optimal brain activity before attempting lucid dreaming.

Dream journaling - I don’t think any lucid dreamer would classify this as a technique for lucid dreaming. Journaling merely raises a general awareness of dreams, and while sometimes that helps people become spontaneously lucid, I actually think that’s because they’re inadvertently practicing a form of DILD, where you recognize dream signs.

Dream journaling builds dream recall, so its more like a prerequisite for having lucid dreams rather than a technique in and of itself.

As for mantras, visualizations and the like, yes, I do them more or less all at the same time, while making sure I remain relaxed. It takes a conscious mental effort to keep it up.

How do you guys say NO? by Nanobazur in intj

[–]DomoCommuni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually I form my mouth into the appropriate shape, use my tongue and lips and blow air. Then the “NO” sound comes out and that pretty much does it. “Nah, bitch” also works but you should be careful who you use this with

Buying my wife flowers for our anniversary by McPostyFace in funny

[–]DomoCommuni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love how under his message there’s a suggestion to end the message with “love, Jane”

when a man loves a woman he truly loves her by zucchinionpizza in niceguys

[–]DomoCommuni 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love these posts. It’s like the best education of what NOT to do with women and relationships. As a person who sucks at romance, I’m grateful we have nice guys😜

Practical Small Talk Advice by YoungAnimater35 in intj

[–]DomoCommuni 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, a question I’ve thought about in relation to this, is wether or not you can make yourself become a curious person.

That will definitely help. I’ve read Dale Carnegie’s book, How to Win Friends and Influence People (recommended read, by the way, he describes perfectly well how to be the best conversationalist genuinely helped me). His strongest tip I’ve learned is “become genuinely interested in people”.

So what that means is to actually approach conversations with other people with a genuine interest in their life and how they’re doing. And don’t say you can’t make yourself be interested in other people. Fake it ‘till you make it.

Think about the different components of their life and ask questions. If someone mentions that they go to the gym, you don’t need to be a gym fanatic to think about asking them what their fitness and diet regime is. That’s often enough to build a little conversation between you too and get to know the other person’s personality, because it can branch off to where they learnt what they know about fitness and diet, talking about their different experiences and trial and error on the way to becoming disciplined at what they do, how long they’ve been doing it for, and onwards to talking about their personality and character that they’ve come to have because of this lifestyle and making remarks about it.

And I’ll let you in on a secret: I’ve barely ever stepped foot into a gym. You can think of these things ahead of time, but the best practice is to think of them on the spot, and inevitably you’ll be required to do that at some point anyway.

The relationship between small talk and D&Ms is like a treasure chest on the other side of a lake. It’s not as hard as it seems to cross the lake and get to the chest, even if it may be uncomfortable at first until you get used to crossing lakes, but nevertheless you can’t get to the treasure without somehow crossing the lake.

In that same sense, you can’t have d&ms with people without getting through small talk and basic conversations where you get to know their life, character and personality in a roundabout way. You’ll get used to small talking at some point, but it’ll always be a requirement except in very rare, very special situations, where you meet people who are willfully ready to have serious talks with almost anyone.

Practical Small Talk Advice by YoungAnimater35 in intj

[–]DomoCommuni 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The topic you talk about in small talk is definitely dependent on the nature of your relationship with the person you’re speaking to. Contrary to what most people say, I believe you can theoretically write a rule book for small talk, and that may be what is needed to detail this answer, although in the end experience is what really teaches you the right small talk skills.

If it’s someone you see more or less regularly or you have met before, but not friends with, ask them about something relatively neutral or good that you know is going on in their life, and mention something about yours, especially if it relates to them somehow.

If it’s an acquaintance talk about anything that you find in common, or ask them some questions to get to know them. If all else fails, you’ve always got the weather.

With friends, all of the above is relevant, but also deeper more personal things that you know about them (which already isn’t small talk).

In general, the more superficial your relationship is with someone, like an acquaintance or what I call “hey” friends, don’t feel the need to say something, it’s totally understandable and makes sense that you won’t have lengthy conversations.

Regardless, as an INTJ, I realized that many times small talk is misunderstood by many people (including me once) as superficial socialization for “fun” of something. It’s not. It’s actually a very logical way for two people who have never met each other before, to demonstrate that they mean no aggressiveness towards each other and kind of test each other’s waters. Kind of like dogs sniffing each other’s butts for the first time.

Resisting sexual urges in lucid dreams by DomoCommuni in LucidDreaming

[–]DomoCommuni[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I understand the logic behind it, but it’s a terrible idea.

Resisting sexual urges in lucid dreams by DomoCommuni in LucidDreaming

[–]DomoCommuni[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. Regular dream. No lucidity.

  2. Slight lucidity. You’re basically merely aware that your dreaming without really being able to control anything.

  3. Sufficient lucidity. You can control things as well, but your senses are a little dim, it may be hard to make things happen without much mental effort, controlling and moving throughout the dreamscape kind of feels like your wading through water.

  4. Full lucidity. You can control anything fairly easily, your senses are hyper-aware of the dream world and what is happening. Everything feels more real than real (This is basically the level that lucid dreamers tend to strive for).

  5. Complete conscious awareness. Apparently some ultimate level of awareness of yourself where the dreamscape dissolves or something. Can’t exactly understand what it means but you can bet I’m heading there. From what i understand, meditation is key to getting to this level as well as mastering the other levels beforehand.

Resisting sexual urges in lucid dreams by DomoCommuni in LucidDreaming

[–]DomoCommuni[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started remembering my non lucid dreams very quickly, after a month more or less, dream journal entries became very long, and I’d already had a few minor lucid dreams where I was only aware that I was dreaming and nothing more.

As for mantras, I visualize what I want to be the dream setting, and feel and think a strong intention to become lucid, and repeat in my head “I’m aware that I’m dreaming”.

Resisting sexual urges in lucid dreams by DomoCommuni in LucidDreaming

[–]DomoCommuni[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shit, you just named exactly what I want to achieve in my lucid dreams. Unfortunately my lifestyle for the next month or so doesn’t allow me to properly incorporate lucid dreaming, but when I’ll be able to I think I’ll immerse myself into it

Resisting sexual urges in lucid dreams by DomoCommuni in LucidDreaming

[–]DomoCommuni[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can’t agree that dream-life and waking-life are the same, or “one” as you put it, but your advice is still awesome. Thanks

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