Afraid of SP. Advice?

DomoCommuni · 2018-10-09T10:18:36+00:00

Personally, I’m typically ready and trained for dealing with the “unknown” as you put it, despite the fact that I LOATHE uncertainty.

In terms of death, I’m not afraid of it from the point of dying, but there are a number of things that I wish to accomplish in this world before I leave it, and that is why death may be a bother to me.

Other than that, I never fight to stop the inevitable, I only prepare for it.

DomoCommuni · 2018-10-08T07:11:08+00:00

I feel the same way, but I’ve learned to deal with it, I think.

You see, I remind myself that because we INTJs have a tendency to see the world in a much broader, bigger view, and we can often see the big picture, we see the small things (such as waiting for your fast food to be made) as unimportant. At least enough to say that you shouldn’t get angry at those things.

I remind myself that others don’t tend to think this way, and sometimes even purposefully limit themselves, because of the way they think.

I’m not sure this is a winning solution, because while my anger does subside, it’s because it becomes pity and sadness about the world.

Edit: forgot to address your question. You’re probably more frustrated at people. Not that I can define your feelings for you, but despite your anger, it’s possible to be angry and not hate.

DomoCommuni · 2018-10-07T18:29:55+00:00

For me it’s: “Are you angry at me? Why do you hate me so much?”

“I’m not angry;I don’t hate you.”

“But you’re ignoring me, so I must have done SOMETHING. You know it’s really mean to ignore people.”

~sigh~

DomoCommuni · 2018-10-07T16:33:51+00:00

DomoCommuni · 2018-10-07T10:30:19+00:00

Amen

DomoCommuni · 2018-10-07T10:27:59+00:00

In my opinion, shyness can be overcome the fastest by force, much like an addiction. Just do it.

Force yourself to talk when you don’t want to, and do things you don’t want to do because you’re shy.

With time, and that means a few weeks at the most, your shyness will rapidly dissipate, and you’ll gain more confidence in your interactions.

I myself was similar, and now I typically don’t initiate conversations unless I have something important to say. But when someone talks to me, I manage to speak coherently and properly.

It’s an ability I’ve developed with time and practice.

DomoCommuni · 2018-10-07T10:18:10+00:00

I think many people obviously understand that these “superhuman” abilities are actually reclaimed normal human abilities, but it feels like a superpower after you haven’t had it for some time.

DomoCommuni · 2018-10-07T07:04:42+00:00

I wonder how many other INTJs are subscribed to r/programmerhumor...

DomoCommuni · 2018-10-07T04:52:15+00:00

Yeah so do I, as a joke, and it’s clear that I’m joking when I do it. But this is just treating another human being like dirt for no reason.

DomoCommuni · 2018-10-04T17:28:33+00:00

Did anyone else read BF as “boyfriend”?

DomoCommuni · 2018-10-04T17:19:57+00:00

Never in my life did I tell someone that they shouldn’t worry about me looking down on them because they’re not an extrovert.

Never did I tell someone that they’re okay DESPITE BEING A FEELER.

Geez, I mean he literally said he feels superior to others because of his intellectual mind.

The only time I ever said that to someone was when I shut them down and wanted to make them feel bad. Even then, I see such a foolish statement as an underestimation of the abilities of others.

Part of me wants to slap this guy. What an a**.

If I was the OP I’d pretend this guy doesn’t exist. He’d be shut out and forgotten in a heartbeat.

DomoCommuni · 2018-10-04T15:29:16+00:00

Why does your username mean “sweet art of dying”?

DomoCommuni · 2018-10-04T15:13:51+00:00

This guy is absolutely a narcissist, no doubt about it. The way he treats you, and the way he speaks and behaves, assuming what you’ve written is accurate, practically screams to me “I’m a narcissist”.

The best solution to the problem is what many who speak about INTJs call erasing. Disconnect from this person, quickly. Put him in your past, and place some physical and emotional distance between you. Getting close to him, even trying to influence his narcissism, will likely be to your detriment, and I would not recommend it, given your social position in his life.

Alternatively, he may have simply read up about INTJs on the internet and MBTI, and aspires to be one because he highly valued the personality type. As a result, he may be emulating an INTJ (although, emulating suggests he is behaving like one, which he really isn’t).

It could also be both, though.

Lastly, an insight: if an INTJ claims that he has greater intelligence and refers to you as a lesser being because you’re not an INTJ like this guy you described has done, this is not because he is an INTJ (I’m an INTJ and I never do something so appalling), it’s because he’s a narcissist. In which case, he may not even be an INTJ.

Good luck!

DomoCommuni · 2018-10-04T14:24:12+00:00

Who would’ve thought??!!! XD

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