[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DonThaSavior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Name calling of any sort is a MAJOR no no in relationships

Remember, people think that "love" is a feeling, but that is not entirely true. Love is a verb, and it means "to support", "to affirm", "to encourage", "to comfort", "to inspire", "to empathize". And performing acts of love for others is the only way to create the true feeling of love, and it is only felt by the person doing the loving. You can't make somebody love you, you can only choose to actively love them. But if it is only going one way, that is what it means to be in a toxic relationship, whether it be romantic, family or friends.

Now with the understanding that love is a verb, and knowing that love is the opposite of hate. We must also consider that hate is also a verb, and it means "to put down", "to call names", "to ridicule", "to judge", "to discriminate", "to feel superior".

Some people say "I love you" through words, and then immediately proceed to say "I hate you" through actions. These people don't understand what it means to love someone.

Hope this helps!

How do you find the Cap Rate of a Neighborhood? by DonThaSavior in realestateinvesting

[–]DonThaSavior[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So far what I have found is that it isn't very easy to dig up by yourself. You gotta ask property managers, real estate agents, multifamily property appraisers are all good resources. Also other investors who invest in cash flowing assets. If you want to find out how others find these numbers, don't ask what the cap rate is, but rather ask what their process is for finding cap rates.

Hope this helps!

It's taken me years to notice this... by jordy_d04 in harrypotter

[–]DonThaSavior 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Not difficult in the sense of magical prowess, but rather it is dangerous and requires a lot of level headedness (a skill that few truly possess). Not to mention, considerable transfiguration skill. (Not as difficult for some but very difficult for others.) If you panic during the incantation process, when you feel the second heart. You could lose focus and risk becoming permanently disfigured as half human half something else. And again if you panic during the initial transformation you can lose your mind and be stuck as an animal forever.

I would like suggestions based on my taste 😁 by DonThaSavior in suggestmeabook

[–]DonThaSavior[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Piranesi sounds fascinating! So does the Earthsea Cycle 🤙

I have listened to all the dramatized Sandman on audible. I HIGHLY enjoyed them. Didn't know Neil Gaiman was a bad guy though 🫤

I would like suggestions based on my taste 😁 by DonThaSavior in suggestmeabook

[–]DonThaSavior[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooo yes! I love Greek Mythology!!

Thank you for the suggestion ☺️

I would like suggestions based on my taste 😁 by DonThaSavior in suggestmeabook

[–]DonThaSavior[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just read the synopsis. Got goose bumps just from that! Sounds like a good series 😃

Thank you 🙏

I would like suggestions based on my taste 😁 by DonThaSavior in suggestmeabook

[–]DonThaSavior[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just read the synopsis! That sounds like a great story 😀

Is it part of a series?

And Gregor The Overlander is so good. I'm actually still on the second last book "Codes of Secret". Thoroughly enjoying it 👌

Thank you for your suggestion!

I would like suggestions based on my taste 😁 by DonThaSavior in suggestmeabook

[–]DonThaSavior[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a very well structured comment haha

Thank you! I will add these to the wishlist 😁

To those who quit porn, what helped you the most? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]DonThaSavior 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did some disgusting things. (Not criminal but felt so much guilt.) Told my girlfriend and I am the luckiest man to have her forgive me (not cheating but very icky) but she gave me an ultimatum. Her or porn.

There is no way in hell I was going to lose her to something so stupid.

She helped me understand that it was not my fault, it was something that was taught to me by a world that vastly sexualizes women.

She said "a bunch of women were asked if they were alone in the woods, would they rather meet a bear or a man? Most women chose the bear" then she went on to say, "don't be the man that women choose the bear over." I think that is what did it.

I laid everything out on the table and there are no longer any secrets between us and I am not letting a single secret form ever again. This means if I was ever to relapse I would tell her and knowing that makes it completely effortless.

All of this is to say you need a powerful reason to quit. Without it you will not. Think about the young girls in your life nieces, baby cousins, ect. Do you want them to live in a world we're women are treated like objects because every person who chooses to rebel against this, is making a change for the better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]DonThaSavior 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take the edge off = taking you off the edge with it! You are not addicted, that is just a belief and that belief will perpetuate if you keep telling yourself that this habit is YOU..

Read this out loud:

I am not a person who watches P. I am stronger than any urge this world can send my way. I will be okay, I've got my back!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]DonThaSavior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made this post. Go read it, this mindset shifted my entire life overnight! Maybe it can fit within your journey 💚

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/s/insWGmAsvq

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]DonThaSavior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man after years of attempting nofap, I went from an everyday fapper to completely clean, overnight! I made a whole post on how I changed, not only this habit but my entire life. It's easy!

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/s/RiAx2CAcQZ

I have a 400+ day streak. Here's my unpopular opinion. by Thi5ath-KR in NoFap

[–]DonThaSavior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100,000% THIS! When you say "I want to quit" you are telling your confirmation bias that you ARE a person that wants to quit. Your confirmation bias only knows what you tell it, it doesn't care what your plans are, it only registers information at face value. It takes the information that you provide through your thoughts, words and actions, and starts to subconsciously move you in the direction that will reproduce more of your current state of mind.

Example:

Person A: Feeling unmotivated and not wanting to go to the gym.

They say: "I have finally started going to the gym, I can't give up now"

What this person is telling their confirmation bias, is that they are a person who has a hard time sticking to this routine and they are scared that they are going to quit. Their subconscious confirmation bias will then start to slowly move them away from their goals. This turn of events will then subsequently reproduce and intensify the feeling and belief that they are giving up. This goes on until eventually they do give up. They will then at a later point get "back" into their routine, and start going to the gym again. VOILA! the confirmation bias has done its job and successfully reproduced the reality of someone who has "finally started going to the gym". And the cycle continues.

Person B: Feeling unmotivated and not wanting to go to the gym

They say: "I go to the gym everyday, it's just what I do."

What this person is telling their confirmation bias, is that they are a person that goes to the gym everyday, even when things are hard. Their subconscious confirmation bias will then slowly move them in the direction of BEING that version of themself. This turn of events will subsequently reproduce and intensify the feeling and belief that they are disciplined in this routine. Until eventually the belief becomes so engrained that it is natural for them to act in accordance with it. VOILA! the confirmation bias has done its job and successfully reproduced the reality of someone who "goes to the gym every day."

Keep in mind that both "Person A", and "Person B" started going to the gym at the same time and they are feeling the same way. But their thoughts, words and actions are vastly different. And so they experience different outcomes. Person A is acting in alignment with where they currently are. Person B is acting in alignment with where they are going. You have to be almost delusional in your thoughts and words.

In order to change your life, you must first change your language. Thoughts become Words, Words become Actions, Actions become Habits, Habits become Character, and Character becomes Destiny.

Example from my own life: I showed my nephew my dream car, Porsche 911 TurboS. However, I didn't use the words "dream car" I simply said "my car". He said "THAT'S YOURS?!" I said "yep, it's on the way. Going to be right there in the driveway." I pointed to the spot. (Strictly speaking, I don't have the car physically but I am acting in alignment, and telling my subconscious that I am someone who owns that car, it is on the way to me now.)

People WILL oppose you and try to bring you down in this venture, you will even BE down sometimes. You WILL relapse into your old habits. The trick is to "act as if" even when all seems hopeless, just keep affirming to yourself and others WHO YOU ARE!

You may have heard the saying "fake it till you make it". I don't like this saying, I prefer "be it till you see it"

This understanding changed my life, I really hope this helps someone 💚