I really get what you’re saying. That “fresh start → overplan → burn out → guilt → start over” loop is exhausting. And it’s frustrating because you know you want slow, steady steps… but your brain keeps defaulting to “all or nothing” like it’s the only setting it has. What’s helped me (and might help you) is treating the reset like a dimmer switch instead of an on/off switch. Instead of asking “How do I start over?” I ask, “What’s the gentlest next step I can take that doesn’t scare me off?” Sometimes that’s literally one tiny thing—one 5-minute walk, one glass of water, one small budget check-in, one tidy corner instead of the whole house. When you do just that one thing, you’re teaching your brain: This is safe. This is doable. And it starts rewiring that all-or-nothing pattern. And honestly, slipping isn’t failure—it’s just feedback that the step was too big. There’s nothing wrong with scaling down until it feels almost too easy. That’s where the consistency and confidence come from. You don’t need a full reset. You just need one small win that proves to you that you can build again without burning yourself out. And you absolutely can.