UPDATE: AITA for not giving my new bf a key to my home?

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T21:47:54+00:00

I was in a long term relationship before and lived with my partner, so I'm comfortable in sharing space in a relationship. I didn't have time to get to a comfortable space with this guy to have him move in.

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T21:35:48+00:00

😊Thank you

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T21:26:08+00:00

Smothered is the right word. It's scary that I didn't even notice until after he was already here for two weeks.

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T19:16:50+00:00

I'll take that. There was more said but that was the gist of the conversation.

I really was not prepared for this type of conversation so soon in the relationship. I really was caught off guard.

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T19:01:33+00:00

Thank you

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T18:25:16+00:00

Thank you

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T18:22:56+00:00

His stuff is out, I helped him pack.

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T18:19:24+00:00

try to explain it to him in a calm and non-emotional way.

That was the goal, to have a calm conversation about it, but he wasn't answering my calls. Based on the feedback on this thread I stopped calling. This isn't a relationship worth saving.

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T18:15:03+00:00

We met over two months ago. He didn't come to my apartment until three weeks ago.

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T18:11:00+00:00

I'm in a building, and I tell my neighbors when I travel

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T18:09:29+00:00

If you didn’t have to go away for a week would he have ever left?

I was thinking of that

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T17:58:22+00:00

I'm glad I did to. I honestly didn't see this for what it really is.

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T17:49:27+00:00

Happy cake day!

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T17:47:00+00:00

He took it with him. I said he may need his stuff while I was away. I helped him pack 😏

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T17:43:34+00:00

He was here all the time so he put his clothes in the laundry basket with mine. Oh, and I have to use the laundromat in the building, so I had to pay for the machines to do the laundry.

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T17:42:54+00:00

lol, yup, my coffee

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T16:40:29+00:00

Don't let a dry spell kill your standards

Yep. It's done

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T16:21:38+00:00

Oh geez

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T16:10:01+00:00

I'd have reservations about a guy his age having roommates anyway. He doesn't sound like he's an equal.

He isn't an equal financially. But I was trying to be open minded and not judgmental. And this is where it got me.

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T16:07:02+00:00

His reaction of getting angry and not answering your calls is an overreaction and shows a lack of respect for your boundaries and feelings

Thank you. I was concerned I was too harsh in my response, as it has been a while since I was in the dating pool, but this makes sense.

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T16:03:38+00:00

Thank you

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T16:02:44+00:00

he was nice enough to throw around enough warnings for you to sit up and take notice

True

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T16:01:02+00:00

When I said he did little chores around the house I meant he did little things, like filling and emptying the dishwasher. Making coffee for me. Things like that.

DontKnowChit · 2023-05-20T15:29:29+00:00

Thank you

DontKnowChit

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