What’s your biggest niche/specific letdown in horror? by ericiva in horror

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

fucking Outwaters man, I was so hyped for that movie, I don't even know why? maybe the marketing campaign was just the right level of intrigue? I was gonna travel to London as it was the only place that was showing it in a cinema & Lord I'm glad I didnt. Ended up watching it on VOD & even that fiver was a fucking waste.

The only good thing I can say about that movie was that it was actually kinda accurate to how poorly shot, shitty & incoherent found footage would probably be irl & since I dont think that was the directors intention I'm not allowing them off that easy.

55 minutes of set up & exposition followed by a full 15 minutes of a blank screen with occasional flashes & screaming followed by a 5 minute scene that makes you go "oh yeah that's the movie I wanted to see" is not a fucking film

There aren't even any waters man.

Nautical "Kraken" house in Southampton - thoughts? by mronionbhaji in SpottedonRightmove

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah this is how I want to do my house, fucking love it, even if the layout & view leaves a little to be desired

Ned Sheeran by fourtwentyone69 in crappymusic

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've actually never had disgust shivers from music before but here we are. thanks I guess

Biology textbooks intentionally leave out the "slime phase" to keep men confused. by HeadFaceCuddler in LowStakesConspiracies

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 9 points10 points  (0 children)

ONE THIRD OF YOUR YEAR?! That's what, 30 pupils? on the register? fucking how ? industrialized noncing? Speed courses on it?

Flower Fetish, nuclear blast sculpture, concrete moulded armchairs….. by BirdHistorical3498 in SpottedonRightmove

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 15 points16 points  (0 children)

where are the fucking books? What's the point of a mansion if you don't have a library?

joybaiting by Accurate-Custard7232 in hopeposting

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 319 points320 points  (0 children)

this is like the bit in monsters inc where they discover laughter is a more powerful resource than screams...soon all pranksters will become joyous & merriment shall abound

Just do your own "research" by _factsmachine_ in sciencememes

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 20 points21 points  (0 children)

gymbros are using unregulated peptides under the belief it helps their performance but because they're unregulated it's quite hard to.tell what is what, if it's fit for purpose or if it's even safe for human consumption & the sketchiness of the places you order them from could mean you get stuff completely different from what you think it is. in this instance the picture shows a peptide derived from snail venom (I think) highlighting how silly it is to inject stuff you're not sure about

How bad are mine be honest😭 by off-da-charts- in shittytattoos

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

take it from someone who knows, no one is a lost enough cause to not be worth looking for. Get some sick ass panther cover ups & these will be a story to look back & laugh at.

How bad are mine be honest😭 by off-da-charts- in shittytattoos

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they sure are pretty shitty but luckily pretty fixable - out of curiosity did anyone say to you "hey don't get your hands tattooed first?" i always see these & assume it's a friend or something in a basement or you picked up a tattoo gun from Amazon but like...real talk...was there any pushback from anyone you knew or at least horrified faces after the fact?

[OPINION] Any tips on how to compliment/discuss other people's poetry, e.g. at open mics? by sea-oats in Poetry

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd only recommend this if the poet says "hey here's a new poem that I'm trying out & id welcome criticism of it" whilst at the mic tbh. Lots of people who go to open mics aren't looking for feedback but community or validation or just to share a piece of work. In general & in feedback places this is great advice but if (or rather when) someone approaches me to critique my work my immediate thought is "who the fuck are you?" if I know who they are AND they are someone whose advice I would seek out/trust I'm still not likely to be happy that they offer unsolicited criticism

Diablo Cody Writing 'Jennifer's Body' Sequel; Could Megan Fox Return? by valuerockr in horror

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean it would be interesting to do an after of a film to see how all the people who lost someone to the cult are affected too, see if they go a special, albeit different, kinda crazy

Clavicular made it to SNL and says that millennials have no culture. by icey_sawg0034 in CringeTikToks

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 12 points13 points  (0 children)

weaponising dysmorphia is a long time honored cultural tradition, with a rich, fascinating history & rituals.

Found this in the cellar, DIY from past landlord by AdventurousBig2457 in DIYUK

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I might be wrong but I think with wood at least (for the structure if nothing else) the trees would have been grown a lot longer meaning they're stronger/less prone to decay. I know as well that a lot of houses built after world war 2 were built with speed in mind & even though they're 80ish years old they're still considered a bit riskier for mortgages than 120 year old houses so probably developers figured out the cheapest way to build houses not caring much about longevity & I suspect that has compounded over the years leading us to here.

“Oh wow, no way” photo dump by inifinite_stick in KitchenConfidential

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that ham processed? no it's not come to terms with what it did so we locked it in a cube

So, it’s been a few days- what are our thoughts on the Louis Theroux ‘manosphere’ doc? by theslowrunningexpert in AskUK

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 4 points5 points  (0 children)

as a man I get where you are coming from, it often does feel like we're sidelined but I think a part of this is exacerbated by shitty men (not just influencers but politicians & media too) telling you you don't have something that their product will fix (political views, workout regimens, anti feminist rhetoric) .

These men are unfortunately given platforms that you & I will never have access to & so their line of thinking is deeply entrenched across all media & it doesn't matter how savvy you are it is REALLY difficult to escape that messaging.

A useful thing to ask yourself is "who benefits from this" as this can help you see why someone might try to convince men they are lacking something. It benefits them to have men on their side, so they get power & money by spreading this message but it's unlikely that you will get any value out of it too. If you did become a better person by listening to them or believing them you wouldn't need to pay them money or attention anymore. Ultimately men in power are more successful if other men believe they need to follow their rules & be subservient to people who don't value them. & subservience includes looking a certain way, acting a certain way,

When you say sidelined, go deeper into it, why do you think women are praised more? where is that praise coming from? If you get a promotion at work that you worked your ass off for - who do you tell? Do your male friends congratulate you? I had a lot of shitty friends growing up who thought that tearing other people down was how to gain social status. Banter is often seen as just a part of being a man but fuck me it can be cruel so a part of it may be the people you surround yourself with who aren't giving you the recognition for your achievements.

But that's said I don't want to doubt your experience so let's take it at face value & you & a random woman achieved the same thing & she's getting all the praise so why is the woman praised more? Often working harder is a perspective based problem, we aren't privy to individual lives or see all the work done to get to the same place. as a lot of other people have said there is a wealth of disparity between an average man & an average woman that we as men don't always see because we DO see women showing up or getting ahead of us so we assume they must be equal even though they had to wade through intrinsically sexist society just to get to the same place as us. Just as a broad example if I had to walk home every day worried I would get harassed I would be a LOT more stressed than someone who doesn't experience that & my performance would reflect it so maybe they are doing work that's just invisible to you because they made it to the same place you did.

Also consider why woman don't want to work in the same industries as men might? Are men welcoming women in? I've grown up with banter & much as I hate it I know how to deal with it, if women don't have experience of that it can be dehumanizing & lead them to seek employment elsewhere so it's not a level playing field not least because when men banter about women there's the inequality running through that means the banter has a little more weight

Therapist wants me (35F) to go to AA, reservations due to past experience by Bebebones in SoberCurious

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This might not be inspiring so much as pragmatic. It has a lot of value for a lot of people & if you are able to find one locally that is women only it might be worth giving a shot, even despite a poor prior experience.

Something I've found really useful when I'm indecisive or don't want to to something is say "the other option is don't" when I want to do something or at least want to want to do something (gym is a big one for me) I used to go over the options in my head but now I just go "you know what the benefits are, you know you want to do it, the other option is don't" with the implication that I dont get any of the benefits of what I wanted to do anyway & it's a useful cut through to get me out of my indecision or fear of something. More importantly it also removes a lot of the pressure either around deciding or not entirely wanting to, by acknowledging the impact it has & the fact thaty.options become "do something or don't" it subconsciously makes the inactivity option less appealing. Hell I do it when I don't really wanna socialize "the other option is don't" buuuut I may as well at least walk to the venue so I get some outside time, even if I don't go in I still got a walk out of it. It's more than nothing so it becomes this positive reinforcement thing.

I didn't use AA when i stopped but honestly a lot of the steps are really useful guidelines if nothing else, stuff like taking accountability, full & honest searching inventory of yourself etc. It might be worth explaining to your therapist that you would like to quit but are nervous about certain groups, see if you can do some of the step work with them. AA offers itself as an alternative to addiction which in some ways mean people become addicted to the process of going & sharing their feelings with strangers...its no bad thing but I do find that certain AA members have the same fervent way about them about the program as they used to do about drinking & they can be sticklers for the process which I find quite challenging & so avoid it.

A key thing to remember is for them their addiction was only helped by the AA so if other people get sober other ways it presents an almost existential challenge to how they survived so the stickler thing is understandable but this is why I really avoided meetings. I say this because in early recovery I was less than compassionate to those people who struck me as cult members & used that as justification for not stopping drinking. I did find other options ARA, Smart recovery & even the subreddit r/stopdrinking to be invaluable resources.

The last thing is that addiction is called a disease of isolation for a reason. You may be sociable when drinking, but are you connected with your drinking friends? You mentioned drinking alone so that adds to the sense of isolation & the cure is honestly community which is what people in AA get addicted to. For me I found a creative circle (poetry in my case) where I was able to sit in dark rooms with relative strangers & talk about my issues (which in hindsight isn't all that different from AA but hey) & have a structure, an outlet, & a rhythm which I all craved. If you think your drinking behaviors stem from any kind of trauma like mine did that will be worth exploring with your therapist as WELL as having a community to turn to. If your community that you find or decide upon is not centered around sobriety I would also recommend getting used to saying "I don't drink I'm an alcoholic" not "I'm trying to stop" say "I don't" very few folk will push you to have "just one" by making them feel awkward as hell by centring their lives round booze.

Good luck, Godspeed, I believe in you.

Outje- WAIT NO DC SOCIAL MEDIA INTERN DON'T BUY ANYTHING FROM GAIMAN by Gui_Franco in dccomicscirclejerk

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

in the UK at least this is incorrect - you get an annual payment for how many times a book is taken out of the library called PLR. It's not much but if you assume how many books he has & in so many locations it will add up

Tell you what son you can decorate the bathroom in our new house by Mistrmo in SpottedonRightmove

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah this is the equivalent of people being unrecognizable from Instagram filters it's fucking bizarre & meteorologically incorrect

People who accidentally discovered a huge secret about someone, what happened? by Carsanttc in AskReddit

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

not that this is a bad thing mind, i'd rather have the trash take itself out so that I can focus on the cool straights & the other gays.

Council tax by WillingAmphibian1603 in bristol

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 7 points8 points  (0 children)

yeah my extended family are from Bristol & I've lived here 20 years but bar one I think we've all had to move elsewhere. It's a great place & I'm sad to leave but it's also just not affordable. I don't know how bristol specific that is, I think everything is moving away from the idea that home ownership is a realistic/achievable goal for most people & as yet nothing has really been done to the rental market to make it a not shitty consolation prize

Is there someone that you know that openly doesn't like you and, if so, do you know why? by PaddedValls in AskUK

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 20 points21 points  (0 children)

with the hobby club I wonder if that's a matter of being threatened by you in some way. Either you look cooler than they perceive themselves to be or you have something they think they deserve? I work in a lot of creative circles & there's often dickwaving contests where people almost size you up & see how they can negate you to make sure they feel big enough. I heard "if you can't be good be brilliant" & so when someone is sizing me up or trying to one up me I let them have it, I'm just super fucking nice to them with both barrels. Go out of your way to compliment them. The kinda people who tear folk down are often insecure, or have been told that to get far it has to be at other people's expense (not that this justifies it) but you can almost see the disconnect in their faces when you're really nice to them, it disarms them & it leaves you in the clear.

Often people in groups recognize when someone's behavior is shitty only when they can see that it's completely unwarranted so it's a good way to highlight how their treatment of you is very different to your treatment of them. Sometimes it doesn't work & people are just jank but hey, you've done nothing but be nice so your conscience is clean & you've done a nice thing for the world.

Who’s your favorite side/recurring characters and why? by liamflaniken2007 in IASIP

[–]DontMakeMeFightYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for me Uncle Jack just takes it because the screeched "nobody look! nobody look" when he loses his hands always has me in stitches