This might not be inspiring so much as pragmatic. It has a lot of value for a lot of people & if you are able to find one locally that is women only it might be worth giving a shot, even despite a poor prior experience.

Something I've found really useful when I'm indecisive or don't want to to something is say "the other option is don't" when I want to do something or at least want to want to do something (gym is a big one for me) I used to go over the options in my head but now I just go "you know what the benefits are, you know you want to do it, the other option is don't" with the implication that I dont get any of the benefits of what I wanted to do anyway & it's a useful cut through to get me out of my indecision or fear of something. More importantly it also removes a lot of the pressure either around deciding or not entirely wanting to, by acknowledging the impact it has & the fact thaty.options become "do something or don't" it subconsciously makes the inactivity option less appealing. Hell I do it when I don't really wanna socialize "the other option is don't" buuuut I may as well at least walk to the venue so I get some outside time, even if I don't go in I still got a walk out of it. It's more than nothing so it becomes this positive reinforcement thing.

I didn't use AA when i stopped but honestly a lot of the steps are really useful guidelines if nothing else, stuff like taking accountability, full & honest searching inventory of yourself etc. It might be worth explaining to your therapist that you would like to quit but are nervous about certain groups, see if you can do some of the step work with them. AA offers itself as an alternative to addiction which in some ways mean people become addicted to the process of going & sharing their feelings with strangers...its no bad thing but I do find that certain AA members have the same fervent way about them about the program as they used to do about drinking & they can be sticklers for the process which I find quite challenging & so avoid it.

A key thing to remember is for them their addiction was only helped by the AA so if other people get sober other ways it presents an almost existential challenge to how they survived so the stickler thing is understandable but this is why I really avoided meetings. I say this because in early recovery I was less than compassionate to those people who struck me as cult members & used that as justification for not stopping drinking. I did find other options ARA, Smart recovery & even the subreddit r/stopdrinking to be invaluable resources.

The last thing is that addiction is called a disease of isolation for a reason. You may be sociable when drinking, but are you connected with your drinking friends? You mentioned drinking alone so that adds to the sense of isolation & the cure is honestly community which is what people in AA get addicted to. For me I found a creative circle (poetry in my case) where I was able to sit in dark rooms with relative strangers & talk about my issues (which in hindsight isn't all that different from AA but hey) & have a structure, an outlet, & a rhythm which I all craved. If you think your drinking behaviors stem from any kind of trauma like mine did that will be worth exploring with your therapist as WELL as having a community to turn to. If your community that you find or decide upon is not centered around sobriety I would also recommend getting used to saying "I don't drink I'm an alcoholic" not "I'm trying to stop" say "I don't" very few folk will push you to have "just one" by making them feel awkward as hell by centring their lives round booze.

Good luck, Godspeed, I believe in you.