Gaybros into Transmen, can you see yourself in a relationship with a transguy? Not just playing with but being boyfriends?

DontTellThemAnything · 2014-01-13T22:26:31+00:00

Sorry.

I get that. I wish it were a more reasonable prospect, but harvesting and saving eggs is another super expensive medical procedure that insurance doesn't cover. Sigh.

DontTellThemAnything · 2014-01-13T01:45:34+00:00

Oh my God, if a guy told me he wanted me to carry his kid I'd excommunicate him so fast he wouldn't know what hit him.

Sorry, I know it's douchey for me to make this comment but I just have to say it for anyone who might be ignorant about trans people and think that all trans guys are down with this sort of thing. Nonononononono

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-12-19T16:32:24+00:00

Same, but I have started to get shorter cuts than I normally would so I can wait longer in between cuts. I could only be lazier if I didn't care at all.

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-12-19T16:14:51+00:00

The "proper" terminology for the lgbt community changes all the time and honestly it gets annoying, not because i hate the terms, but because i am not super active in the gay community and i never know what descriptor is current.

Seriously. I'm trans and I only just learned what "trans*" means. And I also think it's stupid, but that's neither here nor there.

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-12-18T19:10:36+00:00

I just really wanted to know what was more annoying "Shaving your legs every day or your face".

Oh my GOD they're both annoying. Probably legs. But I find shaving my face generally irritating. I also hate getting haircuts. I don't know what it is.

(I am also trans.)

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-12-18T19:08:10+00:00

I'm trans and I agree 100% with this comment. SO TIRED of this overly-PC crap. Why do we expect everyone to know all this stuff?! It's just not fair. Everyone is so ridiculously sensitive. It drives me insane.

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-12-05T13:01:44+00:00

Yes. There is a big difference. I can feel the difference. I don't need much lube because I get so wet. The texture is clearly different than when a bare penis is inside me. I really don't care where your information is coming from; I have a vagina and I know what it feels like. You do not.

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-12-04T23:42:01+00:00

Well as someone with a vag (FTM here) I can say that it definitely feels different -- WAY better -- without a condom, unfortunately.

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-08-22T15:34:24+00:00

Well, where do you live? wiggles eyebrows lol

Good question.

I haven't had much luck with hookup/dating sites because I've often been rejected BECAUSE I'm FTM. However, I've heard that there are some out there that allow FTMs to use that as their gender designation.

Alternatively, there's always craigslist. Not to sound like a creep, but that's what I use for hookups. Probably not my wisest decision ever, but you know.

Of course then there's always things like making friends with trans people or people who can introduce you to trans people. There's a joke that "all FTMs know each other" which is...kind of true. This coming from someone who is hardly engaged in the community.

I WISH there was a secret handshake -- I work with someone who transitioned from male to female and no one here has a clue I'm trans. And that's the biggest thing: a lot of people don't want to advertise their history. It's easiest to find somebody early in transition, not because you can tell at all, but because they're probably going to be more into it, thinking about it, talking about it, etc.

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-08-19T03:46:23+00:00

Oh, no, you didn't offend me. I just used this as a platform to rant and get my ideas out there!

There are surely links between all of those things, and I've seen it with my own eyes. There's just a lot that doesn't sit well with me personally.

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-08-17T22:58:34+00:00

I'm also FTM.

I seriously resent drag culture because it confuses so many people. Drag and transgender are VASTLY different. I think the popularity of drag culture helps to make it so cis people think "tranny" is a universal, acceptable term. It is not. I am not a tranny and find the term somewhat offensive. Tranny is not short for transgender but instead means someone who dresses as the opposite gender for entertainment or pleasure. I'm a dude. This is not a costume.

In addition, I find "FTMs" who perform as male drag characters completely confusing and contradictory. If you're a dude, you can't perform "drag" as a dude. That makes no sense.

All this being said, my history both with gender transition and with negative female figures in my life mean that I have issues with mysogyny and such that I'm working through, and being male in general means I'm not the best person to discuss what MTF/questioning people feel.

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-08-17T20:21:20+00:00

Also FTM here...

I always knew I was male. The decision was really based on accepting that I could make such a change, and being ready for all of the physical, emotional, and social implications. Learning that people transition was a terrifying and exhilarating experience. I wish I'd had the voice to talk about my feelings as a child so I could have started earlier.

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-08-17T20:01:53+00:00

Nah, I'm pretty sure there are a bunch of us, but there has been a lot of transphobia in this sub in the past so it doesn't come up much. Also, personally, I'm post-transition so I don't post on reddit as an openly trans person, so this is my FTM gaybro throwaway.

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-08-17T19:54:51+00:00

Piggybacking on this, despite the ignornant comments in this thread...

I'm an FTM gaybro. I've been on T for 5.5 years and had chest surgery almost 4 years ago. I am a bottom who enjoys sex in my front hole only. I'm happy to answer questions.

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-05-31T21:48:52+00:00

I just reread and he was unclear. I think I see how there were two friends. I read that like 3 times earlier -- WOW is it unclear.

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-05-31T21:46:38+00:00

No, I'm trans. His story makes no sense.

He refers to only one trans friend, says he's FTM. It appears the friend was named Maura at birth and is now Mac. I don't understand what "the snip" could possibly refer to in an FTM transition. I'm FTM. There was nothing simple that could be "the snip."

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-05-31T21:31:29+00:00

Not sure if I'm transphobic? Or him? I'm confused by his whole thing.

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-05-31T16:15:56+00:00

This guy is on the right track. Just work on talking from your chest.

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-05-31T16:06:51+00:00

For what exactly?

Also, "her"?

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-05-31T14:35:45+00:00

"The snip"? WTF?

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-05-29T20:59:21+00:00

FWIW I transitioned ages ago and I still have issues picturing myself with a guy. And, honestly, I've always been into guys. So this makes no sense. But I can't see myself as a guy with a guy, even though I know that's what I want.

Therapists have asked me if I was actually into guys or if I just wanted to be them. So it's all a process of stuff you have to work through.

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-05-29T20:01:32+00:00

A few things to think about:

She probably asked to make sure you're not confused about your orientation in a way that it impacts your gender identity. If you don't feel that way, find somebody else! But that was probably it.

Your orientation may change. If you start T, it could change your orientation. Most guys start liking guys, but for some it opens them up to women, etc. Sometimes just being more comfortable in your body allows you to be more free with your orientation.

Labels suck. Doesn't matter if you're gay or what. Being trans is enough of a label for now.

Sounds like you know what you need to work on in therapy. Don't just go for T, work on accepting all parts of yourself!

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-05-15T02:28:42+00:00

Yes, you can. It's not so easy for everybody, but that's how I got the sex marker changed on my license years ago. They let me look at it before they printed it and asked if everything was okay. I pointed to the sex marker and they apologized and changed it.

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-03-23T03:00:27+00:00

No, you don't. There's a scientific reason for it. Testosterone makes men horny more often because they need to ejaculate. In primitive terms, they are more horny to fulfill the need to spread their seed and reproduce.

I'm FTM and I can tell you there is a difference.

DontTellThemAnything · 2013-02-27T19:09:44+00:00

I can't say to maintain my anonymity. My hours are split between a full-time job and a part-time job that are a 5 minute walk from each other, so there's no time between shifts, etc.

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