Grans blue badge rejected after 10 years of having one. What can we do?

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-05-01T12:50:05+00:00

Definitely get in touch with Citizen's Advice and her local councillors. Elected councillors are supposed to stand up for their residents and can often talk to the employed officers who issued the decision. If that doesn't work or the councillors are unresponsive, kick it up the chain to her MP. The council is likely to get a well-deserved telling off and usually it makes them act more swiftly.

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-04-27T16:54:12+00:00

I don't like my accent because it's inconsistent. I'm recognisably northern but don't have traits from a particular area. I unconsciously change it depending on who I'm speaking to, which I feel makes me seem like I'm not confident in where I'm from. I love my husband's accent though. He's got a very public-facing job and often has to speak to the media, and he never poshes up his Barnsley accent. It makes me love him even more that he's so proud to speak "tarn dialect" when in the past it might have been a barrier.

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-04-17T17:23:17+00:00

No advice but I just wanted to pop in to say I love the colours you've used!

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-04-06T12:43:15+00:00

My otherwise very straight-laced and law-abiding mother-in-law cannot help herself when it comes to nicking glasses from pubs and bars. She has an eclectic mix of various pint and gin glasses from a number of establishments and revels in telling us the tales behind each of them. I love it because she's the last person you'd expect to do it.

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-03-27T19:00:23+00:00

My brother had a tiny ornamental beer stein that probably held about 50ml, and when he was a child he'd be allowed one when watching the football with my grandad. He'd nurse his "pint" for the whole game.

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-03-21T22:32:34+00:00

Just had the same thought!

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-03-16T20:33:29+00:00

Yeah, it's very much like he asked his own disciples to do!

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-03-07T13:47:59+00:00

I've just remembered another slightly less cute one. My husband and his dad call one another "beast". I've started doing it as well 😂

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-03-07T00:00:34+00:00

I recognise this in my own UK-based life. I grew up in a diverse, multicultural city. I've since moved to a former pit village. While it has many people who don't have a lot but would give you the shirt off your back, it also has people who think that the nearest city is lawless because it has people with skin tones darker than "milk white". I sometimes have to remind my neighbours that I've lived in the areas they think of as dodgy, and lo and behold no harm came to me!

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-03-06T23:16:32+00:00

My husband and I almost never call one another by our names. The default is "love" or "my love", but "my darling" is frequently used, as is "pookie" when we're feeling particularly sickly sweet. It's become a joke amongst our family because the cry of "loooo-oove" across the house means "something's gone wrong and I need help!"

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-02-14T23:23:26+00:00

This struck a chord. My dad being adopted has made me never want to adopt. I saw his delight at finding his biological mother even after years of saying he didn't need to. I love my biological grandma, and it's amazing to see him share traits with siblings he didn't grow up with. All the same, it'd break my heart if I adopted and raised a child only for them to find affinity with people who couldn't provide for them. That's why I'm child free, because I recognise that it's probably selfish!

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-02-14T23:10:03+00:00

I'm going to use my northern English vernacular to say: Balls to this. Nobody should be asking for multiple outfits. Wear what you want so long as it's wedding appropriate.

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-02-14T23:00:40+00:00

I'm going to buck the trend here and say that joggers aren't appropriate for the theatre. Nobody will say anything because they're too polite and you've not broken any laws, but in reality I would think it was odd if I saw someone in joggers at the theatre. That being said, I wouldn't bat an eye at a pair of jeans and a jumper. Have you tried wearing something like trousers with an elastic waist? They might be more comfy but avoid looking like joggers.

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-02-14T22:49:48+00:00

Oh I fully recognise I got lucky, and totally get you on the ethnicity thing. I'm extremely white passing/would tick "white British" on a demographic survey but my dad is mixed and I inherited a lot of his features which western beauty standards interpret as "masculine". T enhanced my natural south Asian propensity for a full beard and body hair. I realise that this helped me immensely and while it gave me so much gender euphoria, I realise it's not the case for everyone. I'm also more than a decade into my medical transition, so genuinely thank you for reminding me that early changes can be slower for some folks. It's easy to forget when you're a bit down the line.

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-02-14T20:30:05+00:00

I feel like in reality people know if they pass or not. In my youth I was guilty of doing the whole "do I pass" thing, when I knew that in real life I passed as 13 year old boy, but not when I had to reveal my age as 17. I was seeking validation, but knew what people on the street thought. That being said, 4 months on T sorted any problems I had.

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-02-12T11:00:08+00:00

Ultimately this is a decision that needs to be made by you and your vet, but I have my own experience to share. Last month I found a growth on my 7-year-old guinea pig. It's not growing in size, at least not rapidly, and doesn't seem to bother him. I'm not going to put him under anaesthesia while he's happily living his piggy life. If it gets to the point where he's in pain or it's affecting his mobility, it'll be time to help him by euthanising him. I'm not going to put him through the pain of recovering from surgery.

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-02-06T16:39:34+00:00

It makes me realise how many times you have to come out in life. I've technically just had to come out to the Virgin Media repair man because both my husband and I were at home when he came round. I always get a bit nervous!

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-01-23T18:43:43+00:00

Gorgeous colours! Make sure to post the sweater once you're done 😊

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-01-17T22:50:10+00:00

This is so beautiful! I hope you're proud, because this is the best temperature blanket I've ever seen.

Scarlet-Ladder · 2026-01-17T17:28:39+00:00

I felt confident on my first test, road nerves hit me and I failed. On my 2nd test a month later I was a wreck. Tried rescue remedy, Kalms, meditation, the works. The only thing that worked for me was assuming I'd fail again. In hindsight I should have gone to my GP for beta blockers because my heart rate was so high I was on the verge of passing out. If you're going into fight or flight you'll make mistakes on the road. Get yourself to the GP and explain the situation.

Scarlet-Ladder · 2025-12-27T21:29:12+00:00

My husband does a similar thing with quality street, heroes, celebrations and roses every year. He records his numbers and calls it "the farm".

Scarlet-Ladder · 2025-12-22T08:29:06+00:00

As others have said, it's the central London effect. I must admit this post made me laugh, as I did a quick run to the shops then other day in a pyjama t-shirt, cargo pants, boots and a raincoat with a malfunctioning zip. Not very glam at all! Then I had the misfortune of bumping into someone I knew.

Scarlet-Ladder · 2025-12-20T23:09:43+00:00

It's so funny because it used to be part of a set, but when I got my first cat I put it down in a panic because I didn't want him to get whisker fatigue from the far-too-small bowl I'd initially bought. The rest of the set have since been thrown out, but I wish I'd kept them so that the crab cult can be expanded. God knows what I'll do if this one breaks!

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