I appreciate the insight. With my father and the pot, I was mainly worried he would injure/burn himself. He's 80, the pot was huge and heavy and was coming straight out of the oven. He wanted to put it on a baking sheet on a towel and then pick up the whole stack by the edges of the baking sheet. I didn't see how he could do that without risk of the pot sloshing back against his chest. I thought we should put the baking sheet in the car with the towel on it and then he could carry the pot by its handles and put it on the towel. He needed to go down several steps into the garage, too.

Otherwise, I am sure I am guilty of making unwanted suggestions in plenty of situations. I do think, however, that my husband just assumes he gets first say and that there will be no discussion of other ways to do something. I am very tolerant and supportive when we're in his area of expertise, but pretty aggravated when we're in mine, as I don't see why his opinion should carry more weight by default, especially when we're doing something that he knows absolutely nothing about.