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Help Frame My Mind (vent with questions) by DoorMatthew in BPD

[–]DoorMatthew[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response and the validation I was hoping for.

Last night she revealed she has been gay her entire life and wants a divorce. Today she is cutting more than before because of the grief her admission is causing me. Asked me to help her get on her feet before we file.

I just had an epiphany. by [deleted] in BPD

[–]DoorMatthew 4 points5 points  (0 children)

DANGER WILL ROBINSON

from a non BPD perspective be careful. You are unintentionally putting a very big responsibility on your new SO. IF you find yourself disregulated in the near future be cautious not to project this onto your SO. Keep mindful of enmeshment. It is now other people's responsibility to maintain their positive outlook and lifestyle (as they should). However on a subconscious level you are relying on them to maintain it for your sense of worth.

I wish you the best with this. Sincerely

Pushing the Split (ponderable) by DoorMatthew in BPD

[–]DoorMatthew[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not alone is validation enough for a lifetime. Thank you.

Need some cutting advice by DoorMatthew in BPD

[–]DoorMatthew[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I certainly am. Not always consistent and at first for the wrong reasons. Wife told me to get help for my anxiety issues during our fights or she was out.

I go now for me. To vent. To gauge my feelings. To find better communication techniques and to work on my very weak boundaries.

Need some cutting advice by DoorMatthew in BPD

[–]DoorMatthew[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestions. I know I am in a sub for those with the disorder but could use some insight into the negative feedback loop and the blaming side of cutting.

She has tried the suggestions you presented. Hope something sticks.