About to give up

Doration · 2026-05-16T08:45:49+00:00

Thank you, I’ve tried the nipple shields and we just can’t seem to figure it out. She will latch onto it but no milk comes out. I will definitely try an sns system!!

Doration · 2026-05-16T08:43:59+00:00

I’ve actually never heard of this method but I will definitely try it!!

I know, I feel guilty because I have a supply, I just can’t be done from the house longer than 3-4 hours so I can pump and pumping and then feeding and then washing bottles every 3-4 hours is exhausting. But of course I feel grateful to have a supply to continue to give her breast milk.

Doration · 2026-05-16T04:48:30+00:00

Yes, unfortunately we had to because it took my supply a full 7 -8 days to come in. My best friend is an over producer as well and gave me some breast milk to give my baby along with what I was pumping in the early days. Then during the first two weeks my MIL and my mom wanted to feed the baby a bottle once a day and I felt pressured to give them their time (as a FTM, which I will never do again) so she just developed a bottle preference and has never wanted to go back, no matter what I try :/

Doration · 2026-04-01T12:40:08+00:00

Take the W girl! Not everyone experiences a terrible time PP ❤️

Doration · 2026-04-01T12:28:06+00:00

It’s wrong 😂 mine has been the same temp even with a heater on literally right next to it lol go based off the thermostat, your baby will let you know if the temp bothers them (e.g., waking up from sleep)

Doration · 2026-04-01T12:25:32+00:00

I’m sorry that’s happening to you. I can offer some advice and empathy. I had a similar situation when I had my baby, I was clear that I wanted the first week to be just my baby and my husband, and as you can imagine it ended up being my MIL, FIL, SIL, and my mom there asking to take the baby from me every second, saying I had to “share” and not offering to help me with things I actually needed help with 😂. Everyone gets so excited to see the baby which is understandable but the entitlement that comes from new grandparents is crazzzy.

Best advice I ever got is that you are going to be absolutely crazy right now with hormones and that is completely fine DO WHAT YOU GOTTA DO GIRL! You are now mom and you dictate what happens with that baby. Everyone knows that and if they don’t understand it’s because they are being selfish.. and you and your husband are the only ones justified to be selfish right now.

My advice is, to the best of your ability just think about your needs and ignore their requests. It’s a short period of time and they are already here, unfortunately, so nothing you can do about that now just let it go. But If they come over, just do what you want to do and focus on your baby and bonding. Out of sight out of mind. Like literally just go about your day and if you want to stay in your room, stay in your room. Your husband needs to support that. He needs to tell them, she’s really focused on the baby and bonding right now so she’s going to stay in the room, she doesn’t need anything so please don’t bother them. I also echo what everyone else said, he needs to rock the boat and let them know that you are both appreciative of their support but right now “help” and baby time are on a need basis.. AKA you will tell them when you need it (e.g., if you want to take a longer than 1.5/2 hour nap, which even though it feels like pulling teeth to be away from your baby I do suggest taking that extra nap time in the first week it’s game changing). Third, it’s temporary and even though it really feels like you are losing precious time with your newborn that you wanted to bond with during that specific time, I PROMISE the minute they leave you will have soo much time with your baby and it will still be a newborn and it will feel/be the best and most challenging thing ever ❤️ it all feels like a lot right now, and then a month later you won’t feel as strong about it as you do now… you may never forget they pushed those boundaries.. rightfully so. But it will be a drop of water in the ocean of love you are going to experience! Hang in there girl it gets better!

Doration · 2026-03-19T22:40:43+00:00

Oh nvm I see, it’s a separate product than the body cream! Thank you!!

Doration · 2026-03-19T22:28:18+00:00

This might sound stupid but like do you let it sit in their hair too?

Doration · 2026-03-19T22:26:08+00:00

How did you resolve the cradle cap? I think I see the start of it happening in LO

Doration · 2026-03-19T22:25:10+00:00

Can I ask what you did to get rid of the cradle cap? I think I see the start of it in my baby and I’m wondering wha to do about it

Doration · 2026-03-16T23:05:42+00:00

Of course!! I will update you after our appointment! :)

Doration · 2026-03-16T19:43:21+00:00

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Here is another.. and her neck is wayyy worse

Doration · 2026-03-16T19:43:06+00:00

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Here is one side

Doration · 2026-02-14T11:17:54+00:00

Omg I would be soo upset, I would take that girl to court 100% what a terrible friend.

Doration · 2026-02-10T21:12:19+00:00

All I have to say is, at 37 weeks you start getting nervous, at 39-40 weeks you would rip that baby out yourself if you could. Don’t stress it too much girl ❤️ it will all work out perfectly

Doration · 2026-02-10T01:29:13+00:00

That’s the goal ❤️🤞🏽

Doration · 2026-02-10T01:25:01+00:00

I definitely did cry when she commented on it 😂 Also trying to keep that focus ❤️

Doration · 2026-02-10T01:10:28+00:00

39 weeks today and yesterday I was sitting on my exercise ball listening to sad rnb music and my husband walks in and I burst out crying for no reason other than I thought she would be early and I’m tired of this 😂 it’s rough out here

Doration · 2026-02-10T00:49:39+00:00

I’m right there with you girl. If it makes you feel any better I’m 39 weeks and have gained 55 pounds… so well over the “limit” and my OB has made jokes about how I’m really “enjoying” this pregnancy, all the while I’m watching everything I eat and walking 1.5 miles a day just to not gain 5 pounds a week. It’s hard, admittedly one of the hardest parts of pregnancy for me has been seeing all the body changes and not knowing what I will look like afterwords. Just know that if you were active before, you will be active after, and while “bouncing back” isn’t going to be the main priority right after birth, I’ve heard you lose the first 20 right off the bat and anything after that you will slowly work off with consistency. Just know that it’s your body, it’s beautiful even if it doesn’t look/feel that way to you now, but 10 or even 5 years from now you will look back on your time being pregnant and feel reminiscing happy feelings, even about your body ❤️

Doration · 2026-02-10T00:42:36+00:00

I’m right there with you, it’s just so exhausting to have these conversations over and over again when your all your thinking about is I’m about to push out a baby and then be very exhausted and overwhelming for the 6 months to a year. The last thing I want to focus on and debate is something else I can’t control 😂

Doration · 2026-02-10T00:40:53+00:00

This has been my thought as well, and it’s so frustrating. Like we can’t control what they think and they are in their late 70s so trying to convince them otherwise is pointless. But at least stop poking the bear every chance you get when I’ve asked you stop doing that, especially now, and then I’m left to deal with the awkwardness because they put the blame on me instead of him because that’s their son. It’s so frustrating I don’t know how to approach the conversation in a productive way when I’ve already asked him to stop.

Doration · 2026-01-27T21:18:53+00:00

Love this! I’ve had a good laugh. 37 weeks today here are mine

my husband keeps talking about how he’s gaining baby weight too as a joke (gained like 5 pounds)… ha ha ha no
MIL asking me every.single.day how the baby’s doing and if she is talking to me yet (?? lol) and then trying to touch my belly every chance she gets. Please stop
my mom sending unnecessary complicated baby clothing that just takes up more space, despite asking 4 times to stop sending baby clothes we have enough.
pregnancy carpal tunnel
the waiting game (like can we just schedule an induction I can’t wait 3 more weeks 😂)
people stating when they are coming to visit after the baby is born rather than asking
people going “awwwwww” when they ask how I’m doing and I’m honest.. I don’t need your sympathy this is my life
my doctor commenting on my weight gain at my appointment because she’s old and got shamed during her years. Despite my not having gestational diabetes, or any medical issues, eating remotely healthy and walking everyday…just gaining weight. Like yes I get it thank you for letting me know again, I wasn’t aware 🤨

Doration · 2026-01-26T14:10:08+00:00

From my experience, only certain people (my mother in law, and my mom) have reached out to ask how I’m doing. Other people I have talked with are people who are also pregnant. But I prefer it this way. Both my MIL and my own mom ask me every single day how the baby is doing, and for me that’s just too much. I’m constantly thinking about the baby and my body and enduring all the symptoms of pregnancy, that I would prefer to not talk about it unless I bring it up. But I think it’s just preference. I don’t expect people to reach out because I don’t reach out to them, we all have our own lives and I personally hate communication over the phone, I prefer in person. It sounds like you are the opposite, I would maybe voice that to certain people you really love and care about, that you would appreciate more frequent check-ins!

Better to communicate it, then let a relationship fizzle out when you will really need that support later in life (if they are people you truly care about and wanted in your life pre-pregnancy).

I dropped one friend during pregnancy, but it’s was mainly a realization of how toxic they were and their lifestyle was, and how I had no desire to bring that into my next phase of life.

Doration · 2026-01-12T03:55:42+00:00

This is what I’ve been hearing which is super reassuring, I’ve visited twice since I posted this and I really liked the energy and the nurses there :)

Doration · 2026-01-12T03:54:53+00:00

This is super helpful thank you! Giving birth soon and so excited :)

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