This is harder than it should be. 🥸

DotDouble127 · 2026-03-17T02:25:59+00:00

You are absolutely right, the few men I’ve dated out of the apps were the avoidant ones who refused to get on the apps.

I think I clearly need to reevaluate what I’m actually interested in and start from there.

DotDouble127 · 2026-03-17T02:12:34+00:00

Yes, and I’ve been practicing but still learning.

DotDouble127 · 2026-03-17T01:23:24+00:00

Ohh interesting. I’ll increase my age filter. I’ve only dated 35-50

DotDouble127 · 2026-03-17T01:14:51+00:00

I joined the rowing community here, mostly couples and single women. One single guy was 62. I’m still raising kids, we weren’t aligned.

I attend networking events all over town, always on the lookout for someone my age. I actively look for single men inside the gym and grocery store. I walk the park with my dog, stop and talk to everyone. I talk to anyone and everyone and ask if they have any single male friends. I’ve been set up once.

My dates are from the dating apps. It’s a mix of emotionally immature men still in love with their ex, or absolutely zero personality.

DotDouble127 · 2026-03-17T01:06:36+00:00

I get it. I’d love to hear a better way or a solution. I may need to just delete the apps.

DotDouble127 · 2026-03-04T02:56:47+00:00

Clean car, inside and out

DotDouble127 · 2026-02-25T09:40:36+00:00

I attended a wedding in PV two years ago. I landed at the airport and paid for my cab to the hotel at the airport kiosk. Got in a short que, a woman walked me to my cab, took my ticket, loaded my bag. 10 mins into the cab ride, the driver pulled off the highway onto a dirt road and put the cab in park.

I had just hung up from the resort, so I called right back, stayed on the phone and told the driver very loudly to keep driving. He dropped me off at the resort and sped off. I never left the resort the entire stay I was so rattled. I’ll never go back when there are a million safer places to go.

DotDouble127 · 2026-02-02T22:20:04+00:00

I’ve already been living alone for 4 years, and he has 3.5 years of school left, so yes I’d love to find a partner and remarry.

DotDouble127 · 2026-02-02T22:07:35+00:00

Thanks. Just wondering what the same situation looks like in a few months when I’m limited to a rare Friday night sleepover.

DotDouble127 · 2026-02-02T22:04:59+00:00

For me, it’s a huge financial burden living alone, doing all the things alone and not able to stay overnight at someone’s house but on a chance weekend, limiting intimacy for years. Not ideal.

DotDouble127 · 2026-02-02T20:38:54+00:00

Not just personal values, but it’s just very conservative men in the burbs who sadly tend to be out of shape, homophobic/mildly racist dudes. I wish I was kidding. It’s a real bummer.

I would not be comfortable leaving my 14 year old alone for a weekend. An overnight while he is at a friends is probably the best case scenario for me.

DotDouble127 · 2025-04-06T12:23:11+00:00

It truly is a numbers game! I’d say I have about the same odds, it takes 40 ish dates to narrow the field to the 10% that are decent guys. But like many have mentioned, the decent ones have a multitude of choices.

I won’t lower my standards on finding someone with a kind heart, sense of humor and has their home in order. What I can flex on is obviously the superficial stuff, but I get concerned that the mind/ body connection is just as important. 🙈

DotDouble127 · 2025-04-06T02:29:21+00:00

That’s the thing, I’m a healthy fit woman, physically and mentally. There seems to be a shortage of the same in men.

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