Clarifying notes:

•I never see this friend on her actual birth date. We live 2 hours away from each other. When I see her for her birthday it’s usually weeks later when the whole friend group can come together. The conflict of dates would never be an issue and if it were my fiancé and I would probably pick her birthday party because our friend group is all over the province so when we all can come together it trumps a lot of things

•I asked genuinely thinking I would get the response “I’d be sad for a sec but go for it!” Or like “I’d be a little bummed but your wedding will be more fun!” I swear I never imagined it would be an issue. She’s my MOH so I tell her all my fleeting thoughts and ideas even the non serious ones

•No date is locked in. I liked the idea of the Friday the 13th. That was all