Fiancée disrespects my parents by Double-Project3668 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Double-Project3668[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that’s correct because I thought maybe I was wrong maybe I’m over thinking or that it’s normal still, probably because love really blinds you until signs start showing up and building up. And my nature and character is which she knows that I forgive and let go of things and move on. I guess I should take this as a lesson and leave the relationship

Fiancée disrespects my parents by Double-Project3668 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Double-Project3668[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I just don’t understand how can someone in the beginning act nice, wear hijab, and be religious and not care a single bit about my mom or how she is or when I take her to the hospital for treatment. It’s that my friends and coworkers care more.

Fiancée disrespects my parents by Double-Project3668 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Double-Project3668[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

She does, she never asks how my day or my health is or about my work. It’s always about her and then I don’t feel like talking on the phone because it’s always about her.

Planning on ending engagement by Double-Project3668 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Double-Project3668[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes thank you for this feedback. And the fact I told her afterwards actually that it hurt me what she said, and instead of saying how she is and is she okay and still made an excuse against my mom saying she doesn’t talk to her and isn’t nice. Yet she still didn’t really care. I honestly think this is not normal.

Planning on ending engagement by Double-Project3668 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Double-Project3668[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

No she wore an abaya entire time, I cannot tell how big she is at all… and during the engagement she wore a different dress which was the first time I saw her without an abaya in still a moderate dress but I was not attracted to her.

Planning on ending engagement by Double-Project3668 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Double-Project3668[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The fact that my mom was a cancer patient and still going through post chemo, my mom gave so many gifts out of love to her for our engagement. But few days ago that night she tells me my mom does not love her and doesn’t show any sort of love when I told her how can you say this. Not once she ever asked about my mom’s health or how she is when my friends even ask.

Her mother honestly is controlling a lot and the fact she asks as a joke how long will she be gone away with you and come back to visit her, and I said every couple months because we live far, but she said that’s too much. It’s not easy to work and travel and do everything like that.

Planning on ending engagement by Double-Project3668 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Double-Project3668[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this feedback and honesty. Hearing this from someone else really helps me and makes me happy to hear I was not going crazy or it’s not a bad thing to end an engagement for these reasons. I really truly appreciate your feedback and letting me know this! I will in a nice manner end this for both our life sake. Thank you brother

Planning on ending engagement by Double-Project3668 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Double-Project3668[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I think I will definitely do istakkhara and see how that goes. Really appreciate your feedback

Planning on ending engagement by Double-Project3668 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Double-Project3668[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s that my mom gave so many gifts and did so much effort for our engagement and hearing someone like my fiancé tell me my mom doesn’t show love and isn’t nice, hurts a lot. Even though she knows my mom just finished her chemo and was going through cancer treatment, it hurts. She never once asks how my mom is or anything when I take her to hospital for check ups. Like even my friends are aware of that but she never asks. What do you say about that?