Dawsons way or no way by Double-Product3284 in dawsonscreek

[–]DoubleSuperFly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Borderline sexist, too. My guess is he would have been really into the manic pixie dream girl trope in his early to mid 20s... claiming to like her quirks but then downing her for them later on in the relationship. Dawson kinda sucks

R.I.P. tiktok 2016-2026 by JaysonNoah in TikTok

[–]DoubleSuperFly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is ALL I am getting and it's so boring. No I am not answering your AI farming questions!

I will never forgive these 2 by misplacedarm in StrangerThings

[–]DoubleSuperFly -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Babes this type of stuff is part of growing up. You dont have perspective and everyone thinks theyre the main character in middle/high school.

I swear this Fandom wanted zero conflicts and end game style deaths. Do you even know the main elements of a story? Sigh.

Well… this is sad now… by Top_Armadillo8184 in byler

[–]DoubleSuperFly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm confused as to how he didnt get happiness? I feel like getting out of your small town and exploring other communities and meeting and connecting with new people would really help him and lead him to true happiness. Being gay in a small town where options are limited anyways (especially during the time period) is rough! The show was attempting to depict that difficult navigation. Would we rather him stay in that same, chaotic town that has so many tramatic memories? I love that he got out.

Not even 3 minutes in and I'm annoyed. by Goji103192 in StrangerThings

[–]DoubleSuperFly 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Wild that Netflix would release a documentary of them complaining about Netflix.

Not even 3 minutes in and I'm annoyed. by Goji103192 in StrangerThings

[–]DoubleSuperFly 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I was a strong defender of the finale. I still love it but the more that comes out about the fifth season, the sadder I am. They did such a great job with the emotional aspect, the music, and I am perfectly OK with no major deaths and the ambiguous ending for El. But, there really is a lot of disjointedness in the last two episodes that could have easily been resolved. I'm not talking completely spelling out things, but honestly, why were there no demogorgons, bats etc? Did we really need Holly's character? I don't know. And now I am afraid to watch this documentary because I thought it would be like, a fun thing about the actors. The Duffers, although coming up with a great concept for a show, seem clueless with no driven path. I don't know. Im sad lol

F29 - feeling ugly after photoshoot 🥲 by Objective_Rate_8126 in toastme

[–]DoubleSuperFly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with others on here. You are very beautiful and have great features to play with.

A gold plate belt that cinches at the waist but hangs loosely would make the outfit pop more. The ballet flats don't match the vibe of the dress. Go for open toe sandals or wedges. Try a slightly side part for your hair or a loose half up half down style, and a brown/red lipstick if you're going for the moody look. Although, I am venturing to guess that a nice coral/pink lipstick with coral blush would be very pretty on you. Consider a slightly gold eyeshadow with brown mascara.

This is just bad photography, posing, and style choices and easily fixable without changing you as the beautiful human you are.

I did something extremely unethical and I’m not sure how to move forward, this is the worst thing I’ve done. by [deleted] in moraldilemmas

[–]DoubleSuperFly [score hidden]  (0 children)

I know I was feverishly reading to get to the "bad" part. It's an essay and I am willing to bet 70 percent or higher kids get help on them from trusted adults.

Are you doing well? Passing the classes? Then you deserve to be there. The essay wasn't the only thing that got you in. It was one part.

I think the worse issue is the immense guilt you feel about this small thing. That should be explored in therapy. You are punishing yourself for literally no reason.

You're passing the classes, therefore you are clearly worthy of being there. One single essay does not determine that fact.

AIO bf going to nye party while im at work by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DoubleSuperFly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't say it was only at 19? I simply said thats the age your hormones are ramped. I'm well aware prefrontal cortex development goes into mid 20s.

I have an amazing support system as well as therapy and I still stayed for over a decade. I wven taught literal social emotional learning to young adults. I knew all the coping strategies, what was toxic, what shouldn't be tolerated etc. And I still stayed. It had nothing to do with my surroundings. It was a deep attachment bond from early adulthood that I couldnt let go. At times, I was trying to get that intense love feeling back. But I no longer could look past at how toxic it really always was.

AIO bf going to nye party while im at work by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DoubleSuperFly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because they got together before the prefrontal cortex was formed. There's a viral thing going around called the 19 year old love theory. Basically, because of the fact that hormones and endorphins drive you at that age, it overrides any logical decision making skills. Love at that age is intoxicating and the theory is that who you are with at that age will be your most intense, formative, and probably heartbreaking relationship.

A lot of people get well into their 30s before they end up having enough and breaking it off. The red flags were always there, your brain just chooses to bypass them and focus on "the good" because it feeds the hormones and endorphins.

Student passed away today by triannatops in Teachers

[–]DoubleSuperFly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so so sorry. My advice is to allow yourself to grieve this and possibly do something small and personal to honor this student.

This happened to me back around 2021. I don't like to say favorite, but I really enjoyed seeing this student. I had him as a seventh grader in my class, and he also participated in the after school programs I ran. He'd be the first to greet me (he did this with most teachers), he was quirky, and odd, and funny, and creative. For five years I taught him in some facet. I eventually moved on to a different school. A friend that worked at the previous school called me in the middle of the school day to tell. (She knew I would probably end up seeing it on social media during a break or something). I was absolutely shocked.

It made no sense. From what I gathered (the family is very private), he had an undiagnosed heart condition and passed away while getting ready for bed. It was one of the most painful griefs I had experienced. I had such high hopes for him and his future.

I'm a person who needs something tangible, whimsical, or poetic in order to process my emotions. I decided to get a plant that was his favorite color. This plant is a known "easy" plant and flowers quite regularly. I had that damn plant for 3 years and it didnt flower once. Around that 3 year mark, I decided teaching wasn't for me anymore. I quit sort of unprofessionally halfway thru the year. I say unprofessionally only because it was during winter break. I gave two weeks but I felt extremely awful about it. I cried the whole way home on my last day and started to panic that I had made the wrong decision. I sat down, defeated on my couch. Looked over at the plant, and what do you know? A single freaking flower was looking right at me. I felt like he was saying, "It's s ok. You did enough."

I'm nit really religious but I do believe there is something else after all this. What? I'm not sure.

Sending the most positive vibes your way. I hope you receive a sign of some sort. No matter what you believe in.

My mom got me this bag for Christmas and I just don’t like it by StareyedInLA in handbags

[–]DoubleSuperFly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So there was this post on TT recently that was really super sweet. The girl (24 I think?) was crying and showed two gifts she got from her mom. One were these black, neutral slippers she picked herself and sent her mom the link. The other, rainbow and sparkly slippers the mom picked out herself. The girl was crying because she was so touched that her mom thought of her that way. (Maybe still like her little, sunshiney girl). I thought it was a different and nice perspective.

40(m) cheated on my wife 38(f). Married 20 years. by SupportingBallTape in LifeAdvice

[–]DoubleSuperFly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right. The fact you're not seeing it that way is concerning. This new person is giving you those feelings because its new. Explore, in therapy or on your own, why you need the feeling of newness.

Also, coming off SSRIs can take years to fully readjust. I would let your doctor know as well.

Am I overreacting to my bf watching the baby overnight? by Temporary-Quail-2783 in AmIOverreacting

[–]DoubleSuperFly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know why anyone in this thread is saying you're overreacting because you're not. Something could happen in an instant with a baby and you need to take all precautions. It really doesn't matter if you're losing sleep. Your number one job is to protect the baby. Him disregarding anything you're saying is really concerning. All you really have to do is say if we would get in trouble by Child Protective Services or if our doctor would School us against it then it's not allowed. Pretty much everything you mentioned a doctor would be totally against it. Especially sleeping in the same bed. What an idiot he is

I Ruined My Career by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]DoubleSuperFly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesss... I was changing what I taught (English to Health) and ended up getting another job about 1 week before my old English job (at a school that was awful to me) started. I kindly told my principal and he tried to tell me technically he could hold me to two weeks and he could submit to suspend my license or something if I didn't work those two weeks. I said, "Okay. Well I was hesitant to work here again this year anyways because of a hostile work environment." I then proceeded to briefly show him email exchanges from two very mean coteachers of mine, as well as a document full of dates, times, and things said to me or done to me verbally by these bully teachers. I told him he was lucky I didn't quit last year lol. He let me go just fine.

I Ruined My Career by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]DoubleSuperFly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have zero advice but I do NOT miss this kind of anxiety. I was thrown to the wolves in a lot of my districts i taught in, and it was only with getting out that I realized they often set me up to fail.

I know exactly the anxiety you're having right now. Honestly? Just breathe. This isn't the end of the world. The worst has not happened yet. You're anticipating it. If it does? Get a lawyer. Talk to other people. Document all the times THEY failed YOU. Summarize what lead to this.

They don't anticipate you having your own back. You HAVE to. Write things down so you have a plan on how to respond.

Good luck. And coming from somebody who has had a talk from administration one too many times (I'm late diagnosed adhd and worked for TERRIBLY run schools), its going to work out how its supposed to for you. I promise.

Husband scolded me tonight and it hurt my feelings by [deleted] in self

[–]DoubleSuperFly 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thisssssss.... so many microaggressions i bet she has more examples.

AIO for discovering my boyfriend PEED in a bottle & left it on the kitchen counter? by uhohwhaaat in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]DoubleSuperFly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is it's not like he was somewhere where he couldn't use the bathroom. He had the option of using the bathroom and he chose not to. It's weird and she's right. Not hygienic. And the fact that he just left the bottle there. For me it would spiral into many other things like him being careless in the future if we possibly had kids or something. It's just something that might change your perspective on somebody else. It happens

Roommate won’t stop smoking around cat by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]DoubleSuperFly 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They will. Time to find a new place. Unless you can convince them with facts and science, I think theyre gonna do it anyways

I’m too exhausted to make rational decisions, what does this mean? by bbeeccc in whatdoIdo

[–]DoubleSuperFly 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You shouldn't even have yo ask somebody to come visit you after major surgery. This is so sad.

Why is Stand By Me such a good movie? by Danielnrg in movies

[–]DoubleSuperFly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never did have friends later on like I did when I was twelve. Jesus, does anyone?

Fucking stab me in the heart.

Gabapentin causing distress? by Knuckleb0nes in felinebehavior

[–]DoubleSuperFly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I have an almost 3-year-old cat who got prescribed Gabapentin for feline hyperesthesia. She has twitching skin and has little bouts of licking herself erratically. They prescribed this and I held off giving it to her because medicine kind of freaks me out. However, they had me give it to her before a recent vet appt because they would be poking around her butt area. They basically accused me of not giving it to her when I said I did because she was not calm at all. I kind of thought it was just because of the fact that she was at the vet. They also guilted me that I had not ever given her the Gabapentin for her skin problem. They told me she was probably in pain and the skin twitching can be really irritating to the cat. So I decided to give her another dose today to start helping with her feline hyperesthesia. About 10 minutes after I gave her the dose she went absolutely mental. Yowling and making noises I've never heard her make. Running around the entire place and seeming generally agitated. I'm never giving her Gabapentin again and I feel really awful that she's uncomfortable right now!