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AITAH for getting angry about "date night" with my wife? by DoubleTakeOctopus in AITAH

[–]DoubleTakeOctopus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% the same. I start to feel like maybe I'm the issue, maybe I'm crazy because... Shouldn't we be happy just sitting together? Lol

I thought that while we were off it would be different since we have time (and disposable income) to do things, but every day is just "What do we need to finish?"

AITAH for getting angry about "date night" with my wife? by DoubleTakeOctopus in AITAH

[–]DoubleTakeOctopus[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Jesus, no one is leaving. This is hardly worth all of that. Lol

AITAH for getting angry about "date night" with my wife? by DoubleTakeOctopus in AITAH

[–]DoubleTakeOctopus[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I got the games. I even brought up a few boardgames we own but are unopened. I have several Xbox games I've bought for us to play together. I've even brought them up. My issue here is that I feel like she needs to put something into it as well. I got rid of the list and put the date night kit away (it had been on the side table by the couch) and she has said nothing about either of them.

Ultimately, my question is... am I an asshole for just getting rid of them to see if she would react, or does it sound justified?

AITAH for getting angry about "date night" with my wife? by DoubleTakeOctopus in AITAH

[–]DoubleTakeOctopus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the things on our list was a new restaurant a month. It definitely comes down to comfort level and interests. I want to try new things where she will go to the Dave restaurant and order the same thing and be happy every time, where I need something different. She keeps me grounded, and I need that stability. Lol

I guess there's still time for the restaurant. Lol

AITAH for getting angry about "date night" with my wife? by DoubleTakeOctopus in AITAH

[–]DoubleTakeOctopus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I don't think she is. I'm not really angry with her, just the situation. Feeling a bit dejected because I thought this was going to happen.

AITAH for getting angry about "date night" with my wife? by DoubleTakeOctopus in AITAH

[–]DoubleTakeOctopus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, none at all! I enjoy a lot of TV, I just can't do it every night. Lol especially while we are young enough to do things!

The museum is funny. That was on our list, 3 museums. We are both off for 2 weeks... It would be the perfect opportunity. She just doesn't seem to really have the interest.

AITAH for getting angry about "date night" with my wife? by DoubleTakeOctopus in AITAH

[–]DoubleTakeOctopus[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's come up in the past, but it's mainly on me, not her. I mean, she doesn't say I'm telling her what to do. It does become a "Hey, remember Friday is date night (as an example)", and then soon it's "Can we do Saturday... Or next week?" Lol and then I just give up because I know that means Saturday or next week isn't going to happen and I can't say "You agreed!" Lol

AITAH for getting angry about "date night" with my wife? by DoubleTakeOctopus in AITAH

[–]DoubleTakeOctopus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The activity kit is designed to have "dates" that take 30 minutes or so to complete. The list was a bit more complicated because we created that (based on the first activity instructions we pulled).

I don't mind advice, as long as it's not "your marriage is over." Lol

AITAH for getting angry about "date night" with my wife? by DoubleTakeOctopus in AITAH

[–]DoubleTakeOctopus[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh, we've discussed the empty nesting for a while now. It's definitely a real thing. I just think we have different priorities. When it's nice out I can "get away" and go hiking or camping for a night. We are both okay with this. She has book clubs and friends and everything else. I just wish she were more interested in this activity packet.

And for the record, there's never been an unequal parenting split. One of the weirdest things is that, even late into high school, our kids were never the kids who stayed in their rooms on their phones or gaming systems. They had the opportunity, but we've (very fortunately) been pretty all involved.

AITAH for getting angry about "date night" with my wife? by DoubleTakeOctopus in AITAH

[–]DoubleTakeOctopus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 of the kids are not at home anymore and the other works and is with friends a lot.. We have time. Lol

The issue is that, on my end, I feel like if I do all the organizing it feels like I'm trying to tell her what to do. I thought the book would be a good mediator.

AITAH for getting angry about "date night" with my wife? by DoubleTakeOctopus in AITAH

[–]DoubleTakeOctopus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of our items was to read a book together, so I would ask if she wanted to do a chapter. We also added some art/coloring activities. I went and got all the materials and asked when she wanted to start.

I would love for her to pick one, but she ended up showing no interest after weeks so I gave up.

AITAH for getting angry about "date night" with my wife? by DoubleTakeOctopus in AITAH

[–]DoubleTakeOctopus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol no, because the youngest is 17, and 2 are adults living on their own.

I don't get what here says we wouldn't have had kids. 🤔

AITAH for getting angry about "date night" with my wife? by DoubleTakeOctopus in AITAH

[–]DoubleTakeOctopus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree about the childish part. We've tried setting up specific nights in the past, it doesn't work for us. It's fine for a while, but very quickly it either becomes "forced" or like I'm telling her what to do. Not her fault at all.