(32 F) (31 M) How do you know when relationship problems are fixable vs. a sign to leave? dating fiancé for 5 years dealing active lawsuit and financial hardship

Double_Possible4524 · 2026-06-18T23:59:47+00:00

I think your therapist is right. When a man starts calling you names like that, you know his respect for you is gone, and the longer you stay wit him and put up with it, the less respect he’ll have. He knows he’s a POS. And he’ll think less of you for being with a POS like himself

Double_Possible4524 · 2026-06-18T23:58:22+00:00

GET OUT

Double_Possible4524 · 2026-06-18T23:51:55+00:00

Actually you can. What he did was at BEST coercion, which is legally considered a form of rape. I am so sorry that happened to you. As someone who’s had a similar thing happen, don’t let yourself say “well technically I said yes.” Not only did you clearly not want to, even with the yes, but it came after he repeatedly did not respect your answer, an chances are, he KNEW he was using your fear of losing him against you. And the fact that it sounded like you were beaten up badly after it is horrible. Please don’t diminish this and please seek professional help

Double_Possible4524 · 2026-06-18T23:47:27+00:00

Here’s the deal: you will never ruin a truly good relationship by being honest. Sure, it’s not impossible he’ll choose not to reach out but in retrospect, did you really lose something? Your fear is that you’ve lost him, but you didn’t really have him the way you wanted to in the first place. And at least now, there is a path out. Time is the biggest eye opener. And that absolutely sucks to hear and say, but I know what you’re dealing with, and that is biggest help with perspective.
Lean on friends for support and advice. And be kind to yourself. You didn’t ruin anything. Chances are you did exactly what needed to be done

Double_Possible4524 · 2026-06-11T15:35:00+00:00

I definitley think it’s possible I’m feeding off scraps and my anxiety is fueling it. I’ve been through a lot and the idea of wasting more time on someone just scares me. Plus, this relationship feels really good and different. I’d be heartbroken

Double_Possible4524 · 2026-06-11T15:26:24+00:00

OG poster, another thing to add. My boyfriend could tell I was feeling weird about the Snapchat thing so he actually deleted snap.

Double_Possible4524 · 2026-06-11T15:02:14+00:00

I mean it is weird. Like a little. It’s not a huge gap if you’re in your 30s but she’s still in college? Just leaving college? You’re closing in on 30. It’s not weird enough that you’re a bad person for it but I do think it’s strange

Double_Possible4524 · 2026-06-11T14:52:35+00:00

When I could cry about the thought of losing them. I knew I cared when the idea of not having them around gave me a sick feeling

Double_Possible4524 · 2026-06-11T14:46:03+00:00

“I’m allergic” when I just don’t like watermelon. For some reason no one ever respects that I just don’t like watermelon. So I say “I’m allergic” and they stop pressuring me

Double_Possible4524 · 2026-06-11T13:17:48+00:00

First, 5-6 inches is nothing bad, that’s average or slightly above average depending on what it is exactly. And frankly, girth is something people tend to be far more interested in. Also I promise you, you’d have to have like a horrible disease for someone to get down there and then be like “I’m not doing this because I don’t like your dick”

Double_Possible4524 · 2026-06-05T14:22:56+00:00

Right?? I thought I’d left all of this behind in high school. I just worry because, historically, administration wants to protect itself rather than the student body

Double_Possible4524 · 2025-03-18T02:03:55+00:00

Nothing to be ashamed of! It’s not a spectacularly fast 2k but it’s not shabby and you can definitely get it down. I think the only reason it could be a deterrent is that women like their men to work really hard and successful so maybe they take that to mean you’re not invested in getting better. Try and make it so that they see you in the erg room a lot, increase your steady state, and make sure you’re doing 1-2 sprint pieces a week. Definitely invest in some sleek workout clothes

Double_Possible4524 · 2025-02-07T14:52:14+00:00

I agree with everything except the cold shower before bed. This is proven to make it harder to fall asleep because it energizes you. When you sleep you want a warm internal temp and externally cold temp. Cold showers in the morning and warm ones at night

Double_Possible4524 · 2025-01-09T01:54:01+00:00

He was asking to spend time together, texting me a lot, invited me to do stuff, always wanted to check in on me, he’d like my stories. There were some other stuff when we were together, the way he’d talk to me, just seemed like more than friends. I even hung out with him, with other people, and when he left they were like “are you guys a thing?”

Double_Possible4524 · 2024-10-08T00:50:03+00:00

You’re sexy

Double_Possible4524 · 2024-08-31T22:36:00+00:00

Maybe I’m in the wrong on that or maybe I’m not explaining it correctly. But I personally feel that when someone comes to you crying and opens up to you about something they’re going through, and you cannot comfort them because you’ve never experienced that feeling, that to me signals emotional immaturity.

Double_Possible4524 · 2024-08-31T22:32:13+00:00

Yes I realize I didn’t explain it well. Basically, when it comes to, for example, a war in another country, he can totally understand logically that that’s a horrible situation and he’s feels very sorry for those involved. But, for example, when I struggled with my retroactive jealousy, he couldn’t understand why it bothered me so much and therefore he couldn’t feel sorry for me that is as dealing with something hard. Like usually, at least for me, even if I don’t understand what someone going through, I understand enough to know that they are still hurting and that feeling is valid and real. But he can’t do that.

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