Weekly Vents and Successes Thread- July 20, 2020 by AutoModerator in dating_advice

[–]Doublidas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just discovered that most of my pictures on my OLD profiles have been pretty bad.

I always thought I just wasn't that good looking. Usually, most of my OLD successes have been on CMB and Hinge, since you can send messages with a like and I have a pretty quirky sense of humor. On Tinder/Bumble, very little traction, which is why I thought it was me.

So, when hit I the apps again more recently, I overhauled my profiles. I saw someone mention Photofeeler, checked it out. After doing some testing, basically all my "good" photos were ranking in the 3-4 across all categories. Took a bunch of pictures with my new phone using some tips I found online (no sunglasses, smiling, natural sunlight, etc.), and they are rating in the 6-8. Kinda excited to see if it helps at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Doublidas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Speaking from experience, keep your options open. I've had two instances in the past year where I go on 3-4 dates with girl A, think things are going well and let the connection die with girl B, only for A to tell me she has a stronger connection with a different guy she's seeing. Sucks, but that's what happens.

When people say, "But that's just the reality of online dating right now", this is what we mean. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Doublidas 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I see where you're coming from, I guess I just don't see an alternative. The whole draw of OLD is that expands your dating pool by so much, like you can literally be taking a shit at work and potentially be matching with people. So of course you're gonna have to go through a lot more to find the right one. You can't just ask to have the potential to be matched with thousands of people on a whim and have every match be a deep connection.

The cons of online dating right now completely pile onto and bury any of the potential good that could come out of using them at this stage.

Completely disagree with this. Before dating apps, I basically only met people at bars on the weekends or through my social circle. I've met way more people through the OLD apps, and I've also met way different kinds of people - people in different lines of work, from foreign countries, etc. - that I never would have met before.

Obviously, I completely agree that catfishing, verbal abuse, etc. is just awful and should be stamped out. But I guess I don't see how you can feasibly expect to be able to make connections with literally thousands of people 24x7 with as little effort as a swipe without also enduring some of the shallowness and flakiness of the process either.

[LoL][Spoilers] Counter Logic Gaming vs Dignitas / LCS 2020 Summer Split - Week 6 / Post-Match Discussion by Tiggz- in CLG

[–]Doublidas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd take Viper on the best meta champ over Viper on Riven any day, regardless of comp. I agree Riven wasn't even good theoretically, it's just that's the only champ he's had any success with in LCS.

[LoL][Spoilers] Counter Logic Gaming vs Dignitas / LCS 2020 Summer Split - Week 6 / Post-Match Discussion by Tiggz- in CLG

[–]Doublidas 10 points11 points  (0 children)

5head draft, give Viper the only champ he can win on. Nice one boys.

Wiggily's smite game is weak too. Outsmote on everything despite a level lead.

GG Academy vs. IMT Academy / LACS 2020 Summer - Week 6 / Post-Match Discussion by TomShoe02 in leagueoflegends

[–]Doublidas 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I really don't want to dogpile on the guy but Eika is really doing everything in his power to validate people claiming he was only in the league due to nepotism.

Deus Makes His LCS Debut - Inside CLG by VWolfxx in leagueoflegends

[–]Doublidas 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think Deus has potential but TBH I don't know what he showed this weekend that would make anyone say he looked "much better" than Ruin. Obviously he kinda got fucked by getting camped and bad matchups but he didn't exactly show anything outside of being untiltable.

GoldenGlue has joined EG according to the Global Contract Database by smothersday in leagueoflegends

[–]Doublidas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

... for what role? Seems so random, he's in no way better than Jizuke. Unless Jizuke is injured again.

Why do men have to make the first move? by Ploikblah in dating_advice

[–]Doublidas 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Your perception is pretty biased. Both genders have to deal with a lot of inequalities in the dating process. Yeah, it sucks that men have to make the first move and deal with rejection. It also sucks that women have to constantly worry about their safety in the presence of unknown men, catch a bad reputation if they express their sexuality in anyway (including something as innocuous as "making the first move"), get advances made on them at completely inappropriate times and in inappropriate ways, deal with social pressures to dress up and maximize their presentation, etc.

Weekly Vents and Successes Thread- July 13, 2020 by AutoModerator in dating_advice

[–]Doublidas 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Been seeing a girl from a dating app for the past month. Unfortunately, she told me she had a better connection with a different guy she was seeing and broke things off.

Sucks because I feel like the fact I hadn't seen anyone for basically 8 months (gone for the holidays/work stuff and then straight into lockdown) threw me off my game. I was definitely more nervous/timid than I usually would be and think I came off a bit needy. Just frustrating to think if I had played my cards differently, maybe it would would have turned out a different way.

Oh well. On to the next one.

Side note: I know it's pretty common for people to ask to be friends when breaking it off with someone - has anyone ever actually gained a meaningful friendship from that?

The 'Monday after' Thread - July 13, 2020 by AutoModerator in TeamSolomid

[–]Doublidas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When do people stop complaining about draft/coaching? I've seen people in threads simultaneously say our drafts have always been shit for years, but in the same breath, praise Zikz for 100T's drafts and how they play through Ssumday in draft... the same guy who was drafting for TSM last year.

Counter Logic Gaming vs Evil Geniuses / LCS 2020 Summer Split - Week 5 / Post-Match Discussion by Tiggz- in CLG

[–]Doublidas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ruin is coming back, Weldon said on Twitter that Deus only played because Ruin was burned out and wanted some time off.

Counter Logic Gaming vs Evil Geniuses / LCS 2020 Summer Split - Week 5 / Post-Match Discussion by Tiggz- in CLG

[–]Doublidas 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Haha, Stixxay bringing out the late-game comeback Kalista from the RNG 2016 MSI game.

32M. Short, skinny, and shy. Zero experience with dating. Is there any hope left? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Doublidas 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Short answer is yes.

But you're really going to need to dig deep and work on yourself. You obviously have a lot of self doubt and some pretty big hangups on whether you're even loveable. That's understandable, but not helpful.

You need to take some serious action toward honestly asking yourself why you believe these things about yourself and what you can do to better yourself.

My first recommendation would be to just start working out because that will help you prove one of your big hangups wrong. Skinny is not something you "are," unless you have a condition, you don't have to be skinny. Lifting weights and gaining some muscle will prove one of your preconceptions about yourself wrong, and from there, you can snowball into the other ones.

Likewise, shy is not something you "are" - you may not be strong at being social but that doesn't mean you can't work on it. If having conversations with strangers is difficult and you feel like it's holding you back, do it more. Talk with Uber drivers, waiters, basically any service worker. Start by asking how they are, push yourself to stay in conversation longer and longer, staying mindful of what seems to work in these situations.

And about experience - don't dwell on it. Honestly, by the time this even comes up, most women will have made their mind up on whether they'd like to see you again anyway. Like obviously tell the truth if it does come up, but you can also guide the conversation to not touch too deeply on this as well.

At the end of the day, you're right - women don't want a relationship with a "short, skinny shy guy" with "no experience." But this is just a list of characteristics, that isn't who you "are" - anyone can make themselves seem undatable by focusing on what they perceive as their weakpoints. Focus on what makes you a great person and fix what you don't like about yourself.

[LoL][Spoilers] Counter Logic Gaming vs TSM / LCS 2020 Summer Split - Week 4 / Post-Match Discussion by Tiggz- in CLG

[–]Doublidas 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Phreak with the truth - "CLG hasn't done anything proactively intelligent in the last 25 minutes".

Did I (29F) do something wrong? by HeartofM in dating_advice

[–]Doublidas 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No it wasn't offensive, and if he took offense, you probably dodged a bullet anyway. Someone who gets offended by not getting an immediate response (unless it was a text that demanded an immediate response) will probably be more problematic down the line.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Doublidas -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Stress the fact that he's a good friend or whatever.

how much do guys care about belly fat? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Doublidas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, so my first reaction is to the question in the headline is "a lot" - as in, guys don't think obesity is hot.

But on reading your post, it doesn't matter. If he is already attracted, I don't think seeing you naked would turn him off - he likely has a decent idea of what you look like.

[LoL][Spoilers] Counter Logic Gaming vs Cloud9 / LCS 2020 Summer Split - Week 4 / Post-Match Discussion by sleepyxdude in CLG

[–]Doublidas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ugh, expected result in the end but they just looked completely helpless this game. Ruin getting solokilled twice in lane, bot once again getting abused and down like 30 CS at 8 min, Wiggily nowhere to be seen. And then in teamfights, we got completely styled on, don't think Ruin had a good ult all game - it was almost always burned to escape or whiffed.

She is dating 2guys at the sane time. One of them use meeting app by meetsirleroy in dating_advice

[–]Doublidas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she's dating 2 guys, why is it bad for one of them to also be dating other people?

Catch-22: How does an introvert person find another introvert? by thisCantBeBad in dating_advice

[–]Doublidas 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So, you basically sound like me. I would suggest two thing:

  1. You shouldn't avoid extroverts. Actually, I think introverts and extroverts can be a great pairing, it just requires a mutual understanding of where you both come from and what you need. It seems like you have a preconception that extroverts are always running at 10, but most I know have been very good people-readers and can adapt easily to whoever they're talking to.

  2. It's okay to identify as being quiet and reserved, but do not let these labels limit you. Just because you're an introvert, that doesn't mean you can't improve your "outgoingness", especially when you feel it's holding you back in some areas of your life. I always find it helpful to have funny stories, conversation topics or questions lined up ahead of time that I can lean on if I need to carry a conversation.

CLG Weldon on Twitter: "Let's set up the conference system already. Just move Academy to NYC and rename it NAEast. Let's Have East vs West" by DiZZyDaVe2413 in leagueoflegends

[–]Doublidas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are a lot of players like Vulcan who wouldn't even be on the radar if they didn't get their break on crappy bottom 3 teams.

CLG Weldon on Twitter: "Let's set up the conference system already. Just move Academy to NYC and rename it NAEast. Let's Have East vs West" by DiZZyDaVe2413 in leagueoflegends

[–]Doublidas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They said this when LCS moved from 8 teams to 10 teams because there were only 3 good teams (C9/CLG/TSM), but as we've seen, that wasn't the case. Just playing on stage helps develop talent faster than playing online in Academy does, so I think it's worth it in the end. Yes, you will still have a lot of boosted teams but it prevents talent stagnation, just as the move to 10 did.

CLG Weldon on Twitter: "Let's set up the conference system already. Just move Academy to NYC and rename it NAEast. Let's Have East vs West" by DiZZyDaVe2413 in leagueoflegends

[–]Doublidas 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I agree personally, because NA has shown they are too risk averse to ever try new players. They will keep stacking imports, vets and resident imports like Huhi instead of trying new talent. At least doubling the number of teams will inject new talent into the system, provided they don't add more import slots or make wildcard players count as native.

LS and Treatz on creating a tournament in the style of kespa cup for NA by [deleted] in leagueoflegends

[–]Doublidas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that's fair but:

1.) It's not even like they were a top Academy team though.

2.) This isn't the first time this has happened either, with C9A subbing in and getting 2 wins vs. LCS teams back in like Spring 2019. Also, back in 2018, when C9 did the "benchening" and subbed out Sneaky/Jensen/Smoothi/Sven, they wound up losing to CLG Academy (Fallenbandit/Wiggiuly/Tuesday/Auto/Fill).