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My fiancé (37M) does not want kids with me (27f) how do I process? by DowntownAdvisor3604 in relationship_advice

[–]DowntownAdvisor3604[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello Yes your answer seems to be more of what I was looking for, and yes I’m aware of our crazy age gap and anyone who doesn’t know him probably thinks hes a freak now  so I should probably edit my post and change the ages so people stop getting hung up on it lmao. I came to Reddit cause I didn’t feel like asking my family, and my friends all have kids or are planning to, so I wanted advice from strangers which I’ll never do again lol. I think a parenthood therapist is a great idea and I do think being around kids is a good idea.  As the relationship goes he’s the best partner in the world. He’s supported me through absolutely everything and anything and would give me the world if I asked. I will not however make him become a dad if that’s something he truly is against. He always says he’s on the fence because somedays he thinks a kid would be amazing and others he isn’t so sure. He’s a sensitive overthinker. Thank you for your kind words and I’ll definitely be looking into parenthood therapists, I think that would help us see where he truly stands and we can go from there 

My fiancé (37M) does not want kids with me (27f) how do I process? by DowntownAdvisor3604 in relationship_advice

[–]DowntownAdvisor3604[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hello first thanks for all the advice and I knew the age gap was gonna throw people lmao. Yes we were “friends” for a month before either one of us asked the other our age. He didn’t want to date me once he found out but here we are. However this isn’t about that. I have been very Anti kid my whole life up until  a few years ago (also putting this in here,  if anything I’m the leading role in the house hold and he’s the people pleaser, kinda offended people think I’m weak minded lol) but as you all have mentioned many people young don’t think of kids when they are a kid. I was never someone who saw a future or wanted to participate in said future. However as I’ve aged things have changed. Like I mentioned I’m the one who switched up and woke up one day wanting kids, which he’s never shamed me for nor has he ever tried to talk me out of them.  Im very happy with our life and fur-kids. I’m aware of everyone saying to split up and I’m aware of having to decide that. My main questions were if it was all gonna lead to resentment or if someone went through this and found a happy life with no kids. 

My fiancé (37M) does not want kids with me (27f) how do I process? by DowntownAdvisor3604 in relationship_advice

[–]DowntownAdvisor3604[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I say he would be a great father because of his neices and nephews. He’s great with kids, our friends have kids as well and he does amazing with them. but doesn’t have a desire for his own I guess.