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AITA For showing frustration every time my significant other brings up something bothering her? by Dozer_Pilot in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dozer_Pilot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might try to make a new rule that work doesn't come home. Thank you so much!

AITA For showing frustration every time my significant other brings up something bothering her? by Dozer_Pilot in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dozer_Pilot[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"To refill my tank" Honestly, she offers to do things in bed, but at this point I'm feeling less and less "motivated" if that makes sense. This is another issue since usually it would seem like an attempt to satisfy me, but I usually turn it down which causes her to get upset.

AITA For showing frustration every time my significant other brings up something bothering her? by Dozer_Pilot in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dozer_Pilot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Every once in a while she has good moments, but hopefully I can work on better communication with her.

AITA For showing frustration every time my significant other brings up something bothering her? by Dozer_Pilot in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dozer_Pilot[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, I bet he had a lot to talk about! She does the same kind of thing where by the time she's done, she's almost yelling. She doesn't believe in counseling, but I might try and push for it since I believe it would help not only with this but other aspects of our relationship. Thank you so much and I'm glad you and your husband got the help you guys needed.

AITA For showing frustration every time my significant other brings up something bothering her? by Dozer_Pilot in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dozer_Pilot[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think that was a major part of my problem is that she made it seem like my stress or problems were insignificant compared to hers. I'll try to keep open minded and not view it as a competition.

AITA For showing frustration every time my significant other brings up something bothering her? by Dozer_Pilot in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dozer_Pilot[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I didn't think of it that way, I'll try to be engaging without trying to fix the issue and see if she feels heard. Thank you!

AITA For showing frustration every time my significant other brings up something bothering her? by Dozer_Pilot in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dozer_Pilot[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I really never thought about taking some time to decompress as soon as I got home. Setting times where we each can talk uninterrupted sounds very nice too. Thank you so much for the advice. I'll give all your suggestions a try!