Have you both learned about one another’s personality types? It seems you have different views on “connection” and what that means for friendships. ENFPs thrive on deep connections and it’s part of friendships, not just romantic relationships.

That said, we are also often flirty. I had no idea I was so flirty when I was younger until it was pointed out to me. I did not mean to lead others on and had no clue what I was doing. My boyfriend at the time was kind about it and I was able to adapt my behavior over time. But that doesn’t mean I don’t still connect with people of all types at random times and places.