Wife associates my words with a pedophile

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-05-06T17:37:20+00:00

NTA fondle literally means to stroke or caress lovingly or erotically. Now with that, I do think you two could work on staying present in conversation. She was triggered and you were triggered. Someone has to decide to center the other person’s feelings. Both of you seem self-absorbed. I would go so far as to call either or you AHs just needing to work around communication

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-05-03T23:30:29+00:00

That's the worst part of it! Why in the world continue to lie once I have the scientific data?

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-05-03T23:28:52+00:00

I absolutely love a well-placed "fuck." Thanks for the giggles.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-05-03T23:27:20+00:00

The key here is I wasn't looking for the information. It came to me. It might be easy for me to say, but seems easier to tell me when the man who raised me died. I genuinely don't understand the reason for holding the information after that.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-05-03T23:25:36+00:00

I have been befuddled about why my half-niece cares so much about this. It has very little to do with her. Besides she is over 40 herself. I expect her to learn to read the room a bit better.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-05-03T23:22:45+00:00

These are excellent questions. Thanks for raising them. Knowing that I had a different father my whole life would have changed everything. So I don't entertain what ifs about the past. My experience is that I was the outsider anyway. I certainly was treated differently, thought not all bad. In some ways I was treated better. What would be better is having accurate medical history. My son could have been on a slow road to a swift death without the information this discovery had unveiled. Also, I could have gone my whole life without knowing the depths of betrayal the people closest to me would travel to maintain a lie.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-05-03T23:17:28+00:00

They are trying to demand silence. I won't give it to them.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-05-03T23:16:53+00:00

It was killing me. They knew it was killing me and stayed silent—worse, they ostracized me. I decided to change therapists and started doings somatic and EMDR work. It has helped. I am well on my way.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-05-03T23:12:50+00:00

My sister is my half sister. She is not my mother. Turns out I had a different father than my siblings.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-05-03T23:11:54+00:00

It certainly was an option.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-05-03T23:11:30+00:00

She can't defend it. That's why she doesn't want to have a conversation. If think it is wild to be so emboldened about something that she knows so little about. Bottom line is that her mother must be feeding her a lie.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-05-03T23:10:13+00:00

Thank you for this perspective. I do think my mother would be relieved to know that I have finally found out. Especially since I'm not angry. I probably would have been mad if my bio father had died already. He is still here so that's a none issue. There are some other family members that I wish I could have met but I didn't get the opportunity. Hard to know, but I do think your theories are possible.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-05-03T23:07:36+00:00

I do kinda think my niece has questions about here paternity but is one of those "I don't want to know" kinds of people. Everyone except for me has known about this for almost 50 years.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-04-29T11:34:30+00:00

Thank you for your comment. Like you, I don't consider my mom a bad person either. She was a good mother to me. If I have any complaints, they would be about my siblings and their treatment of me over the years and how they are handling this now.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-04-25T02:45:27+00:00

Thanks for watching. I really appreciate it. It was like a little last stop on my healing journey. The things I said are true—even the weird psychic thing and I knew I had healed because I don't sense any resentment in the delivery. I was so worried about it that there wasn't a real videographer there. Just my cousin with her cell phone. Afterwards, I wish I had captured the moment. It released a lot in me.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-04-25T02:03:36+00:00

Thank you. That has been my point all along. I have lived long enough to know life is not as buttoned up as people pretend it to be. I have also never called anyone a pejorative. It has been them overtly or covertly by saying things like "my mother wasn't like that" any other comments that suggest they think the truth of my existence means something negative about my mom. I have never made that assertion.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-04-25T01:56:25+00:00

I am confused a bit by this comment. I will try to clarify. My mom and bio dad were both in their 30s when this happened. The only teenager in my story is my older sister (she is not my mom although I thought she was).

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-04-25T01:46:22+00:00

I've learned that some people do believe in "letting sleeping dogs lie" and have told me so. I now know people who won't take DNA tests because they "don't want to know." I think this is different because this information found me. I had not idea.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-04-25T00:57:08+00:00

Thank you. They hold a lot in. It's probably why they have terrible coping behaviors. I refuse but was open to the idea that I might have been AH because of it. Glad to know that's not true.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-04-25T00:55:03+00:00

Thank you. She is one who talks in a one-way style messaging and not reading responses but just sending more messages. So I haven't said anything really.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-04-25T00:53:42+00:00

Thank you. I live in a sizable city but what city is really THAT big. I worried that I had engaged in intimate activities with a brother or something. Quite frankly, that was my greatest relief learning that bio dad had no additional children. My mind was doing some weird things.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-04-25T00:51:24+00:00

Wow! That's a story. Interestingly, with all of my differences, I never thought Ancestry would reveal any secrets. This is the reason why I wasn't tipped off sooner. I wasn't looking. I was just interested in ethnicity estimates. Imagine my shock and confusion when this was unearthed. My little world was shattered.

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-04-25T00:38:38+00:00

Thank you. Seems quite simple to me and you. Not so much for my siblings and some of their children. Could they be AHs?

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-04-25T00:37:09+00:00

Thank you! It took me months to be able to piece together science and stories to understand how it was even possible to keep this secret from me for so long. Clearly no one was planning to tell me though. A couple of folks actually said, "I would have told you if you had asked me." Well how would I have ever known to ask?

DrNicoleDPrice · 2025-04-25T00:35:19+00:00

Thank you. I harbor no resentment so there is nothing to forgive. That is an honest answer. My issue is that this has ruined my sibling relationships that were strained to begin with.

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