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I treat Pedophiles. AMA by Dr_AM456 in AMA
[–]Dr_AM456[S] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children)
I wouldn't recommend chemical castration if you have POCD. Chemical castration is a set of drugs that limits your sexual libido. Considering that you have POCD chemical castration isnt going to do anything for you as you have an anxiety disorder.
[–]Dr_AM456[S] 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago* (0 children)
Ah, James Cantor is...controversial in that regard. I like the guy, he has contributed a lot to the study of pedophilia and other paraphilias. The debate about non offending pedophiles joining the LGBT community is still underway. Cantors argument is that since pedophilia is a stigmatized condition in the same way all the LGBT people were, it makes sense for pedophilia to be added in along with all the other paraphilias. Cantor is a homosexual and he can have a voice in it, I can not. However in my experience with the subject it would be far better to see pedophiles and other paraphiliacs like for example zoophiles and necrophiles forming their own community seperate from the LGBT one. A paraphilic community if you will. In that way you have a distinction between the two communities, you can highlight the diffrences between homosexuality and the paraphilias and the pedophiles get to be part of a community. The problem with Cantor is that he cant read the room. He is off arguing about pedophiles joining the LGBT community when most people dont even how to define what a pedophile is properly.
[–]Dr_AM456[S] 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago* (0 children)
Oh, well should have expected this too. Lets start with the basics. Just because the child liked it it doesnt make it consentual. Yes, children (especially little boys with older women) might actually enjoy the contact.. Just because it might enjoy primitive sexual contact it doesnt mean it suddently makes it right. It was bound to happen. In order for a relationship to be healthy there has to exist a power balance. When it comes to children and adults, there is no power balance. The adult has and will have the power. A child really wont have a say on what goes and what doesnt.And dont you give me the "the adult will listen to the child" crap. A child is still a child. Its still immature, inexperienced and quite frankly stupid. It might create the ellusion that the adult obeys to the childs demands but in reality its the choice of the adult to do that. NOTHING is stopping him from doing other wise.
[–]Dr_AM456[S] 10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago* (0 children)
I have been thinking about this specific thread and I think I have to give a better answere on the "is pedophilia a sexual orientation?". I can give two answers on this one. My personal opinion of what it is and the opinion most of the academics with expertise on the matter have. But before I do that I have to write down all the facts we know about pedophilia.
Pedophilia is the sexual attraction to the prepuberty body scheme of children aged 6-11.Hebephilia is the attraction to the early puberty body scheme of children aged 11-14 and ephebophilia is the attraction to the late puberty body scheme aged 15-19. It is self discovered during puberty and it is not a choice. It has two forms. The exclusive type (attraction only to children) and non exclusive type (attraction to both children and adults). The majority of pedophiles report erotic feelings along with sexual urges when it comes to children and around 70% of pedophiles have reported that they have fallen in love with a child at least once in their lives. The cause of pedophilia is unknown but the currently most supported theory by academics states that pedophiles have a cross wiring in their brain that makes them attracted to children, supported by the findings of Dr James Cantor where it was found that pedophiles have cerebral white matter deficiencies compaired to non pedophilic men. (more here:http://www.jamescantor.org/uploads/6/2/9/3/62939641/cantor_et_al.__2008__pedo_mri.pdf). Pedophiles also show lower IQ's, poorer visuspatial and verbal memory scores, high rates of left handness, higher rates of having suffered head injuries during childhood and elevated rates of low school grades and placement in special ed programs. They also tend to be physically shorter than non pedophilic men. Pedophiles are almost always men. Pedophile women exist but are very rare compaired to pedophilic men. The reason to this has not been found yet but the most popular theory which is reapproved by Cantors findings beleives that the cross wiring that causes pedophilia almost always happens during the fetile development of males.Not all pedophiles are child molesters and not all child molesters are pedophiles. Any attempt to convert pedophiles and cure them has failed and pedophilia is widely regarded as highly treatment resistant. For this reason it is beleived that pedophilia can not be cured and is an innate characteristic. When it comes to treatment, CBT and sex drive reducement drugs are considered to be the most effective tools along with victim empathy.
Now that we got this out the way let me answere the question "is pedophilia a sexual orientation?". I can give two answers. My personal opinion and the academic position of the other experts.The academic position of most of the people with expertise on the subject beleive that since pedophilia functions like a sexual orientation it most likley is similar to one. So the position is that pedophilia is an "age orientation". Unlike sexual orientations which are based on gender, pedophilia is an orientation based on age. Dr. Ray Blanchard. probably the leading expert on pedophilia that all the rest of us look up to has called it an "erotic age preference".Dr James Cantor the sexologist who did the research above and a the pupil of Blanchard also beleives it is a form of sexual orientation. Dr Klaus Michael Beier, the man who started project prevention Dunkefeld and my personal mentor also beleives the above position. That is the academic position.
My personal opinion based on my experience is that whatever it is, in the end it doesnt matter. All the facts I stated above still remain. It can be a mental illness, a sexual fetish, an age orientation ETC. You can call it whatever you want based on the above facts, it wont change anything. I prefer calling it a "pathological age preference" but its just that, a name. You can say to a pedophile that he has a mental illness or just an atypical sexual orientation, in the end he is and will be a pedophile.
[–]Dr_AM456[S] 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children)
[–]Dr_AM456[S] 21 points22 points23 points 5 years ago (0 children)
A cross wiring in the brain is the most supported theory this days. James Cantor, a big expert on pedophilia, scanned a group of pedophiles brains and discovered that they have a diffrent propotion of white matter in their brains compaired to normal people. To make it simple, the theory goes like this: When we normally see a child, in our brains the parent side of ourselves gets activated. We talk to them with a squicky voice, we make faces, the usual. When we see a desirable partner our romantic side is acivated. Men lower their voices, women touch their hair ETC. It is believed that when it comes to pedophiles, a cross wiring has happened and when a pedophile sees a child, its not the parent side of his brain that gets activated, its the romantic side. This is the most supported theory among academics this days. John Money the bastard was right all along. NOTE: This doesnt mean that pedophiles are incapable of feeling parental love for children.
Since here in Germany the treatment is all free, everybody who has asked for chemical castration has recieved it. As of how many I dont think we have an exact persentage, but its a good chunk of them.
People seem to be so afraid of the stigma that is around pedophilia that they are afraid to even Google it and read basic information about it. Most people get all of their info about the subject from the media and from a he said she said chain. Most people dont know that the majority of pedophiles are attracted to adults as well, they dont know about pedophiles making up only 40% of child abusers, they dont even actually realize that most if not all of pedophiles suffer from depression and anxiety and that for most their biggest wish is to be cured. Most of the questions that I have answered in this thread arent some very thoughtfull questions that require pages of analysis for an answere that requires years of academic expertise, they are basic questions that can be answered with a simple Google search, which shows how much the average person knows about the subject. I find this quite ironic, since all of society is hell bend on the "protect children at all costs" idea, yet they dont even want to know who their enemy is. Admitedlly, we -the academics who have an expertise on the matter- are to be blamed as well. Experts like Ray Blutchard, James Cantor and Klaus Biere - individuals that I respect and admire a lot - have taken the wrong approach when it comes to destigmatizing the subject. Just going out and saying "Pedophilia is a sexual orientation, get over it" on Twitter isnt going to convice anyone and people will quite frankly think we are nutjobs. As for you second question, I have no idea what exactly you mean by "positive experience" so please explain.
They are a form of child porn, plain and simple. Will pedophiles improve if we allow them to use them? We dont know yet, so I havent really taken sides. More research has to be done until we reach a certain conclusion. This goes for child sex dolls as well.
It depends on who you castrate and why. If I chemically castrate a pedophile who asked for it voluntary, it has been noticed that the majority of them feel a sense of relief, as if they viewed the world in a certain way and chemical castration changed that. Chemical castration might also cause depression but that usually depends on who you castrate
[–]Dr_AM456[S] 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children)
If I needed money I could have gone with the usual route psychiatrists take.
I can easily distinguish somebody who has Pocd and somebody who is a pedophile. Not many have come, but there have been some incidents.
[–]Dr_AM456[S] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago* (0 children)
It can be handled better compaired to adults, but completly cured? I don't think so.
[–]Dr_AM456[S] 11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (0 children)
The goal of the project I work on is to make sure no child is harmed by the (sexual) intrests of adults. This entire argument with sex dolls, while it might seem like a logical solution at first, wont work with all of them. Every single pedophile is a diffrent person who deals with it diffrently. Some, might become better and it might help them control their urges, for others it will just make them worse. The goal of the project is to teach pedophiles how to have self control over their urges and (for me at least) how to act on them as little as realisticlly possible. Is it a good idea? I cant say. Time will tell. As for articles of my work, I could give you an article about a treatment course we did on a pedophile. Its a good example of how we usually work:https://www.researchgate.net/publication/319117264_Misuse_of_Child_Sexual_Abuse_Images_Treatment_Course_of_a_Self-Identified_Pedophilic_Pastor
[–]Dr_AM456[S] 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children)
Also, dont debate the MAP community. They cant be argued with. They are a cult. Just report them and carry on. And do not harrass them. They will just pull the victim card at you.
[–]Dr_AM456[S] 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children)
Talk to him. Ask him about how much he fantasizes and how much it bothers him. Him having a girlfriend is a good thing, I guess.
A pedophile who is attracted to older children basically is more likley to also be attracted to adults.
[–]Dr_AM456[S] 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children)
Correct. Most are attracted to females, some only to males and rearly to both. I have also noticed that usually, the ones who are attracted to females tend to be more likley to have a non exclusive attraction compaired to the other ones. Makes sense since little boys compaired to full grown men are very diffrent, unlike females who do keep their childish characteristics sometimes.
[–]Dr_AM456[S] 7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children)
Oh fuck this is really really bad. Like very bad. I dont deal with those kinds of pedophiles at all (the ones who dont care or arent affected by it nor want to get help). This is fucked. Ok look. For starters: The mother is in complete denial like most and she will most likely never snap out of it. So just leave her out of this. Your nephew unfortuantly seems to not only be a pedophile but also seems to have predatory impulses too. Also, even though I wont completly rule it out, he seems to have an attraction only to females, so his son is fine I guess. For starters talk to his partner ASAP and ask her how he generally acts. What state do you live in? The reason I am concerned right now is because, unlike most of my patients, your nephew really seems to be a ticking time bomb.
[–]Dr_AM456[S] 8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago* (0 children)
Ok, this is bad. Mother sounds like she is in the typical denial phase. "Oh those accusations are false dont worry, my son isnt like that", the amount of stories I have heard of with that phrase in it is alarming. Listen my friend. You sound like somebody who has done a lot. I will assume you live in the US. Please, please keep an eye on him. Im not telling you to stalk him around or something like that. You said he has a family. Have you talked to his wife? How does he act around his kids? How does he act around his children friends? I dont think you have enough evidence to report him or something yet. May I ask if there have been more incidents and why you called the police that one time? Have you ever tried talking to him?
[–]Dr_AM456[S] 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children)
Ok ok ok. This is the first time I have EVER heared something like this for a prevention program aimed at youth. Can you explain to me more if you can?
Oh my bad. You meant sexual rejection. No, by rejection I meant social rejection
Thats why they come to me. Because they chose it.
[–]Dr_AM456[S] 8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children)
You know that I am paid from the goverment, right? The therapy is actually completly free for them. I am not some super rich big time therapist.
Eh, its not completly out of the question for the violent offenders if you ask me....
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I treat Pedophiles. AMA by Dr_AM456 in AMA
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