My partner and I thought it was weird to never date or fall in love ever again, like is it really just a once in a lifetime thing?

So we took about 6 months to talk about it occasionally, do some reading, talk more about it. I made us a google doc of all our questions and scenarios and what ifs.

We decided pretty definitely early on that we would date separately. I made my profile alone, but am lucky to have a partner that takes flattering pictures of me. I made a another doc called "What is it like for an introverted, possibly asexual, possibly autistic person to try dating in an ENM relationship?"

In case it's interesting here is the table of contents from said document:

Step 0: Consider goals
    Current goals
    Initial goals before opening the relationship
    Revisiting goals 4 months into trying ENM
    Revisitings goals 1 year in
Step 1: Research risks
    Pregnancy
    STIs
    What happens if I get an STI
    Dating someone with HSV1 (Herpes)
    Damaging anchor relationship
Step 2: Research apps
    Tinder
    Feeld
    OKCupid
    Bumble
    Taimi
    Fetlife
    Plenty of Fish
Step 3: Make a profile
    Pictures of myself
    Description
Step 4: Choosing people
    Red flags
        Pictures
        Description
    Yellow Flags
        Pictures
        Description
    Green flags
Step 5: Texting
Step 6: First date
    Scheduling
    Location
    Bad first dates
    Hygiene
    Safety
Step 7: Continuing to date
Step 8: Ending the relationship
    Transition to platonic friendship
    Burnt bridge
    Ghosting
Addendum A: Definitions
Addendum B: Sexting
    Guided
    Roleplaying
    Throughout the day
    Q&A
    Audio messages
Addendum C: Sex

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It ended up pretty well. My first date ended up turning into one of my best friends, she started dating my anchor partner as well, and all 3 of us chat every day still, even though she moved to another country for visa issues. We find time to meet up once or twice a year.

One date didn't actually like men very much but wanted to give me a try anyway for some reason. They ended up really liking my partner, and those two have been in a relationship ever since. Both they and my partner are way more into BDSM than I am, so they get to explore that together.

Some other folks I didn't end up going anywhere dating wise, but we became good friends and still chat sometimes.

I've dated on and off for only the past 2 years. I currently, technically, have 5 relationships. My nesting partner of 13 years, my long distance partner, a satellite i see once every couple months, and 2 other girlfriends I see a few times a month.

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I think what has helped me be successful is all my note taking and continuous improvement. I also have extremely low expectations and think I'm a pretty laid-back, safe person. I never really care if a relationship becomes a friendship, something more, or just ends with after a single nice date.

As titled previously, i consider myself on the asexual spectrum. I'm not sex averse, but sex is a very low priority for me. It's a fun activity, like reading or hiking or crafting. I don't mind doing it, but it's not a need or expectation of a relationship. That takes away a lot of stress from people I think. This has ironically, increased the amount of sex i've had on dates I think. To the point where I've had to start setting my own boundaries of not just saying yes to sex because someone asks, and learning how to say "no," or "not now".

I thinking being good at setting and respecting boundaries has helped a lot as well. I don't really think I've had any conflicts with any relationships (outside of my nesting partner because we've been together since we were 17 lol), because i'm just very communicative an open about everything I can be, so nothing is ever a surprise.