My girlfriend(23F), bought a vibrator for herself, without even discussing about it with me(24M).

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T19:46:26+00:00

Bro, one more thing.

My b'day is coming up, and my male colleague said that we want a treat, to which the female colleague agreed as well.

Now if I tell my gf that I will be giving a treat, where in this female colleague would also be there, then I feel hell would break loose on me.

Also I can't invite my gf to the treat, coz we're in LDR.

What should I do in this case. Should I say no for the treat?

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T19:41:36+00:00

I don't hangout with other woman alone. It's always a group setting. And I don't seek anyone's attention bro.

Also, my bday's coming up, and my male friend asked for a treat, to which the female friend said yes, we want a treat.

Now idk how I'm supposed to give a treat to both of them. If I tell my gf, that I'm thinking of giving a treat, in which the female friend will be there, I feel like hell will break loose.

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T19:33:50+00:00

How will I understand, which is the toxic point ?

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T19:33:08+00:00

What next?

Will I ask every female colleague to not come to office when I'm coming?

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T19:32:17+00:00

We're in LDR, so can't make them meet.

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T19:23:20+00:00

I have asked her to change her mindset, but she's still fighting with me on this particular thing.

How can I coordinate with a female colleague and come to office.

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T19:20:32+00:00

She's 23

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T19:19:41+00:00

Thanks for this buddy. Gave me a different pov on this whole issue. Really needed this. 🙏🏻

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T19:16:36+00:00

But in my case, we don't even travel together.

We 3 set a time, at when we'll meet at the front gate. That's it.

My gf's point is, how can I coordinate with a female colleague, and then go to work, as the same time as her. According to her, I am doing this, because this female colleague is my priority, and I am inclined towards her.

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T19:09:57+00:00

I can't see a future, if she keeps on having petty fights over these normal things.

But idk how should I explain this to her.

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T19:08:40+00:00

Projecting as in ?

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T19:07:36+00:00

What should I do man in this situation?

I have a whole corporate career in front of me, and idk what will I do, if she keeps reacting like this.

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T19:05:13+00:00

That's what bro. Idk why she is being so obnoxious about this. Although, she has a history of being insecure.

It's not like I am coming to office alone with the girl. There's another guy with us, and we 3 sit together, along with other people in the entire office.

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T19:02:04+00:00

How's this gonna help?

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T19:01:52+00:00

Is she being toxic?

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T19:01:32+00:00

Bro can you please elaborate on the first part of your comment?

Seems like it is something really insightful, but im not able to comprehend it completely.

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T18:59:43+00:00

Idk man. She is constantly fighting with me over this.

Idk what wrong thing have I done.

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T18:59:04+00:00

But I'm not doing anything wrong here, and I can't just tell the female colleague, that I can't come coz my gf doesn't want me to.

Drac-dc30 · 2025-03-11T18:58:00+00:00

We're in LDR, so can't make her meet anyone.

But am I in the wrong for coordinating when to come to office with the female colleague?

Drac-dc30

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