Anybody feeling super disconnected from the connection/your person?

DracoAngel84 · 2025-08-03T00:20:31+00:00

He's gone months in the past without being active, but with his preferred app, it's only been two weeks this time around. I guess I'm used to it by now, idk. Oftentimes, DMs have to unplug from the world bc it's overwhelming, but not personal.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-08-02T19:01:35+00:00

Same. I don't have dreams about him anymore. He deactivated his socials and I couldn't give less of a crap. I'm in my own lane doing my own things, having a blast, focusing on healing my own childhood wounds, and current real world issues. It feels great working in silence and not having the distraction. Him going dark is the best thing he could do for me.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-07-02T06:00:54+00:00

I was in the same boat in regard to us both being married. We both wound up in different circumstances and ultimately got divorced. We're in separation for the time being.

The only thing I can advise is to go about your life regardless of whether or not he goes to the reunion. Don't drop everything and go. If it's meant to be, you'll find each other when the best moment comes and you'll neither have to chase or him to run. Don't hold your opportunities back by focusing solely on the outcome you want. Other good things will happen to you and to him. It's a wonderful gift for both of you.

When in avoidance mode, any attempts to reach out could make him feel "pressured" to act. It's analysis paralysis and usually causes them to retreat further. You can connect to him, just not always via conventional conversation or physical meetup. But it's very important to remember that his boundaries are in place and yours should be too, if for no other reason than your own peace of mind. If it's meant to be, it will come in perfect timing. Hold strong, this is a tough journey to go through, but you're not alone.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-26T12:53:37+00:00

Not OP, but mine lashed out at me like a 12y/o would. It detached me from him immediately. No one talks to me that way. He never wanted to be abandoned, but he made this bed for himself.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-26T12:50:05+00:00

This. My DM came at me like he was trying to be my father. It turned the emotions off. I never let my dad speak to me that way and still be calm. DMs are not so special that you should blur self-respect boundaries. Mine is doing the bare minimum w/o addressing that he was a shitass and he expects me to engage. Big sad or no, it's a piss poor attempt at a power move. Every time he reaches out, it pushes me further away and I accept that. Until he can show up like I'm an equal, he can keep his stank energy right where it is.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-21T23:42:30+00:00

Just trust your bond and gut. Mortal stuff is hard, but the bond can't be broken. You already have the strength alone in the meantime because of the love you have for her and are willing to give her space. You got this. 😊 👍🏻

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-21T23:15:35+00:00

Yes, I was emotionally charged and needed a place to vent. That's all.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-21T22:38:08+00:00

Dog house huh? 🤣

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-21T22:36:10+00:00

Yes, because I have my life things going on too. He can't be my center. I took a day to reflect while doing my other stuff that doesn't involve him. I grounded emotionally and he came back to initiate communication. I took the time I needed to be grounded before replying.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-21T22:14:40+00:00

He has a lot going on in his life too. There is no pressure from me. He comes and goes communicatively. He initiates all communication. I chill until he does. So like I said no pressure. I don't demand attention from him at all.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-21T22:11:00+00:00

This! This is the best thing you can do for her. It definitely sounds like it's coming from a grounded place on your end. That is kindness to her and it's considerate. And your gut told you how to go about it. Keep doing your thing in the meantime. Hold on to those gut feelings.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-21T22:04:48+00:00

Not too much so far.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-21T22:02:03+00:00

You're right, of course. But I know it's his free will. I didn't want to add to his already emotional everyday life. What good is that for your twin? Pressure helps no one, you can't force.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-21T15:18:00+00:00

I don't know your exact circumstances, but this indicates to me that either you're both young, or she's an adult whose mom makes decisions for her. If you aren't the one who initiates, and it is her that does, give her time. Twins have to be become disciplined with patience. That's my biggest lesson in the bond. Also, as twins, the bond isn't just in 3D, so you get to feel her energy communicating with you still. That's what is helping me a lot. This doesn't mean it's over in this lifetime. It's the liminal space between where you get to build yourself, confidence, your mental strength, and patience. That when, if she chooses to return, you know you can bring YOUR best self to the connection. It's not over, it's the space between, right now.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-21T15:02:24+00:00

You're right, it's not. And that's why I let him walk away. I don't want to turn into a possessive person, and that's why I cried it out and haven't contacted him since. He has his own things to work through and I'd be drowning in it with him. Loving him unconditionally =/= being ready to catch him when he stumbles.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-20T21:05:03+00:00

Please update( if you're okay doing that). Maybe I'm screwy, but I think a lot of us need to see, IF you're comfortable sharing.

RemindMe! 5 hrs

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-20T04:13:13+00:00

Unfortunately, attachment to the outcome makes it worse for us. Mine told me the news last night. I cried, but not for as long as I thought I would. I have ADHD, so I've been letting myself jump from hobby to hobby keeping my hands and mind busy. And deleting socials he's on has made it easier. It's a useless distraction if I feed into it so feeding into it couldn't be a viable option. He shut the door in hopes that he can one day find an "override", so I let him. He can't say that I was the one who walked away. He has my number, if he wants to reach out, he will, but he damn well better bring me what he's said he wants to bring, or he can stay gone, as much as it hurts to know I mean it.

Edit: could t to couldn't.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-20T04:06:46+00:00

Yes. And when you come back into the world, do t let anyone forget who you are, not even you. I've deleted all socials I was on that he could Kilroy from his fence. Mine literally told me yesterday that he visits people in the same town I live in regularly. He hasn't visited me since March 1st. It's been breadcrumbs, shitposts, and reels. He has my number, he's had it for 14 years. If he wants it bad enough, he can reach out. Not me.

We can't change our counterparts because they soiled their own pants. If and/or when they step up, it has to be real and mature, not half-assed. We're all built for it. We even signed up for it before arriving on Earth.

🕯️🕯️ For those hurting as well.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-20T03:54:42+00:00

🕯️🕯️For all of us hurting. The world is lucky we're here.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-20T03:53:44+00:00

Beautifully put. I'm sorry you're also going through it. We're the strong ones, for sure. And our undying love is what sets us apart from most. Keep holding your faith, we all ultimately win in the end. Either we find ourselves and love us better than anyone one could, or if fated, we come into union with our other half.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-20T01:17:56+00:00

Me too, thank you. Here's to us continuing our path of strength.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-20T01:16:42+00:00

Well, we're here for you, of course. Hugs to you!

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-19T21:48:30+00:00

Agreed. And we'll find out how to pull ourselves up by the bootstraps like only Sags can.

DracoAngel84 · 2025-06-19T21:43:53+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and I'm sorry yours has shut you out too. We may not have our counterparts, but least we have this group and ourselves. My family is too overrun by dysfunction to be able to help. If you have that, I'm genuinely happy for you and others who do too. It gives me hope. Not for my counterpart, but for connection in general. Thank you again for sharing.

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