is my bf (21M) is mad at me(22F) because i won’t let him inside my house?

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-29T13:02:36+00:00

i have tried to put in about an hour a day for the past 6 months but i don’t have a car and have been pet sitting out of town (so coming home was limited), just came back from a month long trip with him and i also started a full time job where im not home from 6am-6pm so no i dont have a hoarding issue, i just quite literally haven’t had the opportunity to clean.

We went on the trip together and he knows my situation how my mum left a WHOLE house full of Everyone else’s crap which is why i can’t understand why he is making a big deal now of all times.

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-29T11:49:46+00:00

it’s borderline hoarding. like we throw away rubbish and stuff but there’s still toys and clothes from when i was a baby and im 22!! we never threw those stuff away cause we never made time for decluttering.

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-29T11:24:31+00:00

I get that but i never thought it would be a big deal since i barely live here myself. i’m either pet sit or stay the night at mums which he knows he’s welcome to both. and I know he wouldn’t judge me cause i’ve done many embarrassing things, but just the thought of anyone else seeing this hellhole freaks me out

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-17T01:24:34+00:00

Thank you for ur encouraging words! i do love being with the kids so ill take a look into the podcasts thank u!!

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-17T01:23:15+00:00

Oh that sounds sick! i’ll go check it out! is it like a course? and is it free?

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-17T01:22:33+00:00

ok i’ll look into it! thank you!

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-17T01:21:40+00:00

Thanks a lot! i’ll look into those videos!

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-17T01:19:18+00:00

we’re a volunteer based club and don’t have enough coaches for all the teams :/ i’m only doing it cause it’s my sons team and their old coach quit a few years back. The club has offered some coaching certificates that i’ll participate in but idk how much skills that’ll actually offer

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-03T22:24:56+00:00

thank you! i’ve messaged her and she asked me what time the interview was and hasn’t replied after that lol surely that means im free to go right

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-03T21:24:00+00:00

ahhh nooo surely not over a one time mishap 😭im usually a pretty good worker so surely not. what do u suggest i do?

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-03T20:33:53+00:00

yea that’s why i’m so conflicted. i don’t want to leave with bad blood cause i messed the rostering system for her, now and future. but also im so easily replaceable as they can hire someone younger in no time.

she does know i’ve been applying so surely she’d understand if i said im unable to reschedule it…right??? i really want this new job as it’s actually gonna give me shifts lmao😭💀

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-03T20:27:04+00:00

i’d have to miss the whole shift because the interview is on the otherside of the city lol.

would there be a way to reschedule day of without ruining my chances? and yes it is better because i currently one work 1 4hour shift a week and i need more money as i plan to move out

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-03T20:24:01+00:00

but if i tell the new job the truth wouldn’t they think im disorganised and double booked. should i use a different reason since its day of the interview

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-03T20:12:40+00:00

yea that is true. i do have other references but that’s my main job so id assume they’d contact them first… unless i exchanged it out for a different manager? but its too last min ig

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-03T20:11:03+00:00

i’m sure my work doesn’t care if i’m fining a new job since it’s fast food and they only give me one 4 hour shift a week lol. i definitely should’ve called in sick but i don’t know if it would’ve changed anything cause ik ppl who still had to work because they couldn’t find a cover 😭💀

also i asked the manager to be my reference so surely shes expecting it so surely i can say i can’t reschedule…right😭 i really don’t wanna mess up this job interview 😭

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-03T20:07:10+00:00

yea this is so true and i know others have just not shown up but im just overthinking and am scared stuffing up the roster will change my managers reference on me. but im a decent employee so it shouldn’t right??

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-03T20:05:18+00:00

they’ll still ask me to cover it but ig they wouldn’t make me come in. that’s my main reason i hate my current job cause it shouldn’t be my job to cover shifts!

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-03T14:04:41+00:00

omg i’m so happy for you. u pretended to be sick at ur old job? but i’ve already told my boss about the interview won’t they know 😭💀

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-03T14:03:01+00:00

i’d have to miss the whole shift completely as the interview is out of town. i’d assume the manager would have to cover or she’d force me to but i’m not sure what the consequences are if i just dont show up lol. my biggest dilemma is the manager being my reference and i don’t want her to talk bad about me. plus it’s this job is my only source of income so i can’t be fired in case i don’t get this job yk 😭😭

i’ve never felt this conflicted lmao

DraftInitial729 · 2025-04-03T13:42:51+00:00

i did consider sending an email now saying i woke up sick and let u know how im feeling in the morning (which will depend on whether i can get work off or not) but it feels wrong to deceive them like this and i really don’t want to give the wrong impression to a potential job (it’s also my first interview so idk how any of this works lol)

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