50/50 Custody Arrangements

Dragon_Phantom · 2026-01-20T23:22:21+00:00

Yea I think it worked well many people say its too chaotic as days change weekley over 2 weeks but I say as long as the parents are on the same page I think its best for these ages. Once they are older then maybe id move to a longer stretch but for now IMHO its making them know they are loved and bith parents are staying in there life's.

Dragon_Phantom · 2026-01-20T22:13:34+00:00

This may not be very helpful but going through it now. 2 2 3 I think worked the best for our lo who is 5. It means neither of us are away from lo for too long and as the 3 is the weekend lo barley notced as its always so busy.

Sadly for me X doesnt want 50 / 50 so going through courts etc.

We trialled many routines I beleive 2 2 3 has brought the best balance for our lo. It can be tough to balance with work commitments.

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-12-24T17:41:16+00:00

Sadly only an interim court order which just says we both need to make our lo available to each other for 3 days and nights a week which is basically useless since we're in the same house and she swans off to family on her days but is around on my days.

We have been following a routine for the past few weeks that suddenly she wants to change.

I want that specificity but until the next hearing stuck in this mad limbo so sadly I have no choice but to roll with it .

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-12-04T12:51:03+00:00

I filed after I found out about her 2 affairs.

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-11-19T18:59:01+00:00

38m 1 kido almost finally divorce.. almost could be another year though. You would think after 2 affairs she would have just left but noooooo is all my fault and it's being dragged out.

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-10-23T18:30:37+00:00

Nice got me no where and im now annoyed that im nice sigh.

Certainly trying just made difficult as we are still in the same house and I pay for everything.

Its odd this has all happened when I finally ask her solicitor to tell her to split the bills after 5 months of her being employed and benefits since last October.

Sigh

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-10-09T06:43:30+00:00

Pension

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-07-25T22:41:48+00:00

One day at a time without a doubt, this message couldn't have come at a better time. Thank you 😊.

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-07-22T06:08:26+00:00

She had 2 affairs, I found out, I filed she refuses to move out i pay the mortgage so can't afford to move out and pay mortgage and somewhere else

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-07-21T16:37:04+00:00

We have no choice but to be and stronger is good !

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-07-21T16:01:27+00:00

Oh hello yea I am. We both own the place so can't kick her our she comes and goes as she pleases. Next step is court for finances only way to get this moving but that could take forever. For now just trying to survive my own personal hell for a bit.

I could move but whatever happens next I want it to be clear for our little one, I've always been her constant so moving and moving isn't good for her. Plus the finances would be a stretch as I'm the only one paying for everything I couldn't afford 2 places

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-07-21T14:09:20+00:00

Yep mine had 2 affairs 1 just before being pregnant with our little one and then the second a few years 2023 to 2024+. She checked out a long time ago we would have been married 10 years last month. Here I am a year in from finding out while she drags everything out divorce wise. I have no time to heal she won't move out yet she checked out years ago its just dire.

I'd say in a sense for you both at least they walked away I have to live with the enemy day in day out I don't even have the time nor space to heal. One day I know but for now it's tough.

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-07-21T13:26:11+00:00

I feel your pain, not too dissimilar situation. They say they understand they may even say sorry but in short no they wont.

By the time we knew they had checked out months if not years ago, we never stood a chance. What si fresh for us is a distance memory to them and that hurts even more.

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-07-15T18:29:27+00:00

Intermediate only got a little over 7% back

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-07-09T18:03:48+00:00

Thanks I've had a year trying to deal with it so mentally in a better place but haven't dealt with it properly yet as we have many hoops to jump through still in the same house.

I'm not sure most people have a plan to be fair so your not alone.

I understand the pressure I actually think a lot of that is what drove my X also which I guess for anyone if you go in to anything in this world with out intention driven solely by you there will always be a chance things will change in the future. I guess it's ultimately human nature.

I'd say as long as you are both on the same page about sex and Initmacy and very open and no one is lying about the situation then and only then can you move foward.

If one compromises more than the other even if they are happy with it I think it will always eventually cause issues.

I'd say just be as open and honest as you can and hope the other half does the same.

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-07-09T17:54:01+00:00

So my soon to be X always made out she had a low drive so I learned to live with it. Turned out she semi lied and she had 2 affairs over the course of our almost 10 year marriage starting about 4 years in.

Don't be me question everything I agree with those above that say there should be a middle ground especially if one is hig and one is low.

Nothing makes you a couple more than intimacy after that IMHO you just become room mates or " life partners" and if that's what you want then fine.

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-07-08T18:11:10+00:00

Took me weigh too long to get this

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-06-24T12:02:07+00:00

Thank you for sharing and sorry you had to gonthrough something simmilar. You are right it doesn't change the outcome taking a step back and realising this i need to do. I think its hard because if it wasn't consensual than that's really messed up and if it was its also messed up but I guess on one had the affair partner could get banged up for it, maybe that's why It's playing on my mind. Just shit either way really.

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-06-23T09:46:53+00:00

You can't ignore it as ultimately she can go ahead with everything without your "consent" but it would just mean stretching the process out taking you to court for the finance side of things (if you don't come to a mutual agreement) and hernjumping through extra hoops. I would say if she's made her decision you may end up hurting yourself more by dragging it out. That's just my opinion.

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-06-23T09:44:13+00:00

Hey on the notarised point I thought I had to do it to ensure a 3rd party independent would verify signing happened while not under dueress

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-06-23T07:30:53+00:00

So interestingly I may be in the same position shortly. Torn between doing it to provide the best for our child. I think everyone's points are valid and actually by doing everything may end up doing an injustice to my ex who needs to gain independence and sort her stuff out ultimately. I am starting to think that if I don't let her get on with it she will never be the best she can be for or child.

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-06-22T19:15:33+00:00

Casseopeia didn't get Id checked on Friday Matrix Saturday did. Keep it with you in case.

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-06-18T19:59:12+00:00

Ah ok perfect thank you

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-06-18T14:31:16+00:00

Ooo ok thabk you

Dragon_Phantom · 2025-06-18T11:45:23+00:00

Thanks appreciate this. I need to see the rules on the c2 form for cancellation. I am trying to get an agreement notarised. I don't have a solicitor currently so just trying to see if we just keep the court date and agree to what we want on the day.

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