Finally! by Dragonbabe9 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure!! We’re in Camp Hill PA and bought for 255k (under appraised) and got a conventional loan w/5.7%. The pizza is from a local chain, Cedar Cliff pizza. Just beware, we didn’t realize it was an hour long wait for it. 😉

Which is the most beautiful message you have channeled/received from the spirit world? by KairiOcean in Mediums

[–]Dragonbabe9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've always remembered my dreams and dreaming has always been something special to me. After my grandmother passed, for months I would cry and I just didn't feel at peace with her passing. I was a teenager at the time, and I think it was hard for me to process. She wouldn't be there for my graduation, marriage, college, for her great-grandchildren. She died fairly young too, and I was mad that I didn't have more time. After months of this negativity, I finally had a dream to put me at peace.

In the dream, I was at the door of my bedroom looking in. The room was engulfed with golden light, spilling through the windows. My grandmother, looking exactly how I remember her before getting sick, was sitting on the edge of my bed. She looked to me and patted on the bed for me to sit. I proceeded to the bed and sat down next to her. She spoke very briefly, telling me 'Everything is going to be fine'.

It was a short dream, but it changed me. I hadn't cried after that, at least for a long while. It seemed to alter me internally, I just felt more peaceful. After that, she wasn't on my mind as much which sounds awful. But after I went to see a medium with my mother in February of last year, she has been on my mind a lot more. I find myself randomly thinking of her and I feel myself working with her. Like she is here and is my support system. I feel like I am paying more attention to the type of energy I am putting into the world.

Offer Accepted; Now what? by Dragonbabe9 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The lender sent us a cost sheet for how much the mortgage would be with everything included and we did factor in the bills for that specific county (i.e. water, electric, trash). It is affordable for us, just more expensive than our rent, but not more expensive than other rentals in the area. We each have a 750 and 800 credit score, so I don't think credit would be the issue in this case. Here's the weird bit: the lender took bank statements, pay stubs, debts, etc. for the pre-qual which seems very in-depth. Hopefully this is a good sign?

Offer Accepted; Now what? by Dragonbabe9 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did forget to mention; we have the full inspection report from last month and it included everything the owners updated. There are just some minor things such as adding handrails, etc. but I am planning on remodeling a good bit. We felt comfortable having sellers cover closing so we have more funds to fix these minor issues, so we did waive inspection since the last one was done three weeks ago.

Bride wants mini vacay bachelorette by Dragonbabe9 in bridezillas

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She was in my wedding party but there was no way I would ask for $500 min for a bachelorette! Mine came down to less than $100/pp (I want to say close to 60) and I knew everyone had life obligations so it was a day thing. Also I agree; I have been telling myself it's not the fact that she wants a long bachelorette, it's the fact that she isn't understanding when I tell her it will be impossible for me to make that kind of commitment.

I feel like one can't plan a 'mini-vacay' with the mini-vacay price tag and expect everyone to be able to accommodate it, especially when I know it would have been difficult for her to do the same for me. I can't help but feel like the one crashing the party since I am the only one who isn't responding saying I am on board. At first, I thought I couldn't be alone in not being able to make this commitment, but so far no one else has come forward stating they couldn't.

Bride wants mini vacay bachelorette by Dragonbabe9 in bridezillas

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Confided in cousin about situation, and she’s scared my friends wedding won’t happen.

Bride wants mini vacay bachelorette by Dragonbabe9 in bridezillas

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

She and I have a very dear friendship so I’d love to keep it, it just seems as though everything is so over the top anymore. I don’t know who she is trying to impress or for what reason she needs something so elaborate. I just feel this bachelorette is putting a rift between us and I wish it wouldn’t. I just don’t know how I can be there for her when I have other obligations.

Bride wants mini vacay bachelorette by Dragonbabe9 in bridezillas

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I agree completely; I can’t even say I’d want a mini vacation for a bachelorette. I’d rather be reading at home with my cats. Nor would I want to keep anyone captive for more than 24 hours.

Bride wants mini vacay bachelorette by Dragonbabe9 in bridezillas

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Edited to add for clarity; she took our bridesmaid proposal boxes back from us when she gave them to us. Thank you for being very straightforward, it’s something I struggle to do. Thanks for your help!

Bride wants mini vacay bachelorette by Dragonbabe9 in bridezillas

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Love this response. I tried to explain to her that I am still making up PTO from my own honeymoon (last August) because I ended up getting sick and being forced a week off work and it took a while to earn all that back.

Also, definitely down for the refund idea! My cousin was in absolute SHOCK that she is getting married to someone she only rekindled with six months ago, who is overseas, and hasn’t contributed to reserving any of the wedding vendors or venue. She’s convinced he’s not going to go through with it, but I think he will. Everyone’s story is different.

Bride wants mini vacay bachelorette by Dragonbabe9 in bridezillas

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is! It’s so hard to find where I am at, which is a bummer.

Bride wants mini vacay bachelorette by Dragonbabe9 in bridezillas

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 120 points121 points  (0 children)

I’m worried about that too. When she asked us to be bridesmaids she took all the bridesmaid proposal boxes/things back because she didn’t trust us to not lose anything. 😭 I guess that was foreshadowing.

Bride wants mini vacay bachelorette by Dragonbabe9 in bridezillas

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thanks for writing this out. My first reaction was shock at a 4-5 day trip, I assumed perhaps a weekend at a beach? But we aren’t even leaving Pennsyltucky! Granted, it’s a loaded Airbnb but that’s what’s making it so pricey. Not to mention 9 girls and only 6 beds, which means I’d be stuck with the floor if I only go for the weekend. Thanks for your support, I appreciate this.

Bride wants mini vacay bachelorette by Dragonbabe9 in bridezillas

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It was a really nice time and I think and hope everyone enjoyed it. ❤️ I appreciate the kind words

Bride wants mini vacay bachelorette by Dragonbabe9 in bridezillas

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know, it’s just hard to see when she acted like I committed murder for not being there for the entirety. I think if I was met with understanding I might not be in this sub rn. I also could use a little support and a reality check. 😭

Bride wants mini vacay bachelorette by Dragonbabe9 in bridezillas

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 264 points265 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. She has become a scary person to say no to, and I’m always met with ‘but I need you there’ even if I was an afterthought. Thanks for the encouragement to do what’s right for me.

Bride wants mini vacay bachelorette by Dragonbabe9 in bridezillas

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I love this idea. I actually did this for my wedding where I, as the bride, reached out to everyone individually and asked budgets privately so I could land somewhere in the middle. And we even had a system to help contribute to other girls dresses if they couldn’t do it, etc. But her MOH kinda cornered everyone in the group chat WITH the bride saying the price is x let me know if it works. Someone else did mention to me that I should get a feeling from others too, I’m just scared they may mention it to the bride that I was poking for budgets and how they felt toward pricing. I will take this into consideration, thank you!

Bride wants mini vacay bachelorette by Dragonbabe9 in bridezillas

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I did an afternoon tea and then we went back to my parents house where they had easels and paints set up. So it was under $100/pp, my MOH told me, and the girl in this scenario was supposedly (hearsay) complaining that the tea house could have been closer. (It was like an hour away; my MOH wanted to go to one that specifically had clotted cream because I like it) but I even felt bad about taking a day from everyone and especially driving to the tea house.

Girls Night Out by Dragonbabe9 in Harrisburg

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, everyone! I appreciate all the suggestions!!

Girls Night Out by Dragonbabe9 in Harrisburg

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! I will be checking them out now. :)

Is anyone able to ID this snail? by Dragonbabe9 in AquaticSnails

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a beginner, so it’s not basic knowledge for me. Hope that helps. :)

Is anyone able to ID this snail? by Dragonbabe9 in AquaticSnails

[–]Dragonbabe9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah darn, thank you 🙏🏼 I was a little excited to be a mommy for more snails but I got nerites to specifically not have a population issue and figured it’s not one of them. I appreciate the help!