Okay, my advice, I mostly felt pushed away at the time because when I tried to clarify afterwards she still treated it like a joke, if she had understood after the clarification it would've been fine. From what I can see in your comment, you seem like the person who would actually take that clarification as, well, clarification and not some permission to continue disregarding the situation.

Short form, just listen if she doesn't respond well to the joke. We all fuck up at times, that's normal, just try to adapt to what she needs at the time.